Why are some people so LOUD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's about time someone complained about loud people since the loud ones are so quick to point out when someone is quiet. They don't try to actually listen. They want everyone to be loud. What's worse is when people are loud and won't stop talking. You can't even hear yourself think when someone else is yammering all the time. How many loud people have actually been told they are loud? Or do all the nice introverts just put in ear plugs leaving the loud ones to think they own the air space?

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on the person but also on their family and the sound level they're used to. And on a larger scale it's a cultural thing as well.

Anecdotally, I live in Paris where locals have the reputation of unkind/impatient with tourists, but I think some of it is just tourists being very loud and completely oblivious to the level of noise they're generating. French people speak very softly, even in Paris, and oftentimes on the subway the only voices you'll hear will be tourists yelling at each other and disturbing the peace and quiet. In some cases the unfriendliness is just a visceral reaction to people "hurting" your ears!

Yes, Americans in general are so loud! Very embarrassing when traveling abroad...pull out my Canadian flag.

I grew up in Canada. Moved here as an adult. I'm one of the PPs who said that my husband's been complaining about my loudness for 20 years. My whole (Canadian) family is loud. So that blows your theory

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"Theory". LOL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

Still wondering, OP?

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OP?

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OP, you need to have an Professional assessment, for the sake of yourself (and your children, who may inherit the trait or gene or genetic attribute). Most normal people don't walk around covering their precious little ears. You know this is not normal adult behavior, right? I'm not loud, but some of my good friends are. They are the most passionate, accomplished people I know. I wouldn't have it any other way. Neither would they, or the people who love them.

The casual consensus here (as good as any random sample I suppose, partly in jest) indicates that most people are not bothered by people who talk louder than them. It is just not something normal people concern themselves with. Could you at least consider (probably not) that you are being persnickety and petty and looking for fault (where none exists)? Again, probably not. I would not expect you to be self aware. You seem hyper critical. Again another indication of deep self hatred.

You might want to look at your own self hate. Dig deep down inside yourself, and stop worrying about other people so much, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL

I'm a black woman and sooo fit the stereotype of being loud. Grew up in a loud house and all family gatherings are loud and full of laughter.

Like a pp, I could make an effort to talk at a lower volume but, it wouldn't last and I would inevitably screw it up.

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Happy family. Happy life. Alive. Try it, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think quiet people are weird and disconcerting. There's a reason why "It's always the quiet ones" is a phrase in our culture.

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This is so true. I wouldn't have believed it, had I not seen quiet people prove this consistently. If I see a quiet person at a social gathering - they are always in the corner, with a smug look on their face, staring at other people. I want to feel bad for them, and their misgivings, but their smug look changes my mind. For a split second, I wonder what series of unfortunate events brought them to this dark place in life. Then I just move on and count my blessings. Unlike OP, I don't wallow in it - but I could take OP's cue and wonder: why so quiet/sneaky/self absorbed/lacking social graces/lacking social skills/totally inept....ad infinitum.....but life offers more than that. So, I don't. LOL. Good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

Still wondering, OP?

+1

OP?

+1

OP, you need to have an Professional assessment, for the sake of yourself (and your children, who may inherit the trait or gene or genetic attribute). Most normal people don't walk around covering their precious little ears. You know this is not normal adult behavior, right? I'm not loud, but some of my good friends are. They are the most passionate, accomplished people I know. I wouldn't have it any other way. Neither would they, or the people who love them.

The casual consensus here (as good as any random sample I suppose, partly in jest) indicates that most people are not bothered by people who talk louder than them. It is just not something normal people concern themselves with. Could you at least consider (probably not) that you are being persnickety and petty and looking for fault (where none exists)? Again, probably not. I would not expect you to be self aware. You seem hyper critical. Again another indication of deep self hatred.

You might want to look at your own self hate. Dig deep down inside yourself, and stop worrying about other people so much, OP.

You're an armchair psychologist at best, a nut job at worst. WTH are you talking about? By my count OP has posted twice here. You can glean all you've said from OP's brief posts? Nothing indicates she needs a "professional assessment."

Weirdo.

[Anonymous]

Why are all the loud people here assuming that people who are bothered by loud voices are "quiet"? Or is that you're so loud and oblivious that a normal tone of voice seems like a "quiet" one to you?

Just own what you are. Rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's about time someone complained about loud people since the loud ones are so quick to point out when someone is quiet. They don't try to actually listen. They want everyone to be loud. What's worse is when people are loud and won't stop talking. You can't even hear yourself think when someone else is yammering all the time. How many loud people have actually been told they are loud? Or do all the nice introverts just put in ear plugs leaving the loud ones to think they own the air space?

+1.

+1,000. We'd tell you to STFU but you can't hear anything but your own loud yammering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

Still wondering, OP?

+1

OP?

+1

OP, you need to have an Professional assessment, for the sake of yourself (and your children, who may inherit the trait or gene or genetic attribute). Most normal people don't walk around covering their precious little ears. You know this is not normal adult behavior, right? I'm not loud, but some of my good friends are. They are the most passionate, accomplished people I know. I wouldn't have it any other way. Neither would they, or the people who love them.

The casual consensus here (as good as any random sample I suppose, partly in jest) indicates that most people are not bothered by people who talk louder than them. It is just not something normal people concern themselves with. Could you at least consider (probably not) that you are being persnickety and petty and looking for fault (where none exists)? Again, probably not. I would not expect you to be self aware. You seem hyper critical. Again another indication of deep self hatred.

You might want to look at your own self hate. Dig deep down inside yourself, and stop worrying about other people so much, OP.

You're an armchair psychologist at best, a nut job at worst. WTH are you talking about? By my count OP has posted twice here. You can glean all you've said from OP's brief posts? Nothing indicates she needs a "professional assessment."

Weirdo.

+1,000. Nut job is right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

Still wondering, OP?

+1

OP?

+1

OP, you need to have an Professional assessment, for the sake of yourself (and your children, who may inherit the trait or gene or genetic attribute). Most normal people don't walk around covering their precious little ears. You know this is not normal adult behavior, right? I'm not loud, but some of my good friends are. They are the most passionate, accomplished people I know. I wouldn't have it any other way. Neither would they, or the people who love them.

The casual consensus here (as good as any random sample I suppose, partly in jest) indicates that most people are not bothered by people who talk louder than them. It is just not something normal people concern themselves with. Could you at least consider (probably not) that you are being persnickety and petty and looking for fault (where none exists)? Again, probably not. I would not expect you to be self aware. You seem hyper critical. Again another indication of deep self hatred.

You might want to look at your own self hate. Dig deep down inside yourself, and stop worrying about other people so much, OP.

You're an armchair psychologist at best, a nut job at worst. WTH are you talking about? By my count OP has posted twice here. You can glean all you've said from OP's brief posts? Nothing indicates she needs a "professional assessment."

Weirdo.

+1,000. Nut job is right.

Because you sound normal? Normal people don't care what other people sound like, OP. Let's face it, you are not normal. Just guessing here, anyone that does not sound like you is ostracized? Guess what? I am betting they don't care one iota what you do or do not do. You don't affect them. You can never make other people be uptight, nasal, mousy and lacking like you. Clearly it is not working for you. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if they know they are? It's grating at best. Super annoying.

If you're loud and realize it, have you tried to modulate your voice?

You sound happy. Tell me, where does one get such a huge stick to put up one's backside?

[Anonymous]

I'm an Italian from NYC. I'm loud and so is my entire family. DH is not Italian but he is from NYC and very loud as well. Our children were born and raised here and they are louder than us. We constantly tell them to use inside voices but realize they come from many generations of loud people on both sides. We have social skills and are not screaming at work. We have lived here for almost 20 years and think it's more about people not being direct and to the point since everyone is always trying to be so politically correct. I think the way we still speak comes across as loud, or rude, to some D.C. natives. There is a regional difference.

[Anonymous]

It's hilarious about how all the loud people are coming on here defending themselves. They know they're rude and annoying; they of course won't cop to it. It's all about them. Other people be damned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

Still wondering, OP?

+1

OP?

+1

OP, you need to have an Professional assessment, for the sake of yourself (and your children, who may inherit the trait or gene or genetic attribute). Most normal people don't walk around covering their precious little ears. You know this is not normal adult behavior, right? I'm not loud, but some of my good friends are. They are the most passionate, accomplished people I know. I wouldn't have it any other way. Neither would they, or the people who love them.

The casual consensus here (as good as any random sample I suppose, partly in jest) indicates that most people are not bothered by people who talk louder than them. It is just not something normal people concern themselves with. Could you at least consider (probably not) that you are being persnickety and petty and looking for fault (where none exists)? Again, probably not. I would not expect you to be self aware. You seem hyper critical. Again another indication of deep self hatred.

You might want to look at your own self hate. Dig deep down inside yourself, and stop worrying about other people so much, OP.

You're an armchair psychologist at best, a nut job at worst. WTH are you talking about? By my count OP has posted twice here. You can glean all you've said from OP's brief posts? Nothing indicates she needs a "professional assessment."

Weirdo.

+1,000. Nut job is right.

Because you sound normal? Normal people don't care what other people sound like, OP. Let's face it, you are not normal. Just guessing here, anyone that does not sound like you is ostracized? Guess what? I am betting they don't care one iota what you do or do not do. You don't affect them. You can never make other people be uptight, nasal, mousy and lacking like you. Clearly it is not working for you. Get over it.

NP here. My god you are such a hater. What is WRONG with you? How do you live?

Enjoy screaming your inane thoughts in other people's ears. I'm sure you do.