Why he won't leave his wife for his mistress

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced because my ex dh couldn't keep it in his pants and I found out about it. He was content to have his girlfriend on the side but stay married to me and enjoy all of the conveniences of being married with a family. However, that arrangement didn't work for me and he was free to go have a life with his girlfriend. He is her problem now.

Yep I have a in-law that did this. The wife divorced him and he is still with the AP, but never married her. He tried to go back with the wife over the years, and his kids don't have the best relationship with him. It's actually kind of sad because the AP knows she wasted many years to still be in last place. They have everything separate, and she told me if he gets sick she's calling his kids. It's just a mess.

Yep. They were never #1. Women that make it a life choice to go after men already in relationships are f@cked up. Men are just as bad, but it takes a special mind of zero self-esteem whore who builds her ego by screwing guys in committed relationships. They’ve usually been that way since high school.

Wow, you sure do hate women.

Not as much as the women that call themselves sisters, feminists and eat up the metoo movement that then go out and screw these women’s husbands.

What kind of sisterhood is that? Hypocrites

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes they are acting out their own childhood pain and may not even be conscious of it.

This.

My husband’s therapist, the mistress and his friends he never said bad word about me in the 24 years we’ve been together. He was highly complimentary of me—looks, personality, career, education and as a mother and friend. In fact, mistress said she was jealous of me because he never said he was unhappy with me and I am much prettier with a rewarding career. He always has said he will never find anyone better than me. He crushed AP because he never loved her. He picked somebody old, not very attractive and with zero career. She had as f@cked up a childhood as his.

We were still having sex 3-4 times per week while he carried out this years long affair.

His dad was an abusive alcoholic that repeatedly cheated on his mother and terrorized the family.

The issues came out in middle age and manifested this way. He has 2 therapist now and becoming involved in faith—was never baptized.

ASHDHAHAAHAHAHFLSHLJ OOOOOO HAAAAA OMG I cannot stop laughing at this. So her old, dumb, uglyass non-ambitious green with envy with childhood traumas non loved ass still got to f*&ck your husband for years.

And then he found Jesus. Let the church say Amen. *Amen*

[Anonymous]

Development: And then her husband just threw her out on her ass!!! Sweet Jesus!!

They can have one another .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know several men who left their wives for their mistresses. I work with at least 3 of them who did so and know about 4 more.

Well, don't you attract winners?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced because my ex dh couldn't keep it in his pants and I found out about it. He was content to have his girlfriend on the side but stay married to me and enjoy all of the conveniences of being married with a family. However, that arrangement didn't work for me and he was free to go have a life with his girlfriend. He is her problem now.

Yep I have a in-law that did this. The wife divorced him and he is still with the AP, but never married her. He tried to go back with the wife over the years, and his kids don't have the best relationship with him. It's actually kind of sad because the AP knows she wasted many years to still be in last place. They have everything separate, and she told me if he gets sick she's calling his kids. It's just a mess.

Yep. They were never #1. Women that make it a life choice to go after men already in relationships are f@cked up. Men are just as bad, but it takes a special mind of zero self-esteem whore who builds her ego by screwing guys in committed relationships. They’ve usually been that way since high school.

Wow, you sure do hate women.

Not as much as the women that call themselves sisters, feminists and eat up the metoo movement that then go out and screw these women’s husbands.

What kind of sisterhood is that? Hypocrites

Exactly. I don't see any hate in her post, merely calling it as it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Development: And then her husband just threw her out on her ass!!! Sweet Jesus!!

They can have one another .

Did you finally tell the other DH?

Good now give us the details. Did you do it in person, or message him?

Hopefully he'll get tested as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes they are acting out their own childhood pain and may not even be conscious of it.

This.

My husband’s therapist, the mistress and his friends he never said bad word about me in the 24 years we’ve been together. He was highly complimentary of me—looks, personality, career, education and as a mother and friend. In fact, mistress said she was jealous of me because he never said he was unhappy with me and I am much prettier with a rewarding career. He always has said he will never find anyone better than me. He crushed AP because he never loved her. He picked somebody old, not very attractive and with zero career. She had as f@cked up a childhood as his.

We were still having sex 3-4 times per week while he carried out this years long affair.

His dad was an abusive alcoholic that repeatedly cheated on his mother and terrorized the family.

The issues came out in middle age and manifested this way. He has 2 therapist now and becoming involved in faith—was never baptized.

ASHDHAHAAHAHAHFLSHLJ OOOOOO HAAAAA OMG I cannot stop laughing at this. So her old, dumb, uglyass non-ambitious green with envy with childhood traumas non loved ass still got to f*&ck your husband for years.

And then he found Jesus. Let the church say Amen. *Amen*

Yuck. I'd probably be glad she took that off my hands. I sure wouldn't be having sex with him.

It's true. Even a blind squirrel finds a nut once in awhile.

[Anonymous]

I've seen the dynamic where the woman has a high-paying job and she married a guy just a little bit beneath her in terms of education and socio-economic class. She more or less holds the wallet and the guy resents her so he starts cheating at some point with women who don't remind him that he'd have nothing without the pants-wearing wife. They claim they are attracted to intelligence until they realize their wife has been in total control for the last 10, 20 years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

Oh please

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hello...Bezos did.

No he's not going to marry that joker, lol.

His wife left him otherwise he'd still be with her.

I bet his wife will find someone at least ten years older who appreciates what beautiful and youthfulness she has left while she'll appreciate him for his kindness and wisdom, and most likely, wealth and understanding of wealth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen the dynamic where the woman has a high-paying job and she married a guy just a little bit beneath her in terms of education and socio-economic class. She more or less holds the wallet and the guy resents her so he starts cheating at some point with women who don't remind him that he'd have nothing without the pants-wearing wife. They claim they are attracted to intelligence until they realize their wife has been in total control for the last 10, 20 years.

The first descriptions of the woman my husband got involved with, way before they started, was him telling me how dumb she was. He'd come home and rant about how stupid she was. I reminded him of this later.

I didn't want to be making the choices, at some point he just...stopped. Everything became paralyzing for him. I knew he wasn't going to leave me for her, though, because that would require making a decision.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

Yes but they are broken in someway. Maybe they can't have real relationships, or sustain them. Someone else's crumbs is probably better than nothing in their book.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a really bad argument especially right now. The current President of the United States and the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom both married their mistresses.

If the Queen dies in the next year, the current King of Great Britain will be added to that list.

I have wondered whether Charles would have still left Diana if she had been accommodating of the arrangement.

Probably not. She would have stayed miserable and he would have been a dick, but they would have been married.

IMO it wouldn't be worth it but for some people it is? Did you know he used to take Diana with him to Camilla's house? He'd have Diana stay downstairs while he and Camilla went off upstairs to do whatever.

Let me repeat that. He left his WIFE downstairs while he f*cked his mistress upstairs in the mistress's house.

That's an alpha right there!