Sister is a SAHM and her workday social media posting drives me up a wall. Confront or leave alone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here: OP, the purpose of your rant is to anonymously get people to listen to you. You're responding so I assume that you're getting something out of this whole exchange.

How is that any different than what your sister is doing on Facebook? At lease she has to courage to use her name in her posts.

+1

And how about trying to be a nice sister and ask her how things are going? Maybe a real convo will lead to her revealing that she feels isolated, sad, depressed. Maybe you’ll be able to gently push her to examine how she spends her time. Sounds like she needs a sister not a judge.

It's family, family is frank with each other, shouldn't dance around issues. If I was embarrassing myself or doing something stupid I'd hope my siblings would say something!

[Anonymous]

There isn't anything to "confront" about in my book. You're clearly on social media a fair amount as well, if you see all of these posts by her. Just unplug yourself- or, block her if you can't unplug yourself- and realize it's none of your business how frequently she uses social media and has nothing to do with her being a SAHM. The most prolific FB poster I know is a working mom who posts like 10x during her workday and another 10x after her kids go to bed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

Follow your own advice! If you weren't on it, you wouldn't see her posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here: OP, the purpose of your rant is to anonymously get people to listen to you. You're responding so I assume that you're getting something out of this whole exchange.

How is that any different than what your sister is doing on Facebook? At lease she has to courage to use her name in her posts.

+1

And how about trying to be a nice sister and ask her how things are going? Maybe a real convo will lead to her revealing that she feels isolated, sad, depressed. Maybe you’ll be able to gently push her to examine how she spends her time. Sounds like she needs a sister not a judge.

It's family, family is frank with each other, shouldn't dance around issues. If I was embarrassing myself or doing something stupid I'd hope my siblings would say something!

DP - She’s not “embarrassing herself”! That’s just your bizarre judgement, OP. And she won’t consider you family for long with your attitude.

[Anonymous]

This must a troll. No one could be this obtuse.

[Anonymous]

No. Stop following.

[Anonymous]

If she complains about money, then sure, suggest she get a job. But if her FB posts are bugging you, then learn how to unfollow her or use the snooze setting.

[Anonymous]

Are you her older sibling, op? You seem oddly controlling.

[Anonymous]

Someone's jelly

[Anonymous]

Either a troll or a super jealous sibling with an overactive superego. OP, what someone else does doesn’t reflect on you. What does reflect on you is your judgmental attitude and insistence that you know best. So what if she’s embarrassing herself as a way to pass the time and get a dopamine hit. It’s not a crime. You say “dopamine hit” the way someone else might say “crack cocaine.” She’s not hurting anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB. Hide her posts if they bother you. I hide a lot of people on social media. Ignore her when she complains about $ etc.

Just unfollow her on facebook. not hard

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

You need to get a life. Leave your sister alone. She is an adult and can do as she pleases.

[Anonymous]

Don't you have a job? Why are you seeing your sister's social media posts all day? Maybe take your own advice and back away from the Facebook? Hide her posts if it bothers you so much. Easy fix, problem solved, zero hurt feelings. Win-win.

Her financial situation is between her and her husband. Unless she specifically asks for your advice, just leave it alone. Maybe she's just a complainer. If she got a job, she'd complain about that.

Basically, I don't see how this affects you in any way whatsoever, which usually means you should MYOB.

LOLing at it "reflecting badly on your extended family" though. Seriously, I've had a rough day - needed that laugh. So thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This must a troll. No one could be this obtuse.

Indeed.

[Anonymous]

You sound jealous. Ignore her posts. If you are at work and busy how do you know she's posting all day? Why doesn't bother you?