Wife went on a cooking strike

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like an ass, OP. It should be 50/50 when you’re home, so yes, you need to chip in around the house. Caring for a child is more than a full time job, research backs this up.

Why should it be 50/50? He has his job and she has hers. there are plenty of women that would love to be able to just be in charge of the house.

Maybe he should have married one then.

Maybe he will and his lazy-assed current wife will have to find a job.

sure, then he can do 50/50 housechores and childcare. I'm sure OP would be willing to do that, right OP?

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Anonymous wrote:OP should have married someone from his home country. Or is your foreign born wife become sick of you doing nothing around the house? That would mean you really do nothing at home other than breathe.

Usually in countries where the guy does nothing at home, they still live with their extended family and his mom helps around the house with cooking and child care. In the USA, with only a SAHM, this situation where the husband does not do anything at home is untenable.

Get some paid help or get your mother to live with you, OP.

hahhaa. He think America is some place like India or Turkey where you can pay a nanny, cook, driver, yard person peanuts and get decent service. hahahhaa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“A woman’s work is never done”.


It was true back then and is still true today...doesn’t matter if she is a SAHM or works a full time job out of the house. I feel like it will always be true, until we all have robots that take care of household duties.

Nope, until parents teach their sons to pick up their own messes and take pride in their house not just some BS paycheck. Do you like only being a paycheck? Not a husband, not a father, not a home owner, not a craftsman, not a coach, just a paycheck. Blech.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife is putting you on notice OP. My DH had an expectation for me to work full time, take care of the house and the kids. I do all the grocery shopping (to maintain a budget), prep some meals, pay all the bills on time (I love
my credit score too much) and I clean because I don’t want to live like a pig. Here is what I don’t do...my husband’s laundry, clean his office, and clean his closet/sink. When my husband does not have socks or t-shirt to wear, that is not my problem. I make it very clear to him that I am not his personal maid. If he leaves his dishes on the kitchen counter for me to clean up. I tell him “Is there a reason these dishes left for me to clean up? Do I look like a f-ing maid to you?” If the dishes stay on the counter for more than a day, I drop them on the floor in front of him. If they break, it is not my problem and he can clean them up. I also stopped having sex with my DH, because he acts like an entitled ass most of the time. He can go and j**k off somewhere. I don’t give a damn. If I would be you, I would start being very nice to your wife and do your part/pitch in. My DH is getting there, but I had to resort to an irregular warfare. Happy wife, happy life.

You sound horrible. Are you mentally stable or do you have issues?

Sounds like her issue is that her DH was a man/child who expected a mommy to do all his chores for him even though she also works full time.

PP from above. I don’t have issues, my DH has man/child issues and I no longer put up with it.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife is putting you on notice OP. My DH had an expectation for me to work full time, take care of the house and the kids. I do all the grocery shopping (to maintain a budget), prep some meals, pay all the bills on time (I love
my credit score too much) and I clean because I don’t want to live like a pig. Here is what I don’t do...my husband’s laundry, clean his office, and clean his closet/sink. When my husband does not have socks or t-shirt to wear, that is not my problem. I make it very clear to him that I am not his personal maid. If he leaves his dishes on the kitchen counter for me to clean up. I tell him “Is there a reason these dishes left for me to clean up? Do I look like a f-ing maid to you?” If the dishes stay on the counter for more than a day, I drop them on the floor in front of him. If they break, it is not my problem and he can clean them up. I also stopped having sex with my DH, because he acts like an entitled ass most of the time. He can go and j**k off somewhere. I don’t give a damn. If I would be you, I would start being very nice to your wife and do your part/pitch in. My DH is getting there, but I had to resort to an irregular warfare. Happy wife, happy life.

You sound horrible. Are you mentally stable or do you have issues?

Sounds like her issue is that her DH was a man/child who expected a mommy to do all his chores for him even though she also works full time.

I can't imagine NOT going my husband's laundry. How does it work ? You throw his laundry in a separate pile while doing yours? When he does projects around the house, does he slpit them in half as well?

Doubt OP does “projects around the house”. He just goes to work and does nothing at home. If he did stuff around the house, his wife wouldn’t be on strike.

My teenagers do their own laundry as does their dad. Grow ups should be able to do laundry on their own.

Pretty sure the wife isn't offering to go out and mow the lawn, clean out the gutters, remove the wasps nest, change that janky doorknob etc

So no - when he does project around the house, she isn't helping.

I am the PP that went on strike. My DH is often behind on lawn maintenance. When it gets really bad and he can’t maintain, I pay for someone to come over and mow our lawn. I also water everything outside and take care of the pets most of the time. This is on top of everything else and 2 kids. I also take our cars to get cleaned, since I can’t stand filthy vehicles. My DH pretty much goes to work every day and complains how overwhelmed he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is putting you on notice OP. My DH had an expectation for me to work full time, take care of the house and the kids. I do all the grocery shopping (to maintain a budget), prep some meals, pay all the bills on time (I love
my credit score too much) and I clean because I don’t want to live like a pig. Here is what I don’t do...my husband’s laundry, clean his office, and clean his closet/sink. When my husband does not have socks or t-shirt to wear, that is not my problem. I make it very clear to him that I am not his personal maid. If he leaves his dishes on the kitchen counter for me to clean up. I tell him “Is there a reason these dishes left for me to clean up? Do I look like a f-ing maid to you?” If the dishes stay on the counter for more than a day, I drop them on the floor in front of him. If they break, it is not my problem and he can clean them up. I also stopped having sex with my DH, because he acts like an entitled ass most of the time. He can go and j**k off somewhere. I don’t give a damn. If I would be you, I would start being very nice to your wife and do your part/pitch in. My DH is getting there, but I had to resort to an irregular warfare. Happy wife, happy life.

You sound horrible. Are you mentally stable or do you have issues?

Sounds like her issue is that her DH was a man/child who expected a mommy to do all his chores for him even though she also works full time.

PP from above. I don’t have issues, my DH has man/child issues and I no longer put up with it.

Good for you, and I don't mean that sarcastically. That ^^PP thinks you're horrible for standing up for yourself and expecting a grown man to be a man and not a child. Sometimes you have to use a bit of tough love on a man/child. I think you're awesome.

[Anonymous]

You sound like an ass, OP. It should be 50/50 when you’re home, so yes, you need to chip in around the house. Caring for a child is more than a full time job, research backs this up.



Why should it be 50/50? He has his job and she has hers. there are plenty of women that would love to be able to just be in charge of the house.

Not 50 % of all the chores, but half of the chores that are left over after she has done what she can during the working day..... the point is that her day job is that, a job. If she is working hard during the day, caring for the child, running errands, organizing the house and keeping things tidy, that's her job. But as for weekends and nights, if she she is also doing 100% of the cooking, cleaning, child care, errands and house hold stuff while he relaxes, then that is working overtime. I have mostly worked during our marriage, but during maternity leaves, I did whatever I could during the day and most of the night feedings, but there was no way in hell I was also going to be waiting hand and foot on my spouse every evening and weekend so that he didn't lift a finger. The way we saw it, during the day we were both working at our jobs. In the evenigs/weekends we shared parenting and household duties to the extent we could.

more broadly, the way to think about a SAHP is not as a 'luxury' for that parent not to work or only that one parent earns money and the other doesnt. The economic contribution of a SAHP is I whatever you would pay a nanny or daycare and housecleaner for the hours and tasks that parent covers. The idea that a SAHP doesn't contribute economically to the household is wrong. There's also an intangible, which is that the SAHP, by taking on so much of the child care, doctors appts, etc, allows the WOHP to take on more in her or his career, allowing that person to advance even further than if they had to share doctors appts, sick days, household emergencies with the other spouse.