How to tell another parent on the team to shut the F#%k up

[Anonymous]

I'm a laid back parent and like to cheer for the players, even if it's on the other team if it's a good play. We have a parent that thinks he's Messi and can't wait to coach the kids, in fact he paces up and down the sidelines screaming in spanish/english at the kids (including his own). Fearing for his health I told him to relax and let the coach....coach. He said these kids aren't doing this right and how that's not the right way to play the ball. He claims to have played college ball, but from the looks of him I can't even tell he went to college. We had a tournament over the weekend and after the second game I could not take anymore. I walked up and asked nicely that the families weren't comfortable with his sideline antics and that I personally felt the refs targeting out kids because of him. He then asked who and I told him I was one and that was all that counted. He took that as me trying to challenge him. I walked away and on the second day he was a bit better, but still a nut job. I don't know what else to do and none of the other families are doing anything but complaining to each other about his behavior. Team manager is great, but chicken shit. I don't want it to get violent, but I'll admit it has crossed my mind. Coach has asked him to chill a few times with little improvement.

Before you judge, I've actually moved away a few times so I don't have to hear it, but when the players are actually acknowledging this idiot and looking away from the game it pisses me off.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what advice to give you but he sounds like a nightmare/nut.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't the league require parents to sign a code of conduct statement that, among other things, prohibits sideline coaching?

[Anonymous]

Step away from the game and call the non emergency police number and say you are at a kids sports game and there is a man walking up and down the sidelines ranting and raving and you fear for the safety of those at the game.

[Anonymous]

If you've actually thought about getting violent then you've got a real problem. You've already done what you can do. You've talked to the team management and the coach and the parent himself. Calm down and let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you've actually thought about getting violent then you've got a real problem. You've already done what you can do. You've talked to the team management and the coach and the parent himself. Calm down and let it go.

+1

If you truly feel he's as bad as you're posting, then you should pull your child. It will ensure her safety and send a stronger message than you already have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Step away from the game and call the non emergency police number and say you are at a kids sports game and there is a man walking up and down the sidelines ranting and raving and you fear for the safety of those at the game.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've actually thought about getting violent then you've got a real problem. You've already done what you can do. You've talked to the team management and the coach and the parent himself. Calm down and let it go.

+1

If you truly feel he's as bad as you're posting, then you should pull your child. It will ensure her safety and send a stronger message than you already have.

np. This seems unnecessary and only harming/punishing Op's kid. Why should Op have to pull her/his kid? Perhaps the coach should ban the parent who is causing all this drama. If that doesn't work than maybe threaten the kid of the dad who is actually causing harm and unfriendly atmosphere?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Step away from the game and call the non emergency police number and say you are at a kids sports game and there is a man walking up and down the sidelines ranting and raving and you fear for the safety of those at the game.

I hope this is a joke. If you actually feared for the safety of those at the game, it's an emergency. If you are just annoyed by someone's obnoxious behavior, it is not worthy of a phone call to police. OP, it's a game. If the kids lose because they are distracted by someone on the sideline it will be a lesson for the team and the coach.

[Anonymous]

Your complaint would be a lot more credible if it weren't prefaced by a racist rant.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your team manager about it, who will address with the coach. We had a dad on our team pretty much banned from all games by the head of our soccer club after a couple of games when he refused to calm down.

[Anonymous]

Besides the fact you sound really racist. Tell the coach. If the coach doesn't do anything tell him to shut up. If he won't go to another team. Though I have a feeling you will feel this way about every Hispanic parent whether on your team or the other team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a laid back parent and like to cheer for the players, even if it's on the other team if it's a good play. We have a parent that thinks he's Messi and can't wait to coach the kids, in fact he paces up and down the sidelines screaming in spanish/english at the kids (including his own). Fearing for his health I told him to relax and let the coach....coach. He said these kids aren't doing this right and how that's not the right way to play the ball. He claims to have played college ball, but from the looks of him I can't even tell he went to college. We had a tournament over the weekend and after the second game I could not take anymore. I walked up and asked nicely that the families weren't comfortable with his sideline antics and that I personally felt the refs targeting out kids because of him. He then asked who and I told him I was one and that was all that counted. He took that as me trying to challenge him. I walked away and on the second day he was a bit better, but still a nut job. I don't know what else to do and none of the other families are doing anything but complaining to each other about his behavior. Team manager is great, but chicken shit. I don't want it to get violent, but I'll admit it has crossed my mind. Coach has asked him to chill a few times with little improvement.

Before you judge, I've actually moved away a few times so I don't have to hear it, but when the players are actually acknowledging this idiot and looking away from the game it pisses me off.

If you're threatening violence, then you're not a laid-back parent. This is not hard. Send an email to the coach articulating your concerns (don't include the part about beating him up) and ask the coach to address it. If the coach won't address it, take it up with the TD. If he won't address it, then find a new club. Simple. And that "chicken shit" manager you dumped on? He or she isn't paid to manage the parents. He or she has volunteered his or her time to handle paperwork and communications so you don't have to. Don't like the job he or she is doing, feel free to step up and volunteer to take it over, you asshat.

[Anonymous]

He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He racist because he said the parent is yelling in Spanish?

Pointing out that he is yelling in Spanish only serves one purpose.