Sister is a SAHM and her workday social media posting drives me up a wall. Confront or leave alone?

[Anonymous]

Just to clarify, if she were not on FB and not complaining about money, you’d be fine with this OP? Or you’d be judging her anyway?

[Anonymous]

Leave it alone unless:

1) she acts holier than thou with you b/c you work outside of the home while she "spends her time taking care of the house and kids"

2) if she complains too much about money to you

My sister is the same way. 4 kids, under-employed husband--yet she is on facebook and social media all day because she is soooooooo busy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

You are bizarrely enmeshed with your family of origin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

Clearly you spend a lot of time on social media

[Anonymous]

It's embarrassing for any adult to act like this, let alone an unemployed broke parent who has no excuse for not having a part-time job (OP said the kids are all in 1st grade or higher).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

What? I have siblings and I have no clue if they post on social media or not nor would I ever try to censor what they say about their own lives. If she is complaining about money (or the lack thereof) I would think that her husband would be the only one with any reason to ask her to stop posting about that.

Obviously, simply getting a job is not going to be enough to keep her off of social meeting - you are a case in point. Clearly work doesn't keep you off of social media, why do you think that working would keep your sister off of social media?

If you don't want to read her posts, don't read them. Done.

[Anonymous]

This is like the parable of the prodigal son. OP feels like the under-recognized, but constantly working older sibling.

[Anonymous]

This thread is full of trolls. Nobody likes attention-craving desperate SAHMs like the OP describes. And nobody likes layabouts who sit on their ass all day. Once all the kids are in school, if your hubby isn't rich, you need to get off your ass, get off facebook, and go generate some quid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of trolls. Nobody likes attention-craving desperate SAHMs like the OP describes. And nobody likes layabouts who sit on their ass all day. Once all the kids are in school, if your hubby isn't rich, you need to get off your ass, get off facebook, and go generate some quid.

And this is so not any of your business DP. If a woman decides to SAH that is entirely between her and her husband and whether or not they, as a couple, see value to her being at home. Not your monkeys, not your circus - butt out!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the sister made a decision a long time ago that whatever her nasty older sister does she's going to do the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

MYOB

[Anonymous]

it's a poor reflection on our extended family

You just revealed YOUR low class, Op.

You are not a clan. You are individuals. You are/should be (enough) independent from each other that this does not bother you, it wouldn't occur to you to be bothered by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sits on her rump all day with her kids all in school. She's addicted to social media, posting cliche motivation mom quotes and kids sports practices all day fishing for likes and attagirls. They have no 529 for their kids. She constantly complains about money. Am I an awful sister for wanting to confront her? Our two brothers are passive and agree with me about her embarrassing herself (and our extended family, to be honest) but they refuse to say anything because they don't want to ruffle feathers. Her laziness and attention-craving drives me up a wall. At the very least get off social media while we're all at work, and maybe, just maybe consider getting a damn job?

*vent over*

There's a mute function for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

+100
And OP, why are YOU on social media if you're "working" all day? Kind of funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of trolls. Nobody likes attention-craving desperate SAHMs like the OP describes. And nobody likes layabouts who sit on their ass all day. Once all the kids are in school, if your hubby isn't rich, you need to get off your ass, get off facebook, and go generate some quid.

Wow, speaking of trolls... surely there's a rock you could climb under?