How to tell another parent on the team to shut the F#%k up

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

These microagressions / triggers are why Trump won the White House. Stop labeling everything racist, the vast majority of people don't agree with the narrative, and only pushes the moderates further from the Center - and I'm a Democrat.

Here is the thing, racist or not it wasn't pertinent to the issue. But, the OP added it for a reason, why? The language spoken had no bearing on the appropriateness of the parent's actions. By saying that the parent was "screaming in English/Spanish" HE conflated the issue. Why did he bother to even mention it? And then followed up with the "he doesn't look like he went to college" comment, he attempted to paint a very derogatory picture of the father beyond just his sideline behavior.

Here is the thing, you're psychotic and your fixation on race is annoying everyone else. Go away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

These microagressions / triggers are why Trump won the White House. Stop labeling everything racist, the vast majority of people don't agree with the narrative, and only pushes the moderates further from the Center - and I'm a Democrat.

Here is the thing, racist or not it wasn't pertinent to the issue. But, the OP added it for a reason, why? The language spoken had no bearing on the appropriateness of the parent's actions. By saying that the parent was "screaming in English/Spanish" HE conflated the issue. Why did he bother to even mention it? And then followed up with the "he doesn't look like he went to college" comment, he attempted to paint a very derogatory picture of the father beyond just his sideline behavior.

Here is the thing, you're psychotic and your fixation on race is annoying everyone else. Go away.

You mad bro?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

These microagressions / triggers are why Trump won the White House. Stop labeling everything racist, the vast majority of people don't agree with the narrative, and only pushes the moderates further from the Center - and I'm a Democrat.

Here is the thing, racist or not it wasn't pertinent to the issue. But, the OP added it for a reason, why? The language spoken had no bearing on the appropriateness of the parent's actions. By saying that the parent was "screaming in English/Spanish" HE conflated the issue. Why did he bother to even mention it? And then followed up with the "he doesn't look like he went to college" comment, he attempted to paint a very derogatory picture of the father beyond just his sideline behavior.

Here is the thing, you're psychotic and your fixation on race is annoying everyone else. Go away.

You mad bro?

Time to update your comebacks. That one hasn't been used since 2009

[Anonymous]

I hear racism here too. Mentioned Spanish, mentioned didn't look like he went to college. Dial down the prejudice

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does someone who went to collage look like?

Generally covered in glue and bits of paper.

I see what you did there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

These microagressions / triggers are why Trump won the White House. Stop labeling everything racist, the vast majority of people don't agree with the narrative, and only pushes the moderates further from the Center - and I'm a Democrat.

Here is the thing, racist or not it wasn't pertinent to the issue. But, the OP added it for a reason, why? The language spoken had no bearing on the appropriateness of the parent's actions. By saying that the parent was "screaming in English/Spanish" HE conflated the issue. Why did he bother to even mention it? And then followed up with the "he doesn't look like he went to college" comment, he attempted to paint a very derogatory picture of the father beyond just his sideline behavior.

Here is the thing, you're psychotic and your fixation on race is annoying everyone else. Go away.

And yet nobody has yet to provide a rationalization for why the two comments NEEDED to be made. If your only argument is "I'm being annoying" to bad if your little feelings are hurt or annoyed. Make a better argument for why it is material to point out the father was screaming in English/Spanish and that he did not look like her went to college.

[Anonymous]

Trump Nation. Every damn thing is about race now? It was a over aggressive parent. OP probably gave a bit too much detail, but get over it people. The point is he/she has nutjob parent on the team, he confronted him and now has engaged the club. What is there to the story, get your freak heads out of your ass, OP's racist? 99% of your assholes on this thread are probably closet racist and make comments privately to get off your high horse. Hispanics are some of the racist people I know, ever hear a latino talk about blacks? There is a troll just screwing with you all, ignore the moron and move on.

[Anonymous]

Apologies for not reading the past 7 pages of responses, but I will state that it really annoys me that the local clubs that I have been a part of give a lot of lip service to sideline behaviors/codes of conduct/etc. but then do absolutely nothing to enforce it. I've been involved in travel soccer for well over 10 years and occasionally there will be a coach who does a little "parents, simmer down" type of soft reprimand, but that's it. The code of conduct is clear. But it's not worth anything if it's not enforced. We had a player leave our team/club in the past b/c of sideline behavior of a parent on the same team. And a very similar thing happened to another one of my children's teams a few years ago. It's totally unacceptable. The CLUB should be enforcing the "no coaching from the sidelines" or "no yelling at the ref", or whatever is in their code.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

These microagressions / triggers are why Trump won the White House. Stop labeling everything racist, the vast majority of people don't agree with the narrative, and only pushes the moderates further from the Center - and I'm a Democrat.

Here is the thing, racist or not it wasn't pertinent to the issue. But, the OP added it for a reason, why? The language spoken had no bearing on the appropriateness of the parent's actions. By saying that the parent was "screaming in English/Spanish" HE conflated the issue. Why did he bother to even mention it? And then followed up with the "he doesn't look like he went to college" comment, he attempted to paint a very derogatory picture of the father beyond just his sideline behavior.

Here is the thing, you're psychotic and your fixation on race is annoying everyone else. Go away.

And yet nobody has yet to provide a rationalization for why the two comments NEEDED to be made. If your only argument is "I'm being annoying" to bad if your little feelings are hurt or annoyed. Make a better argument for why it is material to point out the father was screaming in English/Spanish and that he did not look like her went to college.

Because he wanted to add detail to his story, and that's it. No one has to rationalize it, no one wants to engage with you or entertain your sick obsession. You're just making yourself look completely unhinged, and making the OP look much better in comparison.

[Anonymous]

Again with personal attacks. Not unlike the OP who claimed to talk himself out "of violence".

No, his comments added no detail that was necessary to convey his point. The detail that he added was that he was dealing with a unhinged, uneducated Hispanic. THAT is the detail he added. Yes, that adds a different nuance rather than just "unhinged dad".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apologies for not reading the past 7 pages of responses, but I will state that it really annoys me that the local clubs that I have been a part of give a lot of lip service to sideline behaviors/codes of conduct/etc. but then do absolutely nothing to enforce it. I've been involved in travel soccer for well over 10 years and occasionally there will be a coach who does a little "parents, simmer down" type of soft reprimand, but that's it. The code of conduct is clear. But it's not worth anything if it's not enforced. We had a player leave our team/club in the past b/c of sideline behavior of a parent on the same team. And a very similar thing happened to another one of my children's teams a few years ago. It's totally unacceptable. The CLUB should be enforcing the "no coaching from the sidelines" or "no yelling at the ref", or whatever is in their code.

No need to apologize -- yours is actually one of the few posts we've had on the topic at hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apologies for not reading the past 7 pages of responses, but I will state that it really annoys me that the local clubs that I have been a part of give a lot of lip service to sideline behaviors/codes of conduct/etc. but then do absolutely nothing to enforce it. I've been involved in travel soccer for well over 10 years and occasionally there will be a coach who does a little "parents, simmer down" type of soft reprimand, but that's it. The code of conduct is clear. But it's not worth anything if it's not enforced. We had a player leave our team/club in the past b/c of sideline behavior of a parent on the same team. And a very similar thing happened to another one of my children's teams a few years ago. It's totally unacceptable. The CLUB should be enforcing the "no coaching from the sidelines" or "no yelling at the ref", or whatever is in their code.

Well said, what's even worse is when the Coach is worse than the crazy parent on the sideline. No wonder kids quit sports.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does someone who went to collage look like?

Generally covered in glue and bits of paper.

And probably like the above picture, with the pastel shirts and sweaters tied around their necks. At least that's what Martha Stewart looks like when she goes to collage.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear racism here too. Mentioned Spanish, mentioned didn't look like he went to college. Dial down the prejudice

As long as coaches in this area start to realize that just because a kid is Hispanic and has the flashy soccer haircut--does not mean he is automatically a great soccer player.

Germany, Holland and England have proven you don't have to be South American to be a great soccer player. But, coaches in this area cream in their pants if a "dark" kid shows up.

Even my 74-year old mother said as my kid's team beat an all-Hispanic team by a very wide margin, "why did I automatically assume they would be better?"

A foreign accent also doesn't mean the coach is automatically knowledgeable and superior.

Shatter the stereotypes all the way around.