Sister is a SAHM and her workday social media posting drives me up a wall. Confront or leave alone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone's jelly

Yep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

Nobody notices your extended family, no one is watching and no one cares as much as you care. People have their own lives to deal with, they aren't going to be worried about yours. Like others have said turn off your notifications and if she complains about money I would reply with "Oh have you thought about a part time job if money is tight".

[Anonymous]

Not sure what it is, but you sound envious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

Nobody notices your extended family, no one is watching and no one cares as much as you care. People have their own lives to deal with, they aren't going to be worried about yours. Like others have said turn off your notifications and if she complains about money I would reply with "Oh have you thought about a part time job if money is tight".

Sorry sweetie, everyone notices the facebook oversharers, especially those unemployed folks who share and post during the work day. It's excusable if you're a retired pensioner, it's not okay if you're in your working prime and you're not at all wealthy enough to be a SAHM. It's honestly pathetic. Plus she leans on our parents to cover certain extra for the kids. Our folks aren't that well off. And none of us ask for financial help – we work.

[Anonymous]

OP you just sound incredibly hateful. The fact you’re harping in on her as a SAHM when my guess is you really don’t know sh!t about what’s really going on in her personal life makes you look terrible. You’re being terrible.

[Anonymous]

Get off social media, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Sorry sweetie, everyone notices the facebook oversharers, especially those unemployed folks who share and post during the work day. It's excusable if you're a retired pensioner, it's not okay if you're in you're working prime and you're not at all wealthy enough to be a SAHM. It's honestly pathetic. Plus she leans on our parents to cover certain extra for the kids. Our folks aren't that well off. And none of us ask for financial help – we work.

Ahhh, so that's the root of the issue. You're mad or jealous that her family and kids are getting money you think should be yours or will be yours in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get off social media, OP.

I'm rarely on it. Rare times I am I can see her old posts, obviously, and when they were posted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

You’re either a troll or lacking self awareness is a family trait. As all the pp said, this is NONE of your business. I recommend you take your own advice and get off social media. It might help you gain perspective.

[Anonymous]

If they are paying their bills and you are not, why do you care how she spends her time? You sound nuts and jealous.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're a little jealous. Just ignore her social media, and if she complains, tell her why it annoys you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are way too wrapped up in her life choices, and I am a working mom. it is none of your business at all.

She's our sibling, it's a poor reflection on our extended family. It's trashy. Get off social media, at least. And separately, get a freaking job.

Nobody notices your extended family, no one is watching and no one cares as much as you care. People have their own lives to deal with, they aren't going to be worried about yours. Like others have said turn off your notifications and if she complains about money I would reply with "Oh have you thought about a part time job if money is tight".

Sorry sweetie, everyone notices the facebook oversharers, especially those unemployed folks who share and post during the work day. It's excusable if you're a retired pensioner, it's not okay if you're in your working prime and you're not at all wealthy enough to be a SAHM. It's honestly pathetic. Plus she leans on our parents to cover certain extra for the kids. Our folks aren't that well off. And none of us ask for financial help – we work.

I mean you're serial posting on DCUM on a Friday night so you aren't really the prime example of "not pathetic"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get off social media, OP.

I'm rarely on it. Rare times I am I can see her old posts, obviously, and when they were posted.

If you’re on it enough that it spurned this post then, for you, it’s too much. Quit it altogether and watch your life improve dramatically.

[Anonymous]

Why are you on social media at work? Why is it okay for everyone else to be on social media, but not her? I'm a SAHM with kids in school and I don't sit on my rump all day. I'm in better shape than when I worked. There is no law saying people have to work. The way I see it, you can either spend your time for a company's goals, or for your own family's goals. She's investing in her own family by working directly at home. Are you jealous she has free time and you don't?

[Anonymous]

I’m in the minority BUT I’d say something.

My sister and I tend to be very blunt with each other, to the point that she has told me now they you’re a mom, your kid is more important it’s not about you anymore etc

But I also give it back to her. So this wouldn’t be an issue. We’re confrontational but we also resolve issues.