Should I be concerned about my sister’s relationship or am I just being a concerned sister?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

This is informative and aligns with what I have seen in the past as well. This guy is honest and so a great deal to be learned from his post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

She’s met his family. She and the baby actually stayed at his mothers house Xmas eve. Doesn’t this information change things for you?

[Anonymous]

Update:

He went out again...didn’t come home until 6 am, didn’t call her once to even let her know he was still going to be out. She is friends on social media with this his friend who was out with him as well and saw videos of her boyfriend dancing with other women.

I know you all said I should mind my own business but she called me really upset. I was pretty angry for her for stressing her out with a new born, but I still held my tongue. He clearly still has some growing up to do :/

[Anonymous]

Held your tongue? This is your sister, id be pissed if my sister knew something and didn’t tell me. Regardless whether it’s good or bad, we both would want to know!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This guy will unfortunately be engaged to some other unlucky woman in six months. She needs to kick him to the curb before he does it to her. At the very least, she should be on birth control.

This!

Wilmer Valderama, the actor, was with Demi Lavoto for 6 years. He’s now engaged to someone else today-it didn’t take 6 years. Men are notorious for dating women for years, turn around and marry someone else 6 months later.

This
Saw it happen twice
One 7 year relationship
One 5 year relationship

[Anonymous]

yeah, he is not committed in his mind.

hard to give you advice though, without knowing your relationship with your sister.

Mostly support her. Listen for signs that she might sense the writing on the wall. You can ASK if she thinks their absence on his FB page is odd. But, then she gets to live her life and you might well have to pick up the pieces.

Remember, not marrying someone like that is likely the happy ending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

Another man here; and this guy is spot on. He's keeping his options open/immature. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Held your tongue? This is your sister, id be pissed if my sister knew something and didn’t tell me. Regardless whether it’s good or bad, we both would want to know!

She came to me with this info. I held my tongue with my concerns. She didn’t ask what I thought about him or their situation so it wasn’t my place to give my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update:

He went out again...didn’t come home until 6 am, didn’t call her once to even let her know he was still going to be out. She is friends on social media with this his friend who was out with him as well and saw videos of her boyfriend dancing with other women.

I know you all said I should mind my own business but she called me really upset. I was pretty angry for her for stressing her out with a new born, but I still held my tongue. He clearly still has some growing up to do :/

Does she live close to you? Maybe invite her to stay with you for a few days. If I were you, I don't think I would hold my tongue entirely. This guy is a jerk and bad news. The goal should be for your sister to leave him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

But he isn’t keeping her hidden from his family?

Another man here; and this guy is spot on. He's keeping his options open/immature. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

Another man here; and this guy is spot on. He's keeping his options open/immature. Sorry.

But he isn’t keeping her hidden from his family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update:

He went out again...didn’t come home until 6 am, didn’t call her once to even let her know he was still going to be out. She is friends on social media with this his friend who was out with him as well and saw videos of her boyfriend dancing with other women.

I know you all said I should mind my own business but she called me really upset. I was pretty angry for her for stressing her out with a new born, but I still held my tongue. He clearly still has some growing up to do :/

Does she live close to you? Maybe invite her to stay with you for a few days. If I were you, I don't think I would hold my tongue entirely. This guy is a jerk and bad news. The goal should be for your sister to leave him.

How is he a jerk? A parent isn’t allowed to go out for one night now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update:

He went out again...didn’t come home until 6 am, didn’t call her once to even let her know he was still going to be out. She is friends on social media with this his friend who was out with him as well and saw videos of her boyfriend dancing with other women.

I know you all said I should mind my own business but she called me really upset. I was pretty angry for her for stressing her out with a new born, but I still held my tongue. He clearly still has some growing up to do :/

Does she live close to you? Maybe invite her to stay with you for a few days. If I were you, I don't think I would hold my tongue entirely. This guy is a jerk and bad news. The goal should be for your sister to leave him.

How is he a jerk? A parent isn’t allowed to go out for one night now?

Exactly.

They’re just saying this because he’s a man. If a woman had gone out for a night they’d defend her and say it was necessary and that she needed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update:

He went out again...didn’t come home until 6 am, didn’t call her once to even let her know he was still going to be out. She is friends on social media with this his friend who was out with him as well and saw videos of her boyfriend dancing with other women.

I know you all said I should mind my own business but she called me really upset. I was pretty angry for her for stressing her out with a new born, but I still held my tongue. He clearly still has some growing up to do :/

Does she live close to you? Maybe invite her to stay with you for a few days. If I were you, I don't think I would hold my tongue entirely. This guy is a jerk and bad news. The goal should be for your sister to leave him.

How is he a jerk? A parent isn’t allowed to go out for one night now?

Exactly.

They’re just saying this because he’s a man. If a woman had gone out for a night they’d defend her and say it was necessary and that she needed it.

He's not a man. He's an overgrown child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I will chime I with an anecdote.

I dated a girl from 26-29. I had no intention of marrying her. In fact, I knew I wouldn't. But, she loved me.

I never introduced her to any of my family- relatively easy as they were 1000 miles away, but on 'our' second Christmas her best friend apparently told her I was odd for keeping her in the dark. She asked about it and I lied, saying I wasn't close with my family. She believed me.

The next contract I was on was the most gorgeous interesting, kind, funny woman ever. I fell in love with her in an afternoon. I ghosted the first girl over a month or two.

We have been married 11 years now and have two daughters. My family met her at my Dad's 60th which was two months after we met.

Point being- men do what they want to do.

This guy doesn't want your sister or the kid. That's why he's keeping it quiet.

This is informative and aligns with what I have seen in the past as well. This guy is honest and so a great deal to be learned from his post.

sounds like my brother. We never met any of his girlfriends until he met "the one" and when I met her, I understood why he wanted to marry her.