My mom really wants to take care of my baby

[Anonymous]

OP here.

Well, it seems like I was worried for nothing.

I found a nanny who is willing to work 2 weeks a month, and we don't have to pay her extra, and I'm not requiring extra housework.

Alls well that ends well.

[Anonymous]

It's not going to end well.... not a sustainable childcare schedule...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

My parents live in Florida, not ready to move up this way yet, but my mom doesn't want to miss out on a relationship with her granddaughter especially since DH's family is local ( Maryland).

Mom is retired so she figures she can fly up here a week at a time get to know the baby.

I know it sounds crazy, but this is important to her and I want my daughter to know her grandmother too,

I'm a nanny who dealt with almost this same situation. G'ma was out pf state but was going to fly in twice a month to to keep baby and I would have that time off. I started the position in January. By mid March G'ma decided she couldn't fly out here as often and stopped completely in April. The whole thing was a shit show.

I'm not surprised at all. I think people who haven't been around babies for a long time don't realize how hard it is when it's a daily full time job. Long term it's a JOB to take care of a baby. So I'm not surprised at this turn of events and that it became a shit show.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, it seems like I was worried for nothing.

I found a nanny who is willing to work 2 weeks a month, and we don't have to pay her extra, and I'm not requiring extra housework.

Alls well that ends well.

Hope this turns out to be a stable solution!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, it seems like I was worried for nothing.

I found a nanny who is willing to work 2 weeks a month, and we don't have to pay her extra, and I'm not requiring extra housework.

Alls well that ends well.

This is very naive OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, it seems like I was worried for nothing.

I found a nanny who is willing to work 2 weeks a month, and we don't have to pay her extra, and I'm not requiring extra housework.

Alls well that ends well.

What is she going to do the other 2 weeks a month? I'd be very wary if she was looking for a full-time job but agreed to accept part-time. That doesn't sound sustainable because it's going to be hard to find another part-time job she can do 2 weeks/month. Or, she's so desperate for work she's willing to take part-time instead of full-time. Which suggests she's either a bad nanny, or will quit as soon as she finds a FT job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, it seems like I was worried for nothing.

I found a nanny who is willing to work 2 weeks a month, and we don't have to pay her extra, and I'm not requiring extra housework.

Alls well that ends well.

I hope it works out for you, OP. Good luck. Please work with both the nanny and your mother to be consistent with your baby. And don't be afraid to change your mind when it doesn't work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, it seems like I was worried for nothing.

I found a nanny who is willing to work 2 weeks a month, and we don't have to pay her extra, and I'm not requiring extra housework.

Alls well that ends well.

What is she going to do the other 2 weeks a month? I'd be very wary if she was looking for a full-time job but agreed to accept part-time. That doesn't sound sustainable because it's going to be hard to find another part-time job she can do 2 weeks/month. Or, she's so desperate for work she's willing to take part-time instead of full-time. Which suggests she's either a bad nanny, or will quit as soon as she finds a FT job.

+ 1. Nanny is going to leave the second she finds a full time job. But OP will find this out for herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Well, it seems like I was worried for nothing.

I found a nanny who is willing to work 2 weeks a month, and we don't have to pay her extra, and I'm not requiring extra housework.

Alls well that ends well.

are you not at all worried that your mom may change her mind when she realizes how difficult it is to travel for 2 weeks out of the month? or if she gets sick or her flight is cancelled?

[Anonymous]

OP here.

I'm not worried. The woman I found is a SAHM with a 15-month-old and 1 school age kid.

She doesn't need a full-time job, and she's around to fill in if my mom has to cancel.

I initially didn't want a nanny that needed to bring her kid, because I wanted 1:1 for my daughter, but she'll still get 1:1 the weeks she's with my mother, and she'll get some socialization the weeks she's not, so it's kind of the best of everything.

I appreciate everyone's advice, but sometimes things work out even when they are against the "norm".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I'm not worried. The woman I found is a SAHM with a 15-month-old and 1 school age kid.

She doesn't need a full-time job, and she's around to fill in if my mom has to cancel.

I initially didn't want a nanny that needed to bring her kid, because I wanted 1:1 for my daughter, but she'll still get 1:1 the weeks she's with my mother, and she'll get some socialization the weeks she's not, so it's kind of the best of everything.

I appreciate everyone's advice, but sometimes things work out even when they are against the "norm".

Still, naive.What about longer illnesses for either you mom or babysitter (this is not a nanny). Is she going to tote around your kid to go get her school aged child? And I seriously doubt that when the babysitter thinks she has the week off, she is going to drop everything when your mom cannot come, or your mom gets sick of travel.

OP it's rare that an entire DCUM has the same opinion. When that happens, heed the advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don't just think it honey, it is low class.
People with actual money have a cook/chef and a housekeeper and a nanny.

I would call a college student who has done some babysitting and maybe worked in daycare a highly qualified nanny.

LOL!! I love it when the Fairfax Cty hicks on here try to be fancy. Grabbing my popcorn.

[Anonymous]

This is PP. And you went from being concerned about this yesterday, to finding the perfect solution to a unique problem 2 hours ago? hmm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I'm not worried. The woman I found is a SAHM with a 15-month-old and 1 school age kid.

She doesn't need a full-time job, and she's around to fill in if my mom has to cancel.

I initially didn't want a nanny that needed to bring her kid, because I wanted 1:1 for my daughter, but she'll still get 1:1 the weeks she's with my mother, and she'll get some socialization the weeks she's not, so it's kind of the best of everything.

I appreciate everyone's advice, but sometimes things work out even when they are against the "norm".

So basically, you found someone who's not a professional nanny, and likely couldn't get a "normal" nanny job (due to bringing her own child). That's one of the scenarios for finding a part-time nanny that I projected. I hope it works out for you, but don't get too wedded to the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is PP. And you went from being concerned about this yesterday, to finding the perfect solution to a unique problem 2 hours ago? hmm

OP here.

I asked here because people kept telling me it wouldn't work so I wanted in put.

I had met with the lady before and I liked her but I thought 1:1 would be better it's one reason we're not doing daycare right now.

It's not all that unique, lots of other moms posted about their mothers or MILs caring for their kids part time.

Just because it's not the solution you think is right doesn't mean it's wrong or that I'm a troll.

I'm doing what I think is right for my family and that's all that matters. I don't need to please DCUM or you.