Wife went on a cooking strike

[Anonymous]

Wow I feel so lucky. When I was a sahm, I did do all the cooking and cleaning during the day, but DH would cleanup after dinner since I cooked. He cooks breakfast on the weekends, almost every weekend. He also helped with HW and childcare.

Just because you have a sahp and you work all day doesn't mean your job as a parent and partner stops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is putting you on notice OP. My DH had an expectation for me to work full time, take care of the house and the kids. I do all the grocery shopping (to maintain a budget), prep some meals, pay all the bills on time (I love
my credit score too much) and I clean because I don’t want to live like a pig. Here is what I don’t do...my husband’s laundry, clean his office, and clean his closet/sink. When my husband does not have socks or t-shirt to wear, that is not my problem. I make it very clear to him that I am not his personal maid. If he leaves his dishes on the kitchen counter for me to clean up. I tell him “Is there a reason these dishes left for me to clean up? Do I look like a f-ing maid to you?” If the dishes stay on the counter for more than a day, I drop them on the floor in front of him. If they break, it is not my problem and he can clean them up. I also stopped having sex with my DH, because he acts like an entitled ass most of the time. He can go and j**k off somewhere. I don’t give a damn. If I would be you, I would start being very nice to your wife and do your part/pitch in. My DH is getting there, but I had to resort to an irregular warfare. Happy wife, happy life.

You sound horrible. Are you mentally stable or do you have issues?

Sounds like her issue is that her DH was a man/child who expected a mommy to do all his chores for him even though she also works full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is not saying he does not help. He is saying DW wants him to do more chores which can be difficult on a daily basis if he comes home tired from working an entire day.

He is tired from working for an entire day, while she is obviously fresh as a daisy from a day spent running around after a toddler, cleaning and straightening the house, cooking, etc, with no mental or physical time for herself. No doubt she is also the one who gets up with the kid at night and early every morning. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is not saying he does not help. He is saying DW wants him to do more chores which can be difficult on a daily basis if he comes home tired from working an entire day.

He is tired from working for an entire day, while she is obviously fresh as a daisy from a day spent running around after a toddler, cleaning and straightening the house, cooking, etc, with no mental or physical time for herself. No doubt she is also the one who gets up with the kid at night and early every morning. Got it.

She can take a nap during the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife is a SAHM. She stopped cooking this week. She keeps the house clean but does not do my laundry. The last two weekends she has taken my son away the entire day to some play place. We had a fight a few weeks ago about housework. My wife thinks I should help out more around the house. She wants me to clean the bathroom and do the dishes more. She complains that I do not clean up our sons toys. My wife knew I wasn't going to do housework when she married me. We have been married for 6 years and suddenly she expects help with housework.

This is a woman that will stop having sex and claim menopause

Get out while you can

She is bad bad news. She has sisters on DCUM that are all
Looking for a sugar daddy.

Single mom, making 200k, and I do everything myself. Get out now, there will be more excuses later.

[Anonymous]

Op you have to get this under control. More your direct deposit to a new account. Let her sit at home with no money.

[Anonymous]

This is typical spoil entitled SAHM feminist stuff. They have no idea how the real world works. Tell the princess she has to get a job. All these feminists talk big as long as they do not have actually go into the work place and earn their keep. What a lazy woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you have to get this under control. More your direct deposit to a new account. Let her sit at home with no money.

So SAHM can’t buy groceries and have nothing to cook and kids have nothing to eat? Get idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are destroying your relationship and ultimately your marriage. You are treating your wife like paid help, not as a life partner. You believe she is your servant, and she correctly resents this. The issue is not doing a chore - rather it’s a pattern of her being “lesser than”, treated as the one who has to do al the housework/childcare/life maintenance issues as you come and go and expect to be treated like a king. You need to stop it unless you don’t mind paying for a divorce and alimony and child support the rest of your life - and still having nobody to be your cook and house cleaner. You should be doing some life support chores in your home, in your life - that’s a reasonable expectation of any adult. You should treat your wife as a life partner, not as your mother or hired help.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is typical spoil entitled SAHM feminist stuff. They have no idea how the real world works. Tell the princess she has to get a job. All these feminists talk big as long as they do not have actually go into the work place and earn their keep. What a lazy woman.

Maybe the DH has no idea how the real world works in the home because he's always had someone doing all the dirty work for him. What makes you think the DW has never worked outside the home? Most mothers now a days have done it all - worked out of the home FT and be a FT mom at home. I think most moms know what the real world is like. Do most dads know what it's like to be a sahp 24/7, 365 day/ year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is typical spoil entitled SAHM feminist stuff. They have no idea how the real world works. Tell the princess she has to get a job. All these feminists talk big as long as they do not have actually go into the work place and earn their keep. What a lazy woman.

Maybe the DH has no idea how the real world works in the home because he's always had someone doing all the dirty work for him. What makes you think the DW has never worked outside the home? Most mothers now a days have done it all - worked out of the home FT and be a FT mom at home. I think most moms know what the real world is like. Do most dads know what it's like to be a sahp 24/7, 365 day/ year?

And many women will tell OP, it’s a lot easier working outside the home and being in the company of other adults than being at home, 24/7, with young children, cooking, cleaning, etc. it’s called drudgery and never ending for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife is a SAHM. She stopped cooking this week. She keeps the house clean but does not do my laundry. The last two weekends she has taken my son away the entire day to some play place. We had a fight a few weeks ago about housework. My wife thinks I should help out more around the house. She wants me to clean the bathroom and do the dishes more. She complains that I do not clean up our sons toys. My wife knew I wasn't going to do housework when she married me. We have been married for 6 years and suddenly she expects help with housework.

This is a woman that will stop having sex and claim menopause

Get out while you can

She is bad bad news. She has sisters on DCUM that are all
Looking for a sugar daddy.

Single mom, making 200k, and I do everything myself. Get out now, there will be more excuses later.

And, this is why you are single. You probably have hired help, child care, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is typical spoil entitled SAHM feminist stuff. They have no idea how the real world works. Tell the princess she has to get a job. All these feminists talk big as long as they do not have actually go into the work place and earn their keep. What a lazy woman.

Maybe the DH has no idea how the real world works in the home because he's always had someone doing all the dirty work for him. What makes you think the DW has never worked outside the home? Most mothers now a days have done it all - worked out of the home FT and be a FT mom at home. I think most moms know what the real world is like. Do most dads know what it's like to be a sahp 24/7, 365 day/ year?

When I get sick, nothing gets done. My husband doesn't cook, clean or shop. Great Dad but he doesn't even know where everything is. He hasn't even bought himself underwear or clothing in 20+ years. And, yes, most of us worked before kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Your wife is lazy and entitled. I've been a SAHM for well over 20 years

Unless you're a Duggar, sounds like you are not caring for a toddler.

The answer to me is simple..each of you has a job. Yours takes you out of the home from 7-6, hers is caring for kid and, secondarily, home during those hours. The rest of the time you share labor or outsource. Assuming she is fairly focused on work during her working hours, and you are as well (given the occasion lunch or happy hour) then this is fair.

Otherwise you can ask her to work f/t, hire a nanny or do daycare and plan to do a hell if a lot more around the home than you for now.

The Duggar's don't care for their own kids. The kids care for each other and the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is putting you on notice OP. My DH had an expectation for me to work full time, take care of the house and the kids. I do all the grocery shopping (to maintain a budget), prep some meals, pay all the bills on time (I love
my credit score too much) and I clean because I don’t want to live like a pig. Here is what I don’t do...my husband’s laundry, clean his office, and clean his closet/sink. When my husband does not have socks or t-shirt to wear, that is not my problem. I make it very clear to him that I am not his personal maid. If he leaves his dishes on the kitchen counter for me to clean up. I tell him “Is there a reason these dishes left for me to clean up? Do I look like a f-ing maid to you?” If the dishes stay on the counter for more than a day, I drop them on the floor in front of him. If they break, it is not my problem and he can clean them up. I also stopped having sex with my DH, because he acts like an entitled ass most of the time. He can go and j**k off somewhere. I don’t give a damn. If I would be you, I would start being very nice to your wife and do your part/pitch in. My DH is getting there, but I had to resort to an irregular warfare. Happy wife, happy life.

You sound horrible. Are you mentally stable or do you have issues?

Sounds like her issue is that her DH was a man/child who expected a mommy to do all his chores for him even though she also works full time.

I can't imagine NOT going my husband's laundry. How does it work ? You throw his laundry in a separate pile while doing yours? When he does projects around the house, does he slpit them in half as well?