Men: why do women like the bad boys so much?

[Anonymous]

Good women love good men.

Bad women love bad men.

So no moaning when you see "those" women going for the other types.

[Anonymous]

I think for many women it makes them feel special. "See how bad his is to everyone else, but he's MY sweetheart." At least that seems to fit the high school story.

[Anonymous]

Because bad boy relationships are challenging.

Like every single day.
They take energy + work and sorta feel like a project for the woman to fix.
And since Females love drama, they will have plenty if they snag themselves a bad boy.

They think nice guys are simply BORING.
They usually gravitate toward the troublemaker type of man because many women are quite familiar & comfortable in this dynamic.

Reason being is that this is their first experience they actually had w/their own Fathers growing up.
By nature, no one likes stepping out of their comfort zones.
Especially the ones created in childhood.

People naturally gravitate toward what is familiar....
And seek comfort in it.

[Anonymous]

I think there a lot is around looks. This is a lot like asking men “why do you like the hot crazy sexy woman so much?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've posted this before, and will say it again. Most women do not like bad boys. They like hot men. A lot of hot men are jerks, because they can get away with it and because people have catered to them their whole lives because they were so good looking. (Hollywood is filled with these guys....).

Ugly bad boys don't get the women. Hot nice guys get even more women than hot bad boys. This is why guys who are pediatricians and other "helping" fields have a huge advantage. Give a woman two equally attractive men -- one is a pediatric onconlogist with a great relationship with his sisters; the other is a convicted felon who cheats on his girlfriends. I guarantee you that 99% of women are going to prefer the hot pediatrician.

The whole "women prefer bad boys" thing was invented by guys who are not good looking, to excuse why they aren't getting the women ("nice guys finish last"). The truth is that women are almost as shallow as men -- we also like our partners to be hot. Sorry.

So you are saying most women want them all: good looks and good money. What a surprise!

ding, ding, ding

But this is so true. I briefly dated a multi millionaire cheater who was handsome and exceled at art of love making. Yes, he cheats on his wife but i have never bedn treated so well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've posted this before, and will say it again. Most women do not like bad boys. They like hot men. A lot of hot men are jerks, because they can get away with it and because people have catered to them their whole lives because they were so good looking. (Hollywood is filled with these guys....).

Ugly bad boys don't get the women. Hot nice guys get even more women than hot bad boys. This is why guys who are pediatricians and other "helping" fields have a huge advantage. Give a woman two equally attractive men -- one is a pediatric onconlogist with a great relationship with his sisters; the other is a convicted felon who cheats on his girlfriends. I guarantee you that 99% of women are going to prefer the hot pediatrician.

The whole "women prefer bad boys" thing was invented by guys who are not good looking, to excuse why they aren't getting the women ("nice guys finish last"). The truth is that women are almost as shallow as men -- we also like our partners to be hot. Sorry.

So you are saying most women want them all: good looks and good money. What a surprise!

ding, ding, ding

But this is so true. I briefly dated a multi millionaire cheater who was handsome and exceled at art of love making. Yes, he cheats on his wife but i have never bedn treated so well.

Sorry for the typos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are not attracted to him because he is "bad." They are attracted to his emotional intensity, power, physical fitness, etc. It's more that he gets away with being "bad" because of his other positive attributes.

If Kylo Ren was a 400 pound basement dweller with no life or personality, he would not have women talking about how he is "sexy." This is why "nice" guys who are unattractive losers can't get laid no matter how "nice" they are while handsome "bad boys" do well even when they have a bad attitude.

And women are aroused by aggressive and dominant men while nice guys turn their panties into the Sahara.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spare us the faux concern.

NP. I have a tween daughter who has seen the film along with most of her girlfriends. They are all swooning over him. I find it disturbing too. I think it has something to do with giving girls the powerful impression that they can "save" a boy/man and "turn" him into a nice guy.

I told my daughter that that very rarely happens in real life but I doubt she will take my word for it.

Women get all tingly from men that appear assertive and aggressive. Those girls weren't "swooning" because they thought they save a movie character, they were swooning because the perceived power made them wet. If nice guy had anything to do with it, they would forgo the trouble and get a nice guy. They do not want a nice guy, they want someone they percieve as more powerful than them, they will, however, settle down with a nice guy to give them resources.

[Anonymous]

I have one son who is extremely attractive, tall, and a very good athlete. Ever since kindergarten, girls have been following him around. It has made him arrogant when it comes to women. No matter how many he might piss off there's 2 more waiting. Im worried he will never settle down. It is women's reaction to him that causes him to be less and less grounded.

Yes, I've talked to him, but the girls keep throwing themselves at him,actung like fools. Last one he broke up with was on my porch srunk at 1am begging for them to bw together. It's outrageous. I wish a girl would come along and give him his own medicine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've posted this before, and will say it again. Most women do not like bad boys. They like hot men. A lot of hot men are jerks, because they can get away with it and because people have catered to them their whole lives because they were so good looking. (Hollywood is filled with these guys....).

Ugly bad boys don't get the women. Hot nice guys get even more women than hot bad boys. This is why guys who are pediatricians and other "helping" fields have a huge advantage. Give a woman two equally attractive men -- one is a pediatric onconlogist with a great relationship with his sisters; the other is a convicted felon who cheats on his girlfriends. I guarantee you that 99% of women are going to prefer the hot pediatrician.

The whole "women prefer bad boys" thing was invented by guys who are not good looking, to excuse why they aren't getting the women ("nice guys finish last"). The truth is that women are almost as shallow as men -- we also like our partners to be hot. Sorry.

So you are saying most women want them all: good looks and good money. What a surprise!

ding, ding, ding

lol, as compared to men who just want good looks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are not attracted to him because he is "bad." They are attracted to his emotional intensity, power, physical fitness, etc. It's more that he gets away with being "bad" because of his other positive attributes.

If Kylo Ren was a 400 pound basement dweller with no life or personality, he would not have women talking about how he is "sexy." This is why "nice" guys who are unattractive losers can't get laid no matter how "nice" they are while handsome "bad boys" do well even when they have a bad attitude.

And women are aroused by aggressive and dominant men while nice guys turn their panties into the Sahara.

If you had any reading comprehension skills, you would have seen the above poster cited "emotional intensity, power, physical fitness". These are not the same things as aggression and dominance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are not attracted to him because he is "bad." They are attracted to his emotional intensity, power, physical fitness, etc. It's more that he gets away with being "bad" because of his other positive attributes.

If Kylo Ren was a 400 pound basement dweller with no life or personality, he would not have women talking about how he is "sexy." This is why "nice" guys who are unattractive losers can't get laid no matter how "nice" they are while handsome "bad boys" do well even when they have a bad attitude.

And women are aroused by aggressive and dominant men while nice guys turn their panties into the Sahara.

If you had any reading comprehension skills, you would have seen the above poster cited "emotional intensity, power, physical fitness". These are not the same things as aggression and dominance.

Different words. Same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I think for many women it makes them feel special. "See how bad his is to everyone else, but he's MY sweetheart." At least that seems to fit the high school story.

+1

[Anonymous]

In stories, villains are the most interesting characters. No surprise that bad boys are more interesting than guys who follow the rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are not attracted to him because he is "bad." They are attracted to his emotional intensity, power, physical fitness, etc. It's more that he gets away with being "bad" because of his other positive attributes.

If Kylo Ren was a 400 pound basement dweller with no life or personality, he would not have women talking about how he is "sexy." This is why "nice" guys who are unattractive losers can't get laid no matter how "nice" they are while handsome "bad boys" do well even when they have a bad attitude.

And women are aroused by aggressive and dominant men while nice guys turn their panties into the Sahara.

If you had any reading comprehension skills, you would have seen the above poster cited "emotional intensity, power, physical fitness". These are not the same things as aggression and dominance.

If you had any critical reasoning ability, you would have been able to understand I was saying aggression and dominance arouse women rather than trying to simply repeat "emotional intensity, power, physical fitness". I am aware they are not the same, my goal was not to repeat or affirm the post but to add a statement. It really is a pretty simple concept, yet you find it so difficult to understand you need make a snarky stupid comment. By the way " "emotional intensity, power, physical fitness" are fairly typical manifestations of aggression and dominance, they are far from mutually exclusive.