Sister is a SAHM and her workday social media posting drives me up a wall. Confront or leave alone?

[Anonymous]

She sits on her rump all day with her kids all in school. She's addicted to social media, posting cliche motivation mom quotes and kids sports practices all day fishing for likes and attagirls. They have no 529 for their kids. She constantly complains about money. Am I an awful sister for wanting to confront her? Our two brothers are passive and agree with me about her embarrassing herself (and our extended family, to be honest) but they refuse to say anything because they don't want to ruffle feathers. Her laziness and attention-craving drives me up a wall. At the very least get off social media while we're all at work, and maybe, just maybe consider getting a damn job?

*vent over*

[Anonymous]

You do not have to listen to her complaints. Do not discuss her with your brothers. Mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

MYOB. Hide her posts if they bother you. I hide a lot of people on social media. Ignore her when she complains about $ etc.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care that she is posting while everyone else is working... why does that bother you? But, if she complains about not having enough money then she should definitely get a part time job she can work while kids are at school

[Anonymous]

"Confront"?

Wow. Check yourself. You are not God, or in charge of her in anyway. Check yourself. It's her life to live--and mess up, if she must.

No good will come of you butting in. MYOB unless directly *asked* for input.

[Anonymous]

Turn off notifications for her.

My cousin’s DD is a young mom fighting on SM with her on again, off again partner/baby daddy. I have her on mute. Once a month, I look at her feed to see her toddler’s photos. Then I ignore her again for 30 days.

[Anonymous]

You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care that she is posting while everyone else is working... why does that bother you? But, if she complains about not having enough money then she should definitely get a part time job she can work while kids are at school

I'm assuming she lacks self awareness because nobody has told her she's making an ass of herself? I feel like if all of us siblings tell her to get it together maybe it will make her wake up. It's so pathetic to fish for attention all day and let the world know you're sitting on your butt – then have the nerve to complain about your family being too broke for vacation, too broke to buy a nicer house, too broke to fund a 529.

[Anonymous]

First, myob.

Second, I’m sure you won’t get this, but being a SAHM can actually be quite hard. It’s very isolating (hence the social media) and not having money is not fun. The same set of pros and cons that apply to you working vs not working apply to her too, but — for whatever reason — she cane down on the other side of the equation. That doesn’t make it idyllic. And it may be that she doesn’t see a path to get from where she is to working, while still managing the household. Anyway, you might seek to be a little more understanding rather than your current combo of superior and envious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care that she is posting while everyone else is working... why does that bother you? But, if she complains about not having enough money then she should definitely get a part time job she can work while kids are at school

I'm assuming she lacks self awareness because nobody has told her she's making an ass of herself? I feel like if all of us siblings tell her to get it together maybe it will make her wake up. It's so pathetic to fish for attention all day and let the world know you're sitting on your butt – then have the nerve to complain about your family being too broke for vacation, too broke to buy a nicer house, too broke to fund a 529.

Unfollow her. She is your not problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, myob.

Second, I’m sure you won’t get this, but being a SAHM can actually be quite hard. It’s very isolating (hence the social media) and not having money is not fun. The same set of pros and cons that apply to you working vs not working apply to her too, but — for whatever reason — she cane down on the other side of the equation. That doesn’t make it idyllic. And it may be that she doesn’t see a path to get from where she is to working, while still managing the household. Anyway, you might seek to be a little more understanding rather than your current combo of superior and envious.

I'm genuinely empathetic to her boredom and isolation. I'm not being mean, how is it not obvious to her that the kids are all in school now, she's bored with nothing to do, so she needs to go back to work? When I say "confront" I mean like we need to get her to wake up and realize she needs a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care that she is posting while everyone else is working... why does that bother you? But, if she complains about not having enough money then she should definitely get a part time job she can work while kids are at school

And what are those magical, readily-available part-time jobs that happen only during school hours? If such exists, no doubt each opening gets a billion applicants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

Seriously? People do not care us much as you think they do.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are way out in front on this. As in when the shit hits the fan do not look for anyone to support you. You may be all worked up about it and everyone just agrees with you because you are “crazy” about this issue.