Wife went on a cooking strike

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lazy bit$h!! Tell her to bring home $ then you will help out with house work. She watches TV all day with kids?

Wife isn't asking for much. Just that op doesn't leave his dishes on the table and helps once in a while. He lives there too and should help out a bit.


It does not mean she is lazy. You don't sound like a nice person. Hope you are single!

[Anonymous]

OP is not saying he does not help. He is saying DW wants him to do more chores which can be difficult on a daily basis if he comes home tired from working an entire day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is not saying he does not help. He is saying DW wants him to do more chores which can be difficult on a daily basis if he comes home tired from working an entire day.

Oh come on. Op said he doesn't do anything and that has been the arrangement for years. There's always the weekend. Stop making excuses for this ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is not saying he does not help. He is saying DW wants him to do more chores which can be difficult on a daily basis if he comes home tired from working an entire day.

Yea, the "tired from work" excuse is B.S. We were all tired after work when we were single, and guess what, we still got chores done (and going out to happy hours, seeing friends, going on dates, etc).

OP, if you insist on being just a bank, you can't be surprised when your wife treats you like just a bank. If you want a partnership, you need to pitch in.

[Anonymous]

You told her you wouldn't do housework and she married you? Who are you kidding but yourself. Try helping out before she goes on a sex strike.

[Anonymous]

OP: quit your job. Stay home, sit on your ass all day, and cook a simple meal most nights. See how she likes it.

[Anonymous]

Glad I’m not married to OP.

[Anonymous]

So, do your own laundry and cook your own food.

[Anonymous]

Your wife is lazy and entitled. I've been a SAHM for well over 20 years. Part of my "job" is to manage our home. How is it fair to expect my DH to work a full time, demanding job AND cook and clean? He is wonderful and helps out a lot. But I would never expect him to work 10 hours and come home to cook and clean. What the hell would I be doing all day?

She either needs to step up, or go back to work. When both partners work, splitting household tasks is expected. When one partner is home all day, they do the majority of the work. And yes, I know it's not always easy. I have five kids. But you know what else isn't easy? Working full time outside the and having kids.

[Anonymous]

Op, I suggest you give your wife a weekend away and take your kids for an entire weekend, Friday night to Sunday night. During that time plan and shop for a week’s worth of meals, cook all their meals, do the dishes, do 2 loads of laundry including folding and putting it away, fill out some camp forms and in between all of that—take your kids to the park and the pool. Come back and let us know what you think about your wife’s complaints then.

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Anonymous wrote:I went on a cooking strike years ago. My husband knows to call and ask what he should get for carry out if I'm hungry. Yes, you should help out a bit and pick up. I hate waking up on weekends and kids and husband have destroyed the house. Yes, I leave it and tell him to clean it up. I do his laundry but if he pissed me off I'd stop. He knows better. Hire her a housekeeper if you don't want to help.

What is the point of the housekeeper if she is literally staying at home all day? It's part of her job to keep a tidy house and prepare meals. Is their child being denied nutrition as well?

Do you do your job 24x7 or do you do it from 8-5 with clearly defined hours after which you leave and go home? Your wife deserves a break too. Staying home isn't that easy and it's not for everyone. Maybe your wife would be happier working part time so she's not cooped up in the house cleaning all day, every day? That would drive anyone insane, especially if the people making the messes aren't helping to clean them.

If she would happier she's free to get a part-time job. No one is forcing her to stay home. But if she wants to stay home as her contribution to the 'partnership' then she needs to cook, clean, and watch the kid.

To the person above who asked about a 9 - 5, its more like 7 - 6 with the commute time but yes I'm expected to put in a 40+ hour work week. I'd expect the same of a spouse who is at home regardless of if the child is napping or at part-time daycare or playing with toys. Anything that falls in that household parameter should be done.

No, that's not how it works.

It actually is. Somewhere along the line, stay-at-home moms have placed too much emphasis on intensive motherin and neglected the “homemaker” duties inherent in that role. But part of the job description is to cook and clean.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused.

Did you think you married a maid? Or your mother?

[Anonymous]

Your wife is lazy and entitled. I've been a SAHM for well over 20 years

Unless you're a Duggar, sounds like you are not caring for a toddler.

The answer to me is simple..each of you has a job. Yours takes you out of the home from 7-6, hers is caring for kid and, secondarily, home during those hours. The rest of the time you share labor or outsource. Assuming she is fairly focused on work during her working hours, and you are as well (given the occasion lunch or happy hour) then this is fair.

Otherwise you can ask her to work f/t, hire a nanny or do daycare and plan to do a hell if a lot more around the home than you for now.

[Anonymous]

Obvious troll is obvious. And not even remotely interesting.

[Anonymous]

Good for her.