Am I not supposed to talk to other people's kids at aftercare?

[Anonymous]

God, she sounds like the annoying playground mother that never lets kids resolve things on their own, but has to continually insert herself.

I can picture in my mind 3 annoying moms from my kids elementary years that would try and talk to 5th graders like they were preschoolers.

Laws of the playground. Tell your kid not to play with them if they aren’t nice, but don’t go lecturing everyone at after care. Not your business, talk to staff.

[Anonymous]

Are you not supposed to talk to other people's kids at aftercare? No. No, that is not the general rule.

You are just not supposed to talk to other people's kids in the way that you did.

[Anonymous]

The other mom already made it clear she didn't like the OP -- that right there is significant to me. The other mom can't even be friendly to the parent of her child's friend? She can't even be bothered to fake it, just to be polite? The other mom has the problem, not OP. We need less people like her in society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you not supposed to talk to other people's kids at aftercare? No. No, that is not the general rule.

You are just not supposed to talk to other people's kids in the way that you did.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - wow, I am amazed about ALL this sensitivity about talking to kids in a NICE, constructive way. But it's ok for you guys to be nasty as heck on this forum.

I’m a very friendly mom and often say hello to both parents and kids and drop off and pick up.

I would be really annoyed if you were correcting my kid in a constructive friendly way. I wouldn’t like you either from what you describe and the way you write. If you are a fraction as annoying as you write, I would avoid you too and may even complain about you talking to my kid.

This has never happened to me but gosh I’m getting upset even thinking about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't control who talks to your kids. We have a grouchy old neighbor who is mean to the kids and tells them to stop playing when they are out front being loud (yet in the range of normal kid behavior, if you like kids). Some of the other parents tell their kids to ignore her. I tell my kids to listen to her and do what she says. She's old, she's our neighbor, and I don't want them continuing to do something they know is bothering someone else.

Not the end of the world. Your kids need to learn to deal with all kinds of people without falling into pieces like delicate flowers.

They are are in a controlled setting, not a public park. I absolutely can and will tell aftercare to keep strange adults away from my kids. It’s literally what I’m paying them for.

She's also a parent of kids at after care. How controlling can you be, PP, to think a fellow parent AT THE SAME AFTERCARE is a stranger? Very sad. You are the weird one to go through life with an attitude like that. Very, very weird.

They don’t know her. By definition, she is still a stranger. No, I don’t teach kids to talk to or listen to random strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't control who talks to your kids. We have a grouchy old neighbor who is mean to the kids and tells them to stop playing when they are out front being loud (yet in the range of normal kid behavior, if you like kids). Some of the other parents tell their kids to ignore her. I tell my kids to listen to her and do what she says. She's old, she's our neighbor, and I don't want them continuing to do something they know is bothering someone else.

Not the end of the world. Your kids need to learn to deal with all kinds of people without falling into pieces like delicate flowers.

They are are in a controlled setting, not a public park. I absolutely can and will tell aftercare to keep strange adults away from my kids. It’s literally what I’m paying them for.

She's also a parent of kids at after care. How controlling can you be, PP, to think a fellow parent AT THE SAME AFTERCARE is a stranger? Very sad. You are the weird one to go through life with an attitude like that. Very, very weird.

They don’t know her. By definition, she is still a stranger. No, I don’t teach kids to talk to or listen to random strangers.

She is not a random stranger. Good God your world must be very small.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other mom already made it clear she didn't like the OP -- that right there is significant to me. The other mom can't even be friendly to the parent of her child's friend? She can't even be bothered to fake it, just to be polite? The other mom has the problem, not OP. We need less people like her in society.

It may say more about OP than the other mom. OP may be known to be a major PIA. (I’m guessing she is).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - wow, I am amazed about ALL this sensitivity about talking to kids in a NICE, constructive way. But it's ok for you guys to be nasty as heck on this forum.

I’m a very friendly mom and often say hello to both parents and kids and drop off and pick up.

I would be really annoyed if you were correcting my kid in a constructive friendly way. I wouldn’t like you either from what you describe and the way you write. If you are a fraction as annoying as you write, I would avoid you too and may even complain about you talking to my kid.

This has never happened to me but gosh I’m getting upset even thinking about it.

+100

I have known a few moms like OP. Their snowflakes were never in the wrong, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other mom already made it clear she didn't like the OP -- that right there is significant to me. The other mom can't even be friendly to the parent of her child's friend? She can't even be bothered to fake it, just to be polite? The other mom has the problem, not OP. We need less people like her in society.

It may say more about OP than the other mom. OP may be known to be a major PIA. (I’m guessing she is).

So you keep saying. I'm on team OP. OP your behavior would be normal anywhere but in NW dc and close-in Bethesda.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other mom already made it clear she didn't like the OP -- that right there is significant to me. The other mom can't even be friendly to the parent of her child's friend? She can't even be bothered to fake it, just to be polite? The other mom has the problem, not OP. We need less people like her in society.

It may say more about OP than the other mom. OP may be known to be a major PIA. (I’m guessing she is).

So you keep saying. I'm on team OP. OP your behavior would be normal anywhere but in NW dc and close-in Bethesda.

It’s not welcome in N. Arlington either.

Team Unknown Non-Helicopter Mom

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like Renata on Big Little Lies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other mom already made it clear she didn't like the OP -- that right there is significant to me. The other mom can't even be friendly to the parent of her child's friend? She can't even be bothered to fake it, just to be polite? The other mom has the problem, not OP. We need less people like her in society.

It may say more about OP than the other mom. OP may be known to be a major PIA. (I’m guessing she is).

So you keep saying. I'm on team OP. OP your behavior would be normal anywhere but in NW dc and close-in Bethesda.

It’s not welcome in N. Arlington either.

Team Unknown Non-Helicopter Mom

Random stranger, why are you even on this thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other mom already made it clear she didn't like the OP -- that right there is significant to me. The other mom can't even be friendly to the parent of her child's friend? She can't even be bothered to fake it, just to be polite? The other mom has the problem, not OP. We need less people like her in society.

It may say more about OP than the other mom. OP may be known to be a major PIA. (I’m guessing she is).

So you keep saying. I'm on team OP. OP your behavior would be normal anywhere but in NW dc and close-in Bethesda.

It’s not welcome in N. Arlington either.

Team Unknown Non-Helicopter Mom

A non-helicopter mom would not be so upset that her kids were talking to another kid's mom. Considering the mother of a classmate to be a random stranger is helicopter parenting taken to an extreme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't control who talks to your kids. We have a grouchy old neighbor who is mean to the kids and tells them to stop playing when they are out front being loud (yet in the range of normal kid behavior, if you like kids). Some of the other parents tell their kids to ignore her. I tell my kids to listen to her and do what she says. She's old, she's our neighbor, and I don't want them continuing to do something they know is bothering someone else.

Not the end of the world. Your kids need to learn to deal with all kinds of people without falling into pieces like delicate flowers.

They are are in a controlled setting, not a public park. I absolutely can and will tell aftercare to keep strange adults away from my kids. It’s literally what I’m paying them for.

She's also a parent of kids at after care. How controlling can you be, PP, to think a fellow parent AT THE SAME AFTERCARE is a stranger? Very sad. You are the weird one to go through life with an attitude like that. Very, very weird.

I didn’t say stranger, I said strange. And lecturing other people’s kids to wait up for your younger kid is strange. And inappropriate. I would tell my kids to actively avoid this lady’s kids.