Passive-aggression on the west coast vs outright "aggression" on the east coast

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! I am so glad I read this thread. Seattle has always been one of my dream locations. I live the Northwest. Those elitist hipsters would drive me fucking nuts. I'd probably tell the woman on the bike to shove the bell up her ass.

"Love" not "live"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Try the Midwest, OP. And I mean that as a happy Midwesterner, not as an insult.

We were back in DC recently to attend an event that included a family brunch. It was not what we expected. My kids were so puzzled -- here in the Midwest at such things, the kids all band together and play, even if they don't know each other. In DC all the kids stayed with their own families and were not friendly. It was so weird and my kids found it totally awkward.

It reminded me of the recent thread where the mom doesn't want other kids to play with her kid because she wants to do it herself. I kind of thought that thread was a troll but I can believe it now.

So your kids run free in restaurants vs seated with family?

This was not a seated event...it was a mingling event at a country club. My kids sit. I also noticed we are much more strict about this! Smallish kids alone at the buffet sticking their paws in everything.....gross. My kids aren't allowed to go to the buffet alone.

The weirdest thing was this solo chaos at the buffet and during the open chatting time, kids standing with their parents and only interacting with siblings. It was some backwards nightmare of a family event (kids specifically encouraged).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! I am so glad I read this thread. Seattle has always been one of my dream locations. I live the Northwest. Those elitist hipsters would drive me fucking nuts. I'd probably tell the woman on the bike to shove the bell up her ass.

Thank you. The people coming into this thread who live in the Northwest and being like "I don't think it's unreasonable to get angry for someone for not moving out of my way" are just the cherry on the top that proves that people are genuinely like this, it's not an exaggeration. Can you even imagine?

[Anonymous]

Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

See, I wouldn't mind that. There's a different energy to it. If someone decides to examine the other food and calmly wait cause they can't get around, that's a totally different scenario. If you glare someone down because you don't want to have to move a foot to the left- you have serious issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

Exactly. It amazes me how people on the west coast think we care about a glance. We don't. If you've got something to communicate with me, you can be a big kid and use your words. If not, glare away- IDGAF.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

Exactly. It amazes me how people on the west coast think we care about a glance. We don't. If you've got something to communicate with me, you can be a big kid and use your words. If not, glare away- IDGAF.

Did you even read the post?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

Exactly. It amazes me how people on the west coast think we care about a glance. We don't. If you've got something to communicate with me, you can be a big kid and use your words. If not, glare away- IDGAF.

Did you even read the post?

...Yes. Are you confused?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

Exactly. It amazes me how people on the west coast think we care about a glance. We don't. If you've got something to communicate with me, you can be a big kid and use your words. If not, glare away- IDGAF.

Did you even read the post?

...Yes. Are you confused?

No.

OP related a story about someone who was standing still and "obviously glaring" which she interpreted as passive aggressive.

I gave a different perspective--that she may have over-interpreted the look on the person's face.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

Exactly. It amazes me how people on the west coast think we care about a glance. We don't. If you've got something to communicate with me, you can be a big kid and use your words. If not, glare away- IDGAF.

Did you even read the post?

...Yes. Are you confused?

No.

OP related a story about someone who was standing still and "obviously glaring" which she interpreted as passive aggressive.

I gave a different perspective--that she may have over-interpreted the look on the person's face.

Yes, and people are responding to your post, that you thought a simple stare would elicit such a reaction. Do you understand now? Comprende?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

Exactly. It amazes me how people on the west coast think we care about a glance. We don't. If you've got something to communicate with me, you can be a big kid and use your words. If not, glare away- IDGAF.

Did you even read the post?

...Yes. Are you confused?

No.

OP related a story about someone who was standing still and "obviously glaring" which she interpreted as passive aggressive.

I gave a different perspective--that she may have over-interpreted the look on the person's face.

Yes, and people are responding to your post, that you thought a simple stare would elicit such a reaction. Do you understand now? Comprende?

Um... OP said the stare DID elicit a reaction. Are we reading the same post?

[Anonymous]

I (native Northern Virginian) do not respond well to passive-aggression. If someone were to stare at my cart expecting me to move it, they are welcome to stare the whole gosh darn cotton-pick in' day. If they do not use their words, how am I supposed to know what they want? I am not a mind reader. If they want to behave like an adult and use their words, however, I am happy to move. Duh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

Exactly. It amazes me how people on the west coast think we care about a glance. We don't. If you've got something to communicate with me, you can be a big kid and use your words. If not, glare away- IDGAF.

Did you even read the post?

...Yes. Are you confused?

No.

OP related a story about someone who was standing still and "obviously glaring" which she interpreted as passive aggressive.

I gave a different perspective--that she may have over-interpreted the look on the person's face.

Yes, and people are responding to your post, that you thought a simple stare would elicit such a reaction. Do you understand now? Comprende?

Um... OP said the stare DID elicit a reaction. Are we reading the same post?

She was talking about a glare... which is different? Is English not your first language?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another perspective from someone who has lived East Coast, PNW, & the South.

If I'm at the grocery store, and your cart is blocking me, I might just stand there. I'm not pissed at you, I'm not being passive aggressive, I'm just letting you finish deciding which pasta sauce you want before moving on. I'm not in a rush. Sorry if my RBF makes you read so much into nothing.

Ain't nobody round here pressed by yo' restin' biotch face. Now, you wanna roll your eyes, and start muttering under your breath... we can have words right now.

Exactly. It amazes me how people on the west coast think we care about a glance. We don't. If you've got something to communicate with me, you can be a big kid and use your words. If not, glare away- IDGAF.

Did you even read the post?

...Yes. Are you confused?

No.

OP related a story about someone who was standing still and "obviously glaring" which she interpreted as passive aggressive.

I gave a different perspective--that she may have over-interpreted the look on the person's face.

Yes, and people are responding to your post, that you thought a simple stare would elicit such a reaction. Do you understand now? Comprende?

Um... OP said the stare DID elicit a reaction. Are we reading the same post?

She was talking about a glare... which is different? Is English not your first language?

You do understand that some people have RBF? They are not actually glaring. They may feel entirely neutral, or even positive. Or maybe they're pissed that the store is out of something they need and they're making a face unrelated to you but just happen to be standing in your general vicinity, maybe even looking in your direction, but not necessarily at you. Interpreting the look on the face of someone you don't know and getting upset by it is the issue.