Men: why do women like the bad boys so much?

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2. "Why do some women choose the bad man, when they have access to a variety of both good and bad men who are equally attractive?" This is a harder question IMHO.

Lol, this is me tonight. Yesterday, my sweet, gentle, handsome ex declared his undying love. Today, another sweet, gentle, handsome man treated me so well, looked at me like I was magical. They are wonderful people but do not excite me. You know what I'm doing right now? Waiting for a text back from a smart, deep, mysterious, confident guy who rarely returns my texts, and is likely to cancel tomorrow's plans because I have a cold sore and told him that oral is off the table, but how about some drunken conversation instead.

Am I being an ass? Maybe. Can I help it? Honestly, idk. The bad boy is irresistible. I don't want to "save" or change him, but I want to know him.

PP here. Oh, and BTW - I have a kid and recently split from another handsome, mysterious, confident guy. He was an abusive jerk and I have restraining order against him. So I'm under no illusion about the risks. Idk, the initial attraction is magnetic, and my daughter with the first bad boy is smart and beautiful. But the relationship was awful. Maybe I'm dumb as a rock and will regret it when I'm older. 30 yo now.

You'll regret it when your daughter has learned her relationship patterns from watching you. Getting mistreated yourself is more or less tolerable. Watching your kid be mistreated is brutal.

Exactly this woman is an idiot, I feel bad for her daughter. Now that's poor parenting right there.

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Anonymous wrote:They are not attracted to him because he is "bad." They are attracted to his emotional intensity, power, physical fitness, etc. It's more that he gets away with being "bad" because of his other positive attributes.

If Kylo Ren was a 400 pound basement dweller with no life or personality, he would not have women talking about how he is "sexy." This is why "nice" guys who are unattractive losers can't get laid no matter how "nice" they are while handsome "bad boys" do well even when they have a bad attitude.

And women are aroused by aggressive and dominant men while nice guys turn their panties into the Sahara.

If you had any reading comprehension skills, you would have seen the above poster cited "emotional intensity, power, physical fitness". These are not the same things as aggression and dominance.

If you had any critical reasoning ability, you would have been able to understand I was saying aggression and dominance arouse women rather than trying to simply repeat "emotional intensity, power, physical fitness". I am aware they are not the same, my goal was not to repeat or affirm the post but to add a statement. It really is a pretty simple concept, yet you find it so difficult to understand you need make a snarky stupid comment. By the way " "emotional intensity, power, physical fitness" are fairly typical manifestations of aggression and dominance, they are far from mutually exclusive.

Aw, it must be so hard when all of the women you want prefer hot aggressive dominant bad boys instead of your pedantic personality and easily bruised ego.

I'm sure that there is a special lady out there whose panties will be drenched in anticipation with the opportunity to be with you!

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Are you retarded? Life must be hard for you given that you think you can asses personalities from a persons short post. He was dead on your logic sucks short bus. Funny how the fat, sloppy middle aged DCUMs think questioning someones ability to get with women is a retort. Odd how fat middle aged post wall women think value revolves around vaginas, even more odd since the old hags here are generally third tier slump buster bangs at best.

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Kylo Ren is not traditionally handsome. However he has some masculine features that some women like, with some sensual features. He has a long face and strong nose, with thick hair which are masculine. His eyes and full lips are sensual. His face is symmetrical. It’s not a traditional look, but it works for him, and it helps that his physique is above average. Some other men who are not traditionally good looking but who can rock that off-look might be Adam Brody, Keanu Reeves, and Daniel Day Lewis. It’s not a look every woman would be into.

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Marlon Brando in The Wild One is the ultimate bad boy talking to the nice, local girl.

Women like bad boys because nice guy = predictable = booooooring.

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Anonymous wrote:I've posted this before, and will say it again. Most women do not like bad boys. They like hot men. A lot of hot men are jerks, because they can get away with it and because people have catered to them their whole lives because they were so good looking. (Hollywood is filled with these guys....).

Ugly bad boys don't get the women. Hot nice guys get even more women than hot bad boys. This is why guys who are pediatricians and other "helping" fields have a huge advantage. Give a woman two equally attractive men -- one is a pediatric onconlogist with a great relationship with his sisters; the other is a convicted felon who cheats on his girlfriends. I guarantee you that 99% of women are going to prefer the hot pediatrician.

The whole "women prefer bad boys" thing was invented by guys who are not good looking, to excuse why they aren't getting the women ("nice guys finish last"). The truth is that women are almost as shallow as men -- we also like our partners to be hot. Sorry.

If this is so true, then why are millions of average looking men married with many of them good husband's?

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Anonymous wrote:Kylo Ren is not traditionally handsome. However he has some masculine features that some women like, with some sensual features. He has a long face and strong nose, with thick hair which are masculine. His eyes and full lips are sensual. His face is symmetrical. It’s not a traditional look, but it works for him, and it helps that his physique is above average. Some other men who are not traditionally good looking but who can rock that off-look might be Adam Brody, Keanu Reeves, and Daniel Day Lewis. It’s not a look every woman would be into.

Daniel Day Lewis is insanely attractive. You know who else? Ralph Fiennes. Even in Schindler's List! (eek, i know, terrible, but still). lol

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I think it has something to do with the lure of the forbidden.

In the new Star Wars Trilogy, Rey is deliberately written as a Mary Sue figure so that the average female viewer can imagine herself in her place.

Kylo Ren killed his father and turned against the Rebellion. He is the definition of forbidden. Of course, Rey and the typical female viewer are going to find that sexy.

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On the surface I am a nice guy, responsible, well-educated, a published author with a great sense of humor. A man with class and good values. But when I can be myself, I am a S&M leather daddy. Am I a "bad boy"?

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Woman here.

I by no means liked "bad boys" who were cheats, cruel, manipulative, or criminal. Tattoos and motorcycles and drugs are stupid - these are surface and material things and do nothing for me.

But a "bad boy" who bucks social trends by seeing past conventions, is funny, doesn't "follow rules" just because they're rules, is aggressive and ambitious? Count me in.

The thing with "good boys" (and girls) is that they are often a bit...sheepy. They put their head down and do what they are told. That's not attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:Kylo Ren is not traditionally handsome. However he has some masculine features that some women like, with some sensual features. He has a long face and strong nose, with thick hair which are masculine. His eyes and full lips are sensual. His face is symmetrical. It’s not a traditional look, but it works for him, and it helps that his physique is above average. Some other men who are not traditionally good looking but who can rock that off-look might be Adam Brody, Keanu Reeves, and Daniel Day Lewis. It’s not a look every woman would be into.

Daniel Day Lewis is insanely attractive. You know who else? Ralph Fiennes. Even in Schindler's List! (eek, i know, terrible, but still). lol

Yep that’s the type. Even Professor Snape. Snape is probably Kylo Ren’s real dad when leiah had an affair. LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:On the surface I am a nice guy, responsible, well-educated, a published author with a great sense of humor. A man with class and good values. But when I can be myself, I am a S&M leather daddy. Am I a "bad boy"?

You are a unicorn. You have a brother who is single?

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Anonymous wrote:They are not attracted to him because he is "bad." They are attracted to his emotional intensity, power, physical fitness, etc. It's more that he gets away with being "bad" because of his other positive attributes.

If Kylo Ren was a 400 pound basement dweller with no life or personality, he would not have women talking about how he is "sexy." This is why "nice" guys who are unattractive losers can't get laid no matter how "nice" they are while handsome "bad boys" do well even when they have a bad attitude.

I get what you're saying but...Adam Driver is not that good looking.

He actually is. He has a banging bod and a kind of janky face, but it works. There are plenty examples of this in female sex symbols too- Emily Ratikowski is one example.

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Anonymous wrote:On the surface I am a nice guy, responsible, well-educated, a published author with a great sense of humor. A man with class and good values. But when I can be myself, I am a S&M leather daddy. Am I a "bad boy"?

No, you are a typical loser. No legitimate "bad boy" spends their time doing controlled S&M, or having to tie up women in order to feel like they have some power. It's really only done by librarian types like yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I've posted this before, and will say it again. Most women do not like bad boys. They like hot men. A lot of hot men are jerks, because they can get away with it and because people have catered to them their whole lives because they were so good looking. (Hollywood is filled with these guys....).

Ugly bad boys don't get the women. Hot nice guys get even more women than hot bad boys. This is why guys who are pediatricians and other "helping" fields have a huge advantage. Give a woman two equally attractive men -- one is a pediatric onconlogist with a great relationship with his sisters; the other is a convicted felon who cheats on his girlfriends. I guarantee you that 99% of women are going to prefer the hot pediatrician.

The whole "women prefer bad boys" thing was invented by guys who are not good looking, to excuse why they aren't getting the women ("nice guys finish last"). The truth is that women are almost as shallow as men -- we also like our partners to be hot. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:I have one son who is extremely attractive, tall, and a very good athlete. Ever since kindergarten, girls have been following him around. It has made him arrogant when it comes to women. No matter how many he might piss off there's 2 more waiting. Im worried he will never settle down. It is women's reaction to him that causes him to be less and less grounded.

Yes, I've talked to him, but the girls keep throwing themselves at him,actung like fools. Last one he broke up with was on my porch srunk at 1am begging for them to bw together. It's outrageous. I wish a girl would come along and give him his own medicine.

...how old is he? They will, don't worry...

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This woman is describing my ex twenty years ago. Always been a chick magnet, no matter how dishonest, cold, or manipulative he is. He's gorgeous, charismatic, and (mostly) nice. Every female, from little girls to old ladies, fall in love with him. It's ridiculous.

You dont know what's happened since. My brother is like the OP described and he definitely had his reckoning. Though he was never really cruel to women and in fact always liked women/girls even though he would get annoyed with them following him around.

I do think it's different being a super hot guy vs a super hot girl. Obviously I am my brother's sister and am extremely hot myself. I get a lot of attention but it's so different. I feel like there are lots of "hot girls" and honestly different guys like different things, so there is a wider range to crush on and not as much competition. But honestly most guys don't look that attractive so when there is a really good looking one, it's like all women fixate on them and he becomes almost like a minor celebrity. As a sister it was very interesting to watch.