Should I be concerned about my sister’s relationship or am I just being a concerned sister?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

Does everyone keep just glossing over how OP has said that the boyfriend brings her around his family? Clearly he’s not keeping her a secret.

This is informative and aligns with what I have seen in the past as well. This guy is honest and so a great deal to be learned from his post.

sounds like my brother. We never met any of his girlfriends until he met "the one" and when I met her, I understood why he wanted to marry her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

This is informative and aligns with what I have seen in the past as well. This guy is honest and so a great deal to be learned from his post.

sounds like my brother. We never met any of his girlfriends until he met "the one" and when I met her, I understood why he wanted to marry her.

Does everyone keep just glossing over how OP has said that the boyfriend brings her around his family? Clearly he’s not keeping her a secret.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

This is informative and aligns with what I have seen in the past as well. This guy is honest and so a great deal to be learned from his post.

sounds like my brother. We never met any of his girlfriends until he met "the one" and when I met her, I understood why he wanted to marry her.

Does everyone keep just glossing over how OP has said that the boyfriend brings her around his family? Clearly he’s not keeping her a secret.

He sounds like a man child. Either way he’s not planning to propose.

[Anonymous]

Does everyone keep just glossing over how OP has said that the boyfriend brings her around his family? Clearly he’s not keeping her a secret.

No man worth marrying (or planning to get married) would stay out until 6 am dancing with other women with a newborn at home and not even contact his "fiance"..

This is not about a night out. This is about total disrespect and definitely about keeping his options open while hers have narrowed. She needs to wake up and smell the coffee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Does everyone keep just glossing over how OP has said that the boyfriend brings her around his family? Clearly he’s not keeping her a secret.

No man worth marrying (or planning to get married) would stay out until 6 am dancing with other women with a newborn at home and not even contact his "fiance"..

This is not about a night out. This is about total disrespect and definitely about keeping his options open while hers have narrowed. She needs to wake up and smell the coffee.

Here's the thing. OP's sister WAS gorgeous and had high social market value PRE-kid. But now she's got a kid, and she'll never get back her pre-baby body.

Meanwhile his career is climbing upward as he's generating resources and growing into his looks, like any 20-something going into his early 30s. So he's got a rising SMV while hers is declining. So of course he's going to get interest, and he has to explore that to be sure he really wants to be with OP's sister even as she declines.

So it comes down to this: Is OP special enough to put a ring on it? That's something for OP's sister to confront and to be sure she's always improving herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Does everyone keep just glossing over how OP has said that the boyfriend brings her around his family? Clearly he’s not keeping her a secret.

No man worth marrying (or planning to get married) would stay out until 6 am dancing with other women with a newborn at home and not even contact his "fiance"..

This is not about a night out. This is about total disrespect and definitely about keeping his options open while hers have narrowed. She needs to wake up and smell the coffee.

Here's the thing. OP's sister WAS gorgeous and had high social market value PRE-kid. But now she's got a kid, and she'll never get back her pre-baby body.

Meanwhile his career is climbing upward as he's generating resources and growing into his looks, like any 20-something going into his early 30s. So he's got a rising SMV while hers is declining. So of course he's going to get interest, and he has to explore that to be sure he really wants to be with OP's sister even as she declines.

So it comes down to this: Is OP special enough to put a ring on it? That's something for OP's sister to confront and to be sure she's always improving herself.

This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Does everyone keep just glossing over how OP has said that the boyfriend brings her around his family? Clearly he’s not keeping her a secret.

No man worth marrying (or planning to get married) would stay out until 6 am dancing with other women with a newborn at home and not even contact his "fiance"..

This is not about a night out. This is about total disrespect and definitely about keeping his options open while hers have narrowed. She needs to wake up and smell the coffee.

Here's the thing. OP's sister WAS gorgeous and had high social market value PRE-kid. But now she's got a kid, and she'll never get back her pre-baby body.

Meanwhile his career is climbing upward as he's generating resources and growing into his looks, like any 20-something going into his early 30s. So he's got a rising SMV while hers is declining. So of course he's going to get interest, and he has to explore that to be sure he really wants to be with OP's sister even as she declines.

So it comes down to this: Is OP special enough to put a ring on it? That's something for OP's sister to confront and to be sure she's always improving herself.

This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read...

No young, never-married woman wants to be with a man who already has a baby and made zero effort to be a good father by committing to the mother. He’s a selfish prick with zero value IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Does everyone keep just glossing over how OP has said that the boyfriend brings her around his family? Clearly he’s not keeping her a secret.

No man worth marrying (or planning to get married) would stay out until 6 am dancing with other women with a newborn at home and not even contact his "fiance"..

This is not about a night out. This is about total disrespect and definitely about keeping his options open while hers have narrowed. She needs to wake up and smell the coffee.

Here's the thing. OP's sister WAS gorgeous and had high social market value PRE-kid. But now she's got a kid, and she'll never get back her pre-baby body.

Meanwhile his career is climbing upward as he's generating resources and growing into his looks, like any 20-something going into his early 30s. So he's got a rising SMV while hers is declining. So of course he's going to get interest, and he has to explore that to be sure he really wants to be with OP's sister even as she declines.

So it comes down to this: Is OP special enough to put a ring on it? That's something for OP's sister to confront and to be sure she's always improving herself.

This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read...

No young, never-married woman wants to be with a man who already has a baby and made zero effort to be a good father by committing to the mother. He’s a selfish prick with zero value IMO.

So just because you have a baby with someone you HAVE to marry them?