Passive-aggression on the west coast vs outright "aggression" on the east coast

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one of the worst parts of the PNW and the entire west coast is the passive aggressive driving. Having people tailgate you for literally no reason. It's like they want YOU to move into the passing lane... so they can pass! The self-centeredness is mind boggling

Yes! It's insane. It makes me miss NoVa drivers, and that's saying something

OMG IT'S NOT JUST ME! My husband thinks I'm nuts for hating the drivers in Oregon. I never knew a thing like passive aggressive road rage existed until we lived in Portland for a year.

The first time someone tailgated me in the right lane for miles when there was a clear and empty left passing lane I assumed something was wrong I didn't know about, or that the person was mentally ill, and I moved over into the left lane so they could speed off. The second and third times, I thought how strange it was that this bizarre behavior had never happened to me in my life and coincidentally it had happened several times within a couple of days. After that I started putting the pieces together and realized that Oregon drivers (and Washington) are just bats!# insane.

My favorite is when it's a two lane highway with plenty of dotted lines for them to pass and they will just continuously tailgate you within an inch of your car, just ASSUMING you will pull over for them since they've behaved so charmingly. It's the land of delusion and poor social skills

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy from San Jose back in college and he was suuuuuper passive-aggressive. I also did not like how he was so laid-back, he seemed oblivious to manners I take for granted, such as letting a girl walk through a door first, letting a girl walk into an elevator first, etc. I mean, I know real life is not PRIDE AND PREJUDICE but, please, some simple awareness of those around you.

[Anonymous]

I don't have any experience living on the West Coast. But, I've lived in DC for 10 years after spending my entire life previously in Western PA. I experience culture shock any time I visit my family back home and interact in stores, restaurants, and on the road. Western PA has much friendlier and more organized retail and service culture, but the drivers speed like crazy and have total road rage. It's also not uncommon there to chat up strangers in public. But this is more of an East Coast vs. Midwest post, so I'm off-topic.

I don't notice passive-aggression in my coworkers and acquaintances who grew up on the West Coast. Maybe you have to actually be there to experience it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, some people on DCUM are unhinged.

Lady, the anecdote was entirely relevant (as ours mentioned). Move on.

Take a look in the mirror. And next time, try replying to the person who actually was speaking to you. Oh, and make your abstract hypotheticals at least SOMEWHAT relevant. TIA

WTF are you even babbling about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, some people on DCUM are unhinged.

Lady, the anecdote was entirely relevant (as ours mentioned). Move on.

Take a look in the mirror. And next time, try replying to the person who actually was speaking to you. Oh, and make your abstract hypotheticals at least SOMEWHAT relevant. TIA

WTF are you even babbling about?

A socially deranged lady proud of her RBF and bringing it up for no reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, some people on DCUM are unhinged.

Lady, the anecdote was entirely relevant (as ours mentioned). Move on.

Take a look in the mirror. And next time, try replying to the person who actually was speaking to you. Oh, and make your abstract hypotheticals at least SOMEWHAT relevant. TIA

WTF are you even babbling about?

A socially deranged lady proud of her RBF and bringing it up for no reason.

Yawn. Move along, nothing to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, some people on DCUM are unhinged.

Lady, the anecdote was entirely relevant (as ours mentioned). Move on.

Take a look in the mirror. And next time, try replying to the person who actually was speaking to you. Oh, and make your abstract hypotheticals at least SOMEWHAT relevant. TIA

WTF are you even babbling about?

A socially deranged lady proud of her RBF and bringing it up for no reason.

Yawn. Move along, nothing to see.

Okay. Adios then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! I am so glad I read this thread. Seattle has always been one of my dream locations. I live the Northwest. Those elitist hipsters would drive me fucking nuts. I'd probably tell the woman on the bike to shove the bell up her ass.

Don't move here. Everyone is just as psychotic as OP describes. It's like a challenge for people to see how offended they can be over things that are just normal everyday occurrences.

I can't wait to leave.

[Anonymous]

I haven't lived in the Pacific NW, but living in southern CA I noticed a lot of pretending to be mellow that disguised anger and aggression. My people are New Englanders, and if there's an issue, we get it out in the open and we're over it. So I hated dealing with that forced mellow thing. I hated thinking someone was okay with me when they were actually angry, but their weird code forbade them from addressing it. If a New Englander appears to be friendly towards you, it's genuine.

I loved living in the midwest. I felt that the people were generally balanced in being pretty honest and reasonable, but neither overly aggressive nor fake nice.

I hate the southern thing of fake superniceness, with the dead eyes and them actually judging and hating you underneath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't lived in the Pacific NW, but living in southern CA I noticed a lot of pretending to be mellow that disguised anger and aggression. My people are New Englanders, and if there's an issue, we get it out in the open and we're over it. So I hated dealing with that forced mellow thing. I hated thinking someone was okay with me when they were actually angry, but their weird code forbade them from addressing it. If a New Englander appears to be friendly towards you, it's genuine.

I loved living in the midwest. I felt that the people were generally balanced in being pretty honest and reasonable, but neither overly aggressive nor fake nice.

I hate the southern thing of fake superniceness, with the dead eyes and them actually judging and hating you underneath.

The weird thing about their "mellow" anger is that it also appears to last much longer- where on the east coast you would have it out and be done, on the west coast it seems to last indefinitely, long past the point where a normal person would let it go.

Can I ask where you lived in the midwest? I wonder if I should move there.

[Anonymous]

Chicago.

[Anonymous]

Only What Would You Do I've ever seen where the people just sit back and watch the guy abuse the homeless man, and one even joins in.

Yep. Of course it's in Portland.

[Anonymous]

Oh lord let me tell you what its like being Puerto Rican in Seattle lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think one of the worst parts of the PNW and the entire west coast is the passive aggressive driving. Having people tailgate you for literally no reason. It's like they want YOU to move into the passing lane... so they can pass! The self-centeredness is mind boggling

Yes! It's insane. It makes me miss NoVa drivers, and that's saying something

OMG IT'S NOT JUST ME! My husband thinks I'm nuts for hating the drivers in Oregon. I never knew a thing like passive aggressive road rage existed until we lived in Portland for a year.

The first time someone tailgated me in the right lane for miles when there was a clear and empty left passing lane I assumed something was wrong I didn't know about, or that the person was mentally ill, and I moved over into the left lane so they could speed off. The second and third times, I thought how strange it was that this bizarre behavior had never happened to me in my life and coincidentally it had happened several times within a couple of days. After that I started putting the pieces together and realized that Oregon drivers (and Washington) are just bats!# insane.

My favorite is when it's a two lane highway with plenty of dotted lines for them to pass and they will just continuously tailgate you within an inch of your car, just ASSUMING you will pull over for them since they've behaved so charmingly. It's the land of delusion and poor social skills

Slow down even more. Seriously. If someone wants to tailgate when they can pass, drop your speed. It makes them crazy and they will go away.

[Anonymous]

Grew up in bay area.

People in the City have a way of saying "um - excuse me!" which remarkably sounds like "F**K YOU!"

40 years of extreme PC/cancel-culture/prounouns have run amok and run the City I loved down the toilet.