Why are some people so LOUD?

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Anonymous wrote:I am normally loud. Very loud. It is my default. I literally cannot help it. My husband shushes me all the time. It's just who I am.

Really? Have you tried? Why do you do it?

I could help it but I'd have to make a concerted effort for every word I said. It's like me telling you have to whisper all day long. Sure, you could do it, but not only would it be a pain in the ass to keep trying, inevitably you would slip back into your normal speech pattern at some point.

I don't "do it" on purpose. It's just who I am.

Well, then "I literally cannot help it" doesn't mean what you think it means, sweetheart. Although since I've never met an intelligent loud person, I wouldn't expect you to know the definition of words such as literally.

LOL. Because you seem intelligent.

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PP is delusional.

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Anonymous wrote:I am naturally loud. I grew up in a household where multiple people spoke at once and you were often involved in 3-4 conversations at once with different people. Yes, I know that I am loud and have been shushed regularly. The problem is that this is my default and I have to concentrate literally constantly to modulate my voice quieter so that it stays quieter. Otherwise, I'll be quieter for a few sentences and as my mind passes on to other things, including the conversation, then my voice goes back to loud. I'm sorry, but that's the way it is.

Conversely, there are a lot of timid and quieter speakers that I know that speak so softly and then get frustrated when people don't notice or hear them speaking, or don't think the person is talking to them. So, they are asked to speak up/louder and they'll do so for a few sentences and then go quieter again and have to be reminded to speak up or be ignored. These people are especially annoying on telecons or just regular phone conversations where you can't hear them over the phone. It works both ways. And frankly, I find the quiet speakers to be more annoying, but I try to be accommodating to both loud and quiet speakers where possible and to accept the fact that some people speak louder, some speak softer and try to work with each person to communicate.

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Because you are not a needy snowflake, and I am sure that has served you well in life.

OP, you trying to have people live up to your expectations is going to leave you and your immature, naive self very disappointed. Do you expect people to be one color and one ethnicity, too?

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Anonymous wrote:OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

Still wondering, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:I think some people are loud due to the nature of their jobs. I am a teacher and I am sometimes reminded by friends and family to "turn off my teacher voice."

Ugh. I can spot (hear) a teacher a half a block away.

I am a teacher, too, but save my teacher voice for the classroom.

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Anonymous wrote:I am normally loud. Very loud. It is my default. I literally cannot help it. My husband shushes me all the time. It's just who I am.

Really? Have you tried? Why do you do it?

I could help it but I'd have to make a concerted effort for every word I said. It's like me telling you have to whisper all day long. Sure, you could do it, but not only would it be a pain in the ass to keep trying, inevitably you would slip back into your normal speech pattern at some point.

I don't "do it" on purpose. It's just who I am.

Well, then "I literally cannot help it" doesn't mean what you think it means, sweetheart. Although since I've never met an intelligent loud person, I wouldn't expect you to know the definition of words such as literally.

Does making nasty comments like this make you feel good about yourself? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

Still wondering, OP?

+1

OP?

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My in-laws are from Long Island NY and they are really loud. it is embarrassing when they come to visit. I really want to shush them.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in an open environment, in a room with about 40 people in it. The loud talkers are the worst. Even headphones can't block some of them out.

+10 BILLION

I, too, work in an open floor plan. Between the guy on speaker phone with his office door open who I hear on the other end of the building, the girl who screams out the music she's listening to on her headphones (and chews loudly when she gets too tired of singing), the 4 separate groups doing conference calls in the open space at once, the other girl who jumps into every conversation with her own LOUD input (e.g., two co-workers are talking about a project and she's all, across the room, "NO, LARLA, THAT'S NOT TRUE! THE STATUS REPORTS ARE DUE ON WEDNESDAY!") and the guy who doesn't know what an inside voice is, it's impossible to find your inner zen.

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I think it depends on the person but also on their family and the sound level they're used to. And on a larger scale it's a cultural thing as well.

Anecdotally, I live in Paris where locals have the reputation of unkind/impatient with tourists, but I think some of it is just tourists being very loud and completely oblivious to the level of noise they're generating. French people speak very softly, even in Paris, and oftentimes on the subway the only voices you'll hear will be tourists yelling at each other and disturbing the peace and quiet. In some cases the unfriendliness is just a visceral reaction to people "hurting" your ears!

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LOL

I'm a black woman and sooo fit the stereotype of being loud. Grew up in a loud house and all family gatherings are loud and full of laughter.

Like a pp, I could make an effort to talk at a lower volume but, it wouldn't last and I would inevitably screw it up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work in an open environment, in a room with about 40 people in it. The loud talkers are the worst. Even headphones can't block some of them out.

+10 BILLION

I, too, work in an open floor plan. Between the guy on speaker phone with his office door open who I hear on the other end of the building, the girl who screams out the music she's listening to on her headphones (and chews loudly when she gets too tired of singing), the 4 separate groups doing conference calls in the open space at once, the other girl who jumps into every conversation with her own LOUD input (e.g., two co-workers are talking about a project and she's all, across the room, "NO, LARLA, THAT'S NOT TRUE! THE STATUS REPORTS ARE DUE ON WEDNESDAY!") and the guy who doesn't know what an inside voice is, it's impossible to find your inner zen.

I would say something, and it is very unprofessional to use speakerphone for every single phone call. Speakerphone is for conference calls, end of story.

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Anonymous wrote:Have relatives who are annoying loud, and who don't have hearing loss. I have no idea why they've never been able to learn how to use an inside voice. They have not had office jobs, so probably haven't been forced to learn.

I live them, but I mind, especially because they make fun of me for being reserved. If they didn't do that, would be easier to give them a pass.

Some of the best (and most valuable) partners at my firm are loud (not shrinking violets). I wouldn't have it any other way.

Aww.

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Anonymous wrote:OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

Still wondering, OP?

This is OP. I do not have Asperger's. I'm just annoyed by people who are always super loud in every situation, no matter what. They have one volume level and it's always on full blast. Weird.

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I think quiet people are weird and disconcerting. There's a reason why "It's always the quiet ones" is a phrase in our culture.

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Anonymous wrote:I think quiet people are weird and disconcerting. There's a reason why "It's always the quiet ones" is a phrase in our culture.

Just because someone isn't loud doesn't mean they're quiet. The in-between is where most people live. That's normal, not super bellowing attention seekers or super quiet shrinking violets.