Wife went on a cooking strike

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife is putting you on notice OP. My DH had an expectation for me to work full time, take care of the house and the kids. I do all the grocery shopping (to maintain a budget), prep some meals, pay all the bills on time (I love
my credit score too much) and I clean because I don’t want to live like a pig. Here is what I don’t do...my husband’s laundry, clean his office, and clean his closet/sink. When my husband does not have socks or t-shirt to wear, that is not my problem. I make it very clear to him that I am not his personal maid. If he leaves his dishes on the kitchen counter for me to clean up. I tell him “Is there a reason these dishes left for me to clean up? Do I look like a f-ing maid to you?” If the dishes stay on the counter for more than a day, I drop them on the floor in front of him. If they break, it is not my problem and he can clean them up. I also stopped having sex with my DH, because he acts like an entitled ass most of the time. He can go and j**k off somewhere. I don’t give a damn. If I would be you, I would start being very nice to your wife and do your part/pitch in. My DH is getting there, but I had to resort to an irregular warfare. Happy wife, happy life.

You sound horrible. Are you mentally stable or do you have issues?

Sounds like her issue is that her DH was a man/child who expected a mommy to do all his chores for him even though she also works full time.

I can't imagine NOT going my husband's laundry. How does it work ? You throw his laundry in a separate pile while doing yours? When he does projects around the house, does he slpit them in half as well?

Doubt OP does “projects around the house”. He just goes to work and does nothing at home. If he did stuff around the house, his wife wouldn’t be on strike.

My teenagers do their own laundry as does their dad. Grow ups should be able to do laundry on their own.

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What is she doing with her time if she doesn’t work and is now foregoing household responsibilities? Curious because I work and do all of those things so I know a SAHM can certainly fit it into the busiest of schedules.

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Anonymous wrote:What is she doing with her time if she doesn’t work and is now foregoing household responsibilities? Curious because I work and do all of those things so I know a SAHM can certainly fit it into the busiest of schedules.

Of course she CAN. So could he, if she dropped dead.

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You guys should swap roles. She can go out and try to be a sole provider while you raise the kid and do the housework.

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Anonymous wrote:Color me out of touch and old fashioned, but I think your wife should absolutely be doing those things.

I’m divorced now, but I had a really raw deal in my marriage. We both worked full time, but I did 100% of the housework and most of the child rearing— 4 kids. My husband was relatively easy to leave, because I wasnt reaping a benifit by being with him.

I’d be happy to have you as a husband. Too easy

I left after 29 years. It is a blessing to be on my own. My DW was unable to take care of herself. I worked and took care of kids while she worked downtown. If kids were sick I took care of them. If drs appointment I took them. And she made half of what I made but she wanted career. Now she has been it. Alone and fat and fifty. I have had more sex it last 6 months than previous 10 years. Leave her as soon as you can, it gets much better

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You sound like an ass, OP. It should be 50/50 when you’re home, so yes, you need to chip in around the house. Caring for a child is more than a full time job, research backs this up.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like an ass, OP. It should be 50/50 when you’re home, so yes, you need to chip in around the house. Caring for a child is more than a full time job, research backs this up.

Why should it be 50/50? He has his job and she has hers. there are plenty of women that would love to be able to just be in charge of the house.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like an ass, OP. It should be 50/50 when you’re home, so yes, you need to chip in around the house. Caring for a child is more than a full time job, research backs this up.

Why should it be 50/50? He has his job and she has hers. there are plenty of women that would love to be able to just be in charge of the house.

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50/50 means she should be sole provider for 10 years and let DH stay home and take care of House

But that will never happen.

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Anonymous wrote:This is typical spoil entitled SAHM feminist stuff. They have no idea how the real world works. Tell the princess she has to get a job. All these feminists talk big as long as they do not have actually go into the work place and earn their keep. What a lazy woman.

Maybe the DH has no idea how the real world works in the home because he's always had someone doing all the dirty work for him. What makes you think the DW has never worked outside the home? Most mothers now a days have done it all - worked out of the home FT and be a FT mom at home. I think most moms know what the real world is like. Do most dads know what it's like to be a sahp 24/7, 365 day/ year?

And many women will tell OP, it’s a lot easier working outside the home and being in the company of other adults than being at home, 24/7, with young children, cooking, cleaning, etc. it’s called drudgery and never ending for a reason.

PP here.. totally agree. When we moved to a lower col area so one of us could stay home, I gave my DH the option to be that sahp and I'd be the sole breadwinner. We made about the same. He declined. It is drudgery work and thankless to boot. Dealing with kids is so very frustrating. They cannot easily be reasoned with, unlike most adults at work. You can't get a bathroom, lunch break from the kids like you can at work. Some moms I know returned to work to take a break from taking care of the kids. Working, they said, was a lot easier than being at home. And I totally agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is typical spoil entitled SAHM feminist stuff. They have no idea how the real world works. Tell the princess she has to get a job. All these feminists talk big as long as they do not have actually go into the work place and earn their keep. What a lazy woman.

Maybe the DH has no idea how the real world works in the home because he's always had someone doing all the dirty work for him. What makes you think the DW has never worked outside the home? Most mothers now a days have done it all - worked out of the home FT and be a FT mom at home. I think most moms know what the real world is like. Do most dads know what it's like to be a sahp 24/7, 365 day/ year?

And many women will tell OP, it’s a lot easier working outside the home and being in the company of other adults than being at home, 24/7, with young children, cooking, cleaning, etc. it’s called drudgery and never ending for a reason.

PP here.. totally agree. When we moved to a lower col area so one of us could stay home, I gave my DH the option to be that sahp and I'd be the sole breadwinner. We made about the same. He declined. It is drudgery work and thankless to boot. Dealing with kids is so very frustrating. They cannot easily be reasoned with, unlike most adults at work. You can't get a bathroom, lunch break from the kids like you can at work. Some moms I know returned to work to take a break from taking care of the kids. Working, they said, was a lot easier than being at home. And I totally agree.

Work with a bunch of h1bs and you will change your mind. I would take care of kids in an instant if I could .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is typical spoil entitled SAHM feminist stuff. They have no idea how the real world works. Tell the princess she has to get a job. All these feminists talk big as long as they do not have actually go into the work place and earn their keep. What a lazy woman.

Maybe the DH has no idea how the real world works in the home because he's always had someone doing all the dirty work for him. What makes you think the DW has never worked outside the home? Most mothers now a days have done it all - worked out of the home FT and be a FT mom at home. I think most moms know what the real world is like. Do most dads know what it's like to be a sahp 24/7, 365 day/ year?

And many women will tell OP, it’s a lot easier working outside the home and being in the company of other adults than being at home, 24/7, with young children, cooking, cleaning, etc. it’s called drudgery and never ending for a reason.

PP here.. totally agree. When we moved to a lower col area so one of us could stay home, I gave my DH the option to be that sahp and I'd be the sole breadwinner. We made about the same. He declined. It is drudgery work and thankless to boot. Dealing with kids is so very frustrating. They cannot easily be reasoned with, unlike most adults at work. You can't get a bathroom, lunch break from the kids like you can at work. Some moms I know returned to work to take a break from taking care of the kids. Working, they said, was a lot easier than being at home. And I totally agree.

Work with a bunch of h1bs and you will change your mind. I would take care of kids in an instant if I could .

Ha.. both DH and I work in IT, and DH came on an H1B, so no, I wouldn't change my mind, and neither would DH.

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OP is out of the house 7a-6p, so presumably OP's wife is also "on duty" during those hours. Maybe she spends all day cleaning and ignoring the kid, or maybe she takes the kid out of the house all day. Who knows. Any other time when they are both home ie 6p-7a should be split duties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is putting you on notice OP. My DH had an expectation for me to work full time, take care of the house and the kids. I do all the grocery shopping (to maintain a budget), prep some meals, pay all the bills on time (I love
my credit score too much) and I clean because I don’t want to live like a pig. Here is what I don’t do...my husband’s laundry, clean his office, and clean his closet/sink. When my husband does not have socks or t-shirt to wear, that is not my problem. I make it very clear to him that I am not his personal maid. If he leaves his dishes on the kitchen counter for me to clean up. I tell him “Is there a reason these dishes left for me to clean up? Do I look like a f-ing maid to you?” If the dishes stay on the counter for more than a day, I drop them on the floor in front of him. If they break, it is not my problem and he can clean them up. I also stopped having sex with my DH, because he acts like an entitled ass most of the time. He can go and j**k off somewhere. I don’t give a damn. If I would be you, I would start being very nice to your wife and do your part/pitch in. My DH is getting there, but I had to resort to an irregular warfare. Happy wife, happy life.

You sound horrible. Are you mentally stable or do you have issues?

Sounds like her issue is that her DH was a man/child who expected a mommy to do all his chores for him even though she also works full time.

I can't imagine NOT going my husband's laundry. How does it work ? You throw his laundry in a separate pile while doing yours? When he does projects around the house, does he slpit them in half as well?

Doubt OP does “projects around the house”. He just goes to work and does nothing at home. If he did stuff around the house, his wife wouldn’t be on strike.

My teenagers do their own laundry as does their dad. Grow ups should be able to do laundry on their own.

Pretty sure the wife isn't offering to go out and mow the lawn, clean out the gutters, remove the wasps nest, change that janky doorknob etc

So no - when he does project around the house, she isn't helping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is putting you on notice OP. My DH had an expectation for me to work full time, take care of the house and the kids. I do all the grocery shopping (to maintain a budget), prep some meals, pay all the bills on time (I love
my credit score too much) and I clean because I don’t want to live like a pig. Here is what I don’t do...my husband’s laundry, clean his office, and clean his closet/sink. When my husband does not have socks or t-shirt to wear, that is not my problem. I make it very clear to him that I am not his personal maid. If he leaves his dishes on the kitchen counter for me to clean up. I tell him “Is there a reason these dishes left for me to clean up? Do I look like a f-ing maid to you?” If the dishes stay on the counter for more than a day, I drop them on the floor in front of him. If they break, it is not my problem and he can clean them up. I also stopped having sex with my DH, because he acts like an entitled ass most of the time. He can go and j**k off somewhere. I don’t give a damn. If I would be you, I would start being very nice to your wife and do your part/pitch in. My DH is getting there, but I had to resort to an irregular warfare. Happy wife, happy life.

You sound horrible. Are you mentally stable or do you have issues?

Sounds like her issue is that her DH was a man/child who expected a mommy to do all his chores for him even though she also works full time.

I can't imagine NOT going my husband's laundry. How does it work ? You throw his laundry in a separate pile while doing yours? When he does projects around the house, does he slpit them in half as well?

Doubt OP does “projects around the house”. He just goes to work and does nothing at home. If he did stuff around the house, his wife wouldn’t be on strike.

My teenagers do their own laundry as does their dad. Grow ups should be able to do laundry on their own.

Pretty sure the wife isn't offering to go out and mow the lawn, clean out the gutters, remove the wasps nest, change that janky doorknob etc

So no - when he does project around the house, she isn't helping.

So OP, what do you do when you are at home. Do you do yardwork, mow the lawn, etc? If OP is anything like my DH, he calls ME to change a lightbulb. and fix jiggly doorknobs. Not all men are handy... and OP sounds lazy as sh!t and entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is typical spoil entitled SAHM feminist stuff. They have no idea how the real world works. Tell the princess she has to get a job. All these feminists talk big as long as they do not have actually go into the work place and earn their keep. What a lazy woman.

Maybe the DH has no idea how the real world works in the home because he's always had someone doing all the dirty work for him. What makes you think the DW has never worked outside the home? Most mothers now a days have done it all - worked out of the home FT and be a FT mom at home. I think most moms know what the real world is like. Do most dads know what it's like to be a sahp 24/7, 365 day/ year?

And many women will tell OP, it’s a lot easier working outside the home and being in the company of other adults than being at home, 24/7, with young children, cooking, cleaning, etc. it’s called drudgery and never ending for a reason.

PP here.. totally agree. When we moved to a lower col area so one of us could stay home, I gave my DH the option to be that sahp and I'd be the sole breadwinner. We made about the same. He declined. It is drudgery work and thankless to boot. Dealing with kids is so very frustrating. They cannot easily be reasoned with, unlike most adults at work. You can't get a bathroom, lunch break from the kids like you can at work. Some moms I know returned to work to take a break from taking care of the kids. Working, they said, was a lot easier than being at home. And I totally agree.

Work with a bunch of h1bs and you will change your mind. I would take care of kids in an instant if I could .

Ha.. both DH and I work in IT, and DH came on an H1B, so no, I wouldn't change my mind, and neither would DH.

Are you fat ? Why? Desperate?