Found out wife was having an affair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Screenshot the evidence and email to yourself save the email and print a copy.

Go see a lawyer today. Make sure you now rights and responsibilities of a husband towards a child born n the marriage.

MD isn't the only state with effed up paternity laws.

What is the deal with all the people saying that OP needs to collect all of this evidence? Will he get more of her money when he divorces?

It will give him grounds to file for separation, which he might need to prevent being forced to pay child support if the kid isn't his.

It might save him money in child support and build a case for a paternity test

OP, see a real lawyer, don't take advice from people who think they know the law because they watched an episode of Maury Povich. You don't need evidence to infidelity to file for separation/divorce, it won't affect child support if this isn't your child, and you don't need it to request a paternity test. What you do need is actual legal advice particular to the laws of your state about what you need to do in order to seek a legally-binding paternity determination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Screenshot the evidence and email to yourself save the email and print a copy.

Go see a lawyer today. Make sure you now rights and responsibilities of a husband towards a child born n the marriage.

MD isn't the only state with effed up paternity laws.

What is the deal with all the people saying that OP needs to collect all of this evidence? Will he get more of her money when he divorces?

Her money? I doubt she has any. His DW is following the old rule of thumb: in any relationship the person with the least to lose can be the bigger piece of garbage. She's setting him up to pay 18 years of child support plus alimony plus half the house and half the retirement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Screenshot the evidence and email to yourself save the email and print a copy.

Go see a lawyer today. Make sure you now rights and responsibilities of a husband towards a child born n the marriage.

MD isn't the only state with effed up paternity laws.

What is the deal with all the people saying that OP needs to collect all of this evidence? Will he get more of her money when he divorces?

No, but OP might have a more compelling case for primary or even sole custody if the child turns out to be his and he can produce evidence of the affair.

OP's wife is pregnant. By engaging in sex with a man who is not her husband, she is potentially exposing their unborn child to diseases, many of which could pose a serious health risk to the child. Since she and her lover both know she is pregnant, it is possible that they have not been practicing safe sex. Even if they are practicing safe sex, condoms are not particularly effective against some STDs.

I believe that her behavior demonstrates a degree a recklessness vis a vis the health of their unborn child that should be introduced during the custody hearings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Screenshot the evidence and email to yourself save the email and print a copy.

Go see a lawyer today. Make sure you now rights and responsibilities of a husband towards a child born n the marriage.

MD isn't the only state with effed up paternity laws.

What is the deal with all the people saying that OP needs to collect all of this evidence? Will he get more of her money when he divorces?

No, but OP might have a more compelling case for primary or even sole custody if the child turns out to be his and he can produce evidence of the affair.

OP's wife is pregnant. By engaging in sex with a man who is not her husband, she is potentially exposing their unborn child to diseases, many of which could pose a serious health risk to the child. Since she and her lover both know she is pregnant, it is possible that they have not been practicing safe sex. Even if they are practicing safe sex, condoms are not particularly effective against some STDs.

I believe that her behavior demonstrates a degree a recklessness vis a vis the health of their unborn child that should be introduced during the custody hearings.

Adultery isn't seen as evidence of improper parenting. The judges separate someone's fitness as a parent from their fitness as a spouse. In short, no, just because your spouse cheated on you, you can't get more custody, unless you prove she or he is a danger to the child. In addition, it's virtually unheard of for a man to get sole custody of a newborn baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Screenshot the evidence and email to yourself save the email and print a copy.

Go see a lawyer today. Make sure you now rights and responsibilities of a husband towards a child born n the marriage.

MD isn't the only state with effed up paternity laws.

What is the deal with all the people saying that OP needs to collect all of this evidence? Will he get more of her money when he divorces?

Her money? I doubt she has any. His DW is following the old rule of thumb: in any relationship the person with the least to lose can be the bigger piece of garbage. She's setting him up to pay 18 years of child support plus alimony plus half the house and half the retirement.

There's nothing in the OP about the wife not working, therefore any discussion of alimony is premature. You also don't know that he's making more money. You don't know that he has a bigger retirement, or that the house is his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Screenshot the evidence and email to yourself save the email and print a copy.

Go see a lawyer today. Make sure you now rights and responsibilities of a husband towards a child born n the marriage.

MD isn't the only state with effed up paternity laws.

What is the deal with all the people saying that OP needs to collect all of this evidence? Will he get more of her money when he divorces?

No, but OP might have a more compelling case for primary or even sole custody if the child turns out to be his and he can produce evidence of the affair.

OP's wife is pregnant. By engaging in sex with a man who is not her husband, she is potentially exposing their unborn child to diseases, many of which could pose a serious health risk to the child. Since she and her lover both know she is pregnant, it is possible that they have not been practicing safe sex. Even if they are practicing safe sex, condoms are not particularly effective against some STDs.

I believe that her behavior demonstrates a degree a recklessness vis a vis the health of their unborn child that should be introduced during the custody hearings.

Adultery isn't seen as evidence of improper parenting. The judges separate someone's fitness as a parent from their fitness as a spouse. In short, no, just because your spouse cheated on you, you can't get more custody, unless you prove she or he is a danger to the child. In addition, it's virtually unheard of for a man to get sole custody of a newborn baby.

Referring to OP's wife as an adulterer glosses over a salient point, PP: OP's child is still is still inside his adulterous wife.

Unlike the case with most adultery, her adulterous behavior poses an obvious risk to the child. Her willingness to engage in an adulterous affair while pregnant suggests that the child's best interests are not of paramount concern to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Screenshot the evidence and email to yourself save the email and print a copy.

Go see a lawyer today. Make sure you now rights and responsibilities of a husband towards a child born n the marriage.

MD isn't the only state with effed up paternity laws.

What is the deal with all the people saying that OP needs to collect all of this evidence? Will he get more of her money when he divorces?

Her money? I doubt she has any. His DW is following the old rule of thumb: in any relationship the person with the least to lose can be the bigger piece of garbage. She's setting him up to pay 18 years of child support plus alimony plus half the house and half the retirement.

There's nothing in the OP about the wife not working, therefore any discussion of alimony is premature. You also don't know that he's making more money. You don't know that he has a bigger retirement, or that the house is his.

What's the old rule, "Whoever has less to lose in a divorce will be the bigger piece of garbage in the marriage."

[Anonymous]

I know a guy that can fix any problem. anything.

[Anonymous]

OP, any update?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to shut her cock holster and listen for a minute. This is how it's gonna be. You are moving out tonight. I will continue to support you in any way that I can as far as the baby is concerned. We are getting a paternity test as soon as it can be done. Our marriage is over but I understand that we have to figure out how to coparent together. I need some time to figure that out. Until then, you need to leave. Then don't say another word no matter what she says

:,very fine ,i really have an over imaginative mind

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to shut her cock holster and listen for a minute. This is how it's gonna be. You are moving out tonight. I will continue to support you in any way that I can as far as the baby is concerned. We are getting a paternity test as soon as it can be done. Our marriage is over but I understand that we have to figure out how to coparent together. I need some time to figure that out. Until then, you need to leave. Then don't say another word no matter what she says

:,very fine ,i really have an over imaginative mind

Huh? Are you saying DW did not have an affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to shut her cock holster and listen for a minute. This is how it's gonna be. You are moving out tonight. I will continue to support you in any way that I can as far as the baby is concerned. We are getting a paternity test as soon as it can be done. Our marriage is over but I understand that we have to figure out how to coparent together. I need some time to figure that out. Until then, you need to leave. Then don't say another word no matter what she says

:,very fine ,i really have an over imaginative mind

Huh? Are you saying DW did not have an affair?

no,no,no i meant ,that advise is like a line pulled out of a soap opera.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to shut her cock holster and listen for a minute. This is how it's gonna be. You are moving out tonight. I will continue to support you in any way that I can as far as the baby is concerned. We are getting a paternity test as soon as it can be done. Our marriage is over but I understand that we have to figure out how to coparent together. I need some time to figure that out. Until then, you need to leave. Then don't say another word no matter what she says

:,very fine ,i really have an over imaginative mind

Huh? Are you saying DW did not have an affair?

no,no,no i meant ,that advise is like a line pulled out of a soap opera.

It is. Because in reality, you cannot make a spouse leave a marital home.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you one of those sorry ass stay at home husbands who doesn't think he needs to work, with no kids? If so, then I don't feel bad about you being cheated on.

[Anonymous]

This thread has officially jumped the shark.