How to tell another parent on the team to shut the F#%k up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

[Anonymous]

What age are the kids? That makes a difference

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

[Anonymous]

I grew up the child of this type of ranter, including pacing the sidelines screaming at the refs (which definitely impacts the game against your team). I wish someone had stood up to my Dad and stopped it. I wish I had done more as a child to say his behavior was out of control. My Dad's behavior was extremely harmful. I know you are talking about your own lack of enjoyment at the game - but you could be doing a lifetime of help to this person's son/daughter if you stop this behavior now. It's unacceptable to be a second coach and berate refs. It takes someone to stand up to them. And honestly banning that person from the game is perfect.

I am parent now...and I only cheer for the team collectively. It's so painful to watch that crazy parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

That was the racist unnecessary part. Also, the whole post is the opposite of a laid-back parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've actually thought about getting violent then you've got a real problem. You've already done what you can do. You've talked to the team management and the coach and the parent himself. Calm down and let it go.

+1

If you truly feel he's as bad as you're posting, then you should pull your child. It will ensure her safety and send a stronger message than you already have.

np. This seems unnecessary and only harming/punishing Op's kid. Why should Op have to pull her/his kid? Perhaps the coach should ban the parent who is causing all this drama. If that doesn't work than maybe threaten the kid of the dad who is actually causing harm and unfriendly atmosphere?

Oh please. OP says that she fears violence. If so, then she should pull her child. But since she doesn't really fear violence, she's just exaggerating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

That along with "He claims to have played college ball, but from the looks of him I can't even tell he went to college."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

It matters in a country where the predominant language is English and most of the people on the team or sidelines probably won't have a clue what he's saying. Certainly adds to the disruption levels

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.

Right... pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish.

Pointing out that he is yelling would have sufficed. No need to detail his language or question whether he actually went to college. None of that matters aside from painting a picture of an uneducated Hispanic man.

It matters in a country where the predominant language is English and most of the people on the team or sidelines probably won't have a clue what he's saying. Certainly adds to the disruption levels

No it doesn't.

[Anonymous]

As a former parent coach I had to deal with many of them and I always said, you want to help out, come to practice and help, that usually lasted 1 or 2 practices. Now as a spectator, I listen to music during the games and tune them out. We did have one really bad parent and to distract him the coach had he be the alternate ref-sideline ref where he couldn't cheer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a laid back parent and like to cheer for the players, even if it's on the other team if it's a good play. We have a parent that thinks he's Messi and can't wait to coach the kids, in fact he paces up and down the sidelines screaming in spanish/english at the kids (including his own). Fearing for his health I told him to relax and let the coach....coach. He said these kids aren't doing this right and how that's not the right way to play the ball. He claims to have played college ball, but from the looks of him I can't even tell he went to college. We had a tournament over the weekend and after the second game I could not take anymore. I walked up and asked nicely that the families weren't comfortable with his sideline antics and that I personally felt the refs targeting out kids because of him. He then asked who and I told him I was one and that was all that counted. He took that as me trying to challenge him. I walked away and on the second day he was a bit better, but still a nut job. I don't know what else to do and none of the other families are doing anything but complaining to each other about his behavior. Team manager is great, but chicken shit. I don't want it to get violent, but I'll admit it has crossed my mind. Coach has asked him to chill a few times with little improvement.

Before you judge, I've actually moved away a few times so I don't have to hear it, but when the players are actually acknowledging this idiot and looking away from the game it pisses me off.

Bolded the statement that is the root of it all. I get a feeling if you thought he was your "equal" your attitude would have been different. You should relax and let the coaches coach. Which includes dealing with obnoxious parents on sidelines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

He was yelling in Spanglish, and "from the looks of him" OP can tell he didn't go to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

He was yelling in Spanglish, and "from the looks of him" OP can tell he didn't go to college.

What's your point? One is not the same as the other and it's fairly racist of you to suggest it is.

[Anonymous]

this doesn't ring true to me. My brother & my nephew both ref soccer games & would tell a parent like that to be quiet or leave. Or they may tell the coach to rein him in or the team will face a penalty. Ref don't put up with that for more than a few minutes because it sets a bad tone for the game & makes it more difficult for them. Point made when with the poster claiming the refs are taking it out on his/her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

He was yelling in Spanglish, and "from the looks of him" OP can tell he didn't go to college.

What's your point? One is not the same as the other and it's fairly racist of you to suggest it is.

My point is OP lost a lot of credibility prefacing her complaint with several racist statements including 1) that he was yelling in Spanglish, and 2) that he didn't look like he went to college.