Why are some people so LOUD?

[Anonymous]

Have relatives who are annoying loud, and who don't have hearing loss. I have no idea why they've never been able to learn how to use an inside voice. They have not had office jobs, so probably haven't been forced to learn.

I live them, but I mind, especially because they make fun of me for being reserved. If they didn't do that, would be easier to give them a pass.

[Anonymous]

Hearing

DD had a vey loud teenage friend. It turned out she had some hearing loss though she didn't know till she was much older. We all just thought she was forceful and domineering. That was how her personality developed.

[Anonymous]

Should be "love them" darn autocorrect. Bless their hearts, they just love to shout non stop and don't realize how they sound to others. When having fun and joking around its ok, and in certain professions it's a plus, but they just never learned to modulate while I have had to learn to be loud and obnoxious when with them so I am heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OP is talking about kids or people with exceptionalities. I cannot stand loud people. Loud women are the worst. It's that grating yankee combination of fast talking and loud. It makes my teeth hurt.

Nice sexism. Yes, some women are annoyingly loud. And some men are really loud too. Always yell-talking their bro conversations in restaurants, on the train...

[Anonymous]

I am a very, very quiet speaker. Nice voice, but no one can ever hear me. It's just really hard for me to speak up (and I'm not particularly shy). I would love to have a naturally loud voice. You'll never hear me shhh anyone!

[Anonymous]

It's my family environment. Everyone is loud. I moved away and only then realized how loud I was and when I went home realized how loud they all are. I really don't like it.

I'm trying to raise my kids in a different environment with the main thing being not having the tv on all the time. People have to talk over that noise to be heard. I still at times have to remind myself at times that there's no reason to speak so loudly.

[Anonymous]

This is generally considered the nation in the world with the loudest people.

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Anonymous wrote:I am normally loud. Very loud. It is my default. I literally cannot help it. My husband shushes me all the time. It's just who I am.

Really? Have you tried? Why do you do it?

I could help it but I'd have to make a concerted effort for every word I said. It's like me telling you have to whisper all day long. Sure, you could do it, but not only would it be a pain in the ass to keep trying, inevitably you would slip back into your normal speech pattern at some point.

I don't "do it" on purpose. It's just who I am.

+. I'm this way too. My husband has been shushing me for 20 years. I can dial it back for a few sentences when I am consciously focusing on it. But then my natural volume comes back in. I would have to focus/strain to keep my volume down, much like my colleague who has a higher pitched voice has to strain to make her voice deeper when we're in loud settings for anyone to hear her. I grew up in a loud house where everyone spoke loud, but have been in a quiet house my whole adult life. So I'm not sure if it's that my voice was "trained" to be loud when I was a kid and it's near impossible to break the habit, or if it's genetic in my family to have loud-talking physiology.

[Anonymous]

Because they are extroverts. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am normally loud. Very loud. It is my default. I literally cannot help it. My husband shushes me all the time. It's just who I am.

Really? Have you tried? Why do you do it?

I could help it but I'd have to make a concerted effort for every word I said. It's like me telling you have to whisper all day long. Sure, you could do it, but not only would it be a pain in the ass to keep trying, inevitably you would slip back into your normal speech pattern at some point.

I don't "do it" on purpose. It's just who I am.

Well, then "I literally cannot help it" doesn't mean what you think it means, sweetheart. Although since I've never met an intelligent loud person, I wouldn't expect you to know the definition of words such as literally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have relatives who are annoying loud, and who don't have hearing loss. I have no idea why they've never been able to learn how to use an inside voice. They have not had office jobs, so probably haven't been forced to learn.

I live them, but I mind, especially because they make fun of me for being reserved. If they didn't do that, would be easier to give them a pass.

Some of the best (and most valuable) partners at my firm are loud (not shrinking violets). I wouldn't have it any other way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am normally loud. Very loud. It is my default. I literally cannot help it. My husband shushes me all the time. It's just who I am.

Really? Have you tried? Why do you do it?

I could help it but I'd have to make a concerted effort for every word I said. It's like me telling you have to whisper all day long. Sure, you could do it, but not only would it be a pain in the ass to keep trying, inevitably you would slip back into your normal speech pattern at some point.

I don't "do it" on purpose. It's just who I am.

Well, then "I literally cannot help it" doesn't mean what you think it means, sweetheart. Although since I've never met an intelligent loud person, I wouldn't expect you to know the definition of words such as literally.

LOL. Because you seem intelligent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they are extroverts. Get over it.

+1

Preach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's my family environment. Everyone is loud. I moved away and only then realized how loud I was and when I went home realized how loud they all are. I really don't like it.

I'm trying to raise my kids in a different environment with the main thing being not having the tv on all the time. People have to talk over that noise to be heard. I still at times have to remind myself at times that there's no reason to speak so loudly.

Love this. A big, happy family. I would rather that then everyone staring at each other in between turning pages. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a very, very quiet speaker. Nice voice, but no one can ever hear me. It's just really hard for me to speak up (and I'm not particularly shy). I would love to have a naturally loud voice. You'll never hear me shhh anyone!

+1