SO angry at my dh this morning

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Anonymous wrote:Fairfax is soul sucking even if your commute is only an hour. OP, just start looking for apartments. Find one in Arlington and tell him that you're moving there. Don't discuss it to death. Just ACT.

Because that sounds like a great decision to make unilaterally. Arlington is more expensive than Fairfax. Can OP afford the actual cost of living closer in? Her DH could have reasons beyond being a "hermit" for living in Fairfax. OP wants validation.

Well could say the husband is doing the same thing by not talking about it.

[Anonymous]

The real problem is that the country boy lives in the area and not Manassas or WV in the real countryside.

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He's a douche and he needs to take your opinions into consideration.

"I know you're miserable but I dont care because I'm happy" doesn't cut it.

You gave his way a shot, now he needs to do the same for you. The LEAST he can do is compromise with Arlington, if he's going to chicken out from actually trying your way.

Good luck, OP. Sounds like you ended up with a selfish manbaby just like the dudes that post on DCUM.

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I don't understand the many posts that suggest Arlington. Op, I was the hermit and my DH wanted to live in Manhattan. Yes I had some anxiety about it for a few weeks and stayed in a lot at first. But I loved him and pushed myself and it was the best thing I ever did. When we moved here, the only choice for me was DC. I have two kids here and a small but beautiful yard. The people who claim you have to move to the suburbs "for the kids" are not the kind of people you'll want to meet. Move to DC. You won't regret it for a second. It's the best.

You can try renting an apartment on air b&b as a surprise for DH (you can pretend you're going on a trip straight after work and then drive to the air b&b). This would allow you to see what it's like to commute via car (or better yet bus!) in
the city and if you like the "lets just leave the house and walk to a fun bar or restaurant" life. I really hope you listen to your own desires OP. Even though I was initially scared to leave the suburbs, I secretly always wanted to live in the city. I am so, so glad I did. Don't ignore this desire and remember that most of the people on DCUM are suburbanites with nothing better to do (my kid is sick and I'm trying to stay awake!).

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Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

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Anonymous wrote:My dh and I live in Fairfax and work in downtown Washington. We alternate between taking the metro into work and back and driving. Neither way is particularly convenient and each leaves us feeling drained, exhausted and frustrated for various reasons before we get to the office or before we get home. It takes us at least one hour each way and we usually get home around 8pm or 9 pm since he works later than I do and since I do not have a car and have developed claustrophobia I do not take the metro.

We get home around 8 or 9 pm, we're tired grumpy and exhausted and then we whip up dinner, watch netflix and crash.

I am NOT okay with this. Since our lease is up late April, I want us to move to the city. My dh has an irrational hate for the city and is perfectly content living in Fairfax. I have compromised and say we can live in Arlington even though that will still be too far from where we work. He says any move is going to be the worst idea since he loves and is happy in his current location.

We got into a majot fight about it this morning and now I don't even want to speak with him because what person in their right mind would willingly live SO FAR AWAY from work and spend 2+ hours of their life each day stuck in traffic???

Okay, if you are leaving work at 8pm and getting home at 9pm are you stopping for groceries. I'm sorry. I live in Fairfax and if I leave at 8pm I am home by 8:30pm tops. Now you just sound like you are complaining. That being said, 7pm is a little trickier, but you guys should be using HOV so you STILL shouldn't encounter traffic most of the ride.

An hour really isn't a soul sucking commute, there are people who commute much longer and who basically just sit in traffic. If you think an hour is a long ride I think you should count your blessings or rethink your job. You may also want to leave work earlier or telework.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

Your post makes no sense, but I'm guessing you're trying (and failing) to make a nasty jab about now restaurants and bars don't make someone have a life. Well I fail to see how sitting in traffic is preferable than being in a place where you can enjoy yourself, meet new people, eat good food, and have fun. I'm sorry that your existence is so bleak you want to shit all over a woman who wants to enjoy her youth. And FWIW, as a mom with young kids in DC, I love that I can walk to bars and restaurants with my husband during our precious alone time together instead of spending an hour driving somewhere worthwhile. So it's always preferable to be in the city in my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:My dh and I live in Fairfax and work in downtown Washington. We alternate between taking the metro into work and back and driving. Neither way is particularly convenient and each leaves us feeling drained, exhausted and frustrated for various reasons before we get to the office or before we get home. It takes us at least one hour each way and we usually get home around 8pm or 9 pm since he works later than I do and since I do not have a car and have developed claustrophobia I do not take the metro.

We get home around 8 or 9 pm, we're tired grumpy and exhausted and then we whip up dinner, watch netflix and crash.

I am NOT okay with this. Since our lease is up late April, I want us to move to the city. My dh has an irrational hate for the city and is perfectly content living in Fairfax. I have compromised and say we can live in Arlington even though that will still be too far from where we work. He says any move is going to be the worst idea since he loves and is happy in his current location.

We got into a majot fight about it this morning and now I don't even want to speak with him because what person in their right mind would willingly live SO FAR AWAY from work and spend 2+ hours of their life each day stuck in traffic???

Okay, if you are leaving work at 8pm and getting home at 9pm are you stopping for groceries. I'm sorry. I live in Fairfax and if I leave at 8pm I am home by 8:30pm tops. Now you just sound like you are complaining. That being said, 7pm is a little trickier, but you guys should be using HOV so you STILL shouldn't encounter traffic most of the ride.

An hour really isn't a soul sucking commute, there are people who commute much longer and who basically just sit in traffic. If you think an hour is a long ride I think you should count your blessings or rethink your job. You may also want to leave work earlier or telework.

Agree. You may consider moving to a less populated city where COL will allow for a shorter commute. From what I hear, an hour one way in D.C. is a decent commute. Not ideal, obviously, but not everybody can afford living closer. It certainly sounds like it would be a stretch for you. Will you have enough disposable income if you move to the city? The city is full of folks who simply can't afford anything besides basics. Well, there's free stuff I guess, so there's that.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

Your post makes no sense, but I'm guessing you're trying (and failing) to make a nasty jab about now restaurants and bars don't make someone have a life. Well I fail to see how sitting in traffic is preferable than being in a place where you can enjoy yourself, meet new people, eat good food, and have fun. I'm sorry that your existence is so bleak you want to shit all over a woman who wants to enjoy her youth. And FWIW, as a mom with young kids in DC, I love that I can walk to bars and restaurants with my husband during our precious alone time together instead of spending an hour driving somewhere worthwhile. So it's always preferable to be in the city in my opinion.

Hey, no judgement from me here! Sorry I made you so angry at your perfect life in the city with all the restaurants.

BTW, I'm not in the area, and our food beats yours every day of the week and twice on Sunday. But you go ahead and keep assuming that people want to do other things than eating out

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

Your post makes no sense, but I'm guessing you're trying (and failing) to make a nasty jab about now restaurants and bars don't make someone have a life. Well I fail to see how sitting in traffic is preferable than being in a place where you can enjoy yourself, meet new people, eat good food, and have fun. I'm sorry that your existence is so bleak you want to shit all over a woman who wants to enjoy her youth. And FWIW, as a mom with young kids in DC, I love that I can walk to bars and restaurants with my husband during our precious alone time together instead of spending an hour driving somewhere worthwhile. So it's always preferable to be in the city in my opinion.

Hey, no judgement from me here! Sorry I made you so angry at your perfect life in the city with all the restaurants.

BTW, I'm not in the area, and our food beats yours every day of the week and twice on Sunday. But you go ahead and keep assuming that people want to do other things than eating out

What are you even trying to say? I never said my life was perfect- that was your words.

And why are you on a DC forum if you're not from the area? Go away loser.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

Your post makes no sense, but I'm guessing you're trying (and failing) to make a nasty jab about now restaurants and bars don't make someone have a life. Well I fail to see how sitting in traffic is preferable than being in a place where you can enjoy yourself, meet new people, eat good food, and have fun. I'm sorry that your existence is so bleak you want to shit all over a woman who wants to enjoy her youth. And FWIW, as a mom with young kids in DC, I love that I can walk to bars and restaurants with my husband during our precious alone time together instead of spending an hour driving somewhere worthwhile. So it's always preferable to be in the city in my opinion.

Hey, no judgement from me here! Sorry I made you so angry at your perfect life in the city with all the restaurants.

BTW, I'm not in the area, and our food beats yours every day of the week and twice on Sunday. But you go ahead and keep assuming that people want to do other things than eating out

What are you even trying to say? I never said my life was perfect- that was your words.

And why are you on a DC forum if you're not from the area? Go away loser.

Lady, get help. Or go to a restaurant already.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

Your post makes no sense, but I'm guessing you're trying (and failing) to make a nasty jab about now restaurants and bars don't make someone have a life. Well I fail to see how sitting in traffic is preferable than being in a place where you can enjoy yourself, meet new people, eat good food, and have fun. I'm sorry that your existence is so bleak you want to shit all over a woman who wants to enjoy her youth. And FWIW, as a mom with young kids in DC, I love that I can walk to bars and restaurants with my husband during our precious alone time together instead of spending an hour driving somewhere worthwhile. So it's always preferable to be in the city in my opinion.

Hey, no judgement from me here! Sorry I made you so angry at your perfect life in the city with all the restaurants.

BTW, I'm not in the area, and our food beats yours every day of the week and twice on Sunday. But you go ahead and keep assuming that people want to do other things than eating out

What are you even trying to say? I never said my life was perfect- that was your words.

And why are you on a DC forum if you're not from the area? Go away loser.

Lady, get help. Or go to a restaurant already.

Wow. I feel bad that your life is so sad you spend it on an anonymous forum of a place that you do not live, insulting people you do not know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

Your post makes no sense, but I'm guessing you're trying (and failing) to make a nasty jab about now restaurants and bars don't make someone have a life. Well I fail to see how sitting in traffic is preferable than being in a place where you can enjoy yourself, meet new people, eat good food, and have fun. I'm sorry that your existence is so bleak you want to shit all over a woman who wants to enjoy her youth. And FWIW, as a mom with young kids in DC, I love that I can walk to bars and restaurants with my husband during our precious alone time together instead of spending an hour driving somewhere worthwhile. So it's always preferable to be in the city in my opinion.

Hey, no judgement from me here! Sorry I made you so angry at your perfect life in the city with all the restaurants.

BTW, I'm not in the area, and our food beats yours every day of the week and twice on Sunday. But you go ahead and keep assuming that people want to do other things than eating out

What are you even trying to say? I never said my life was perfect- that was your words.

And why are you on a DC forum if you're not from the area? Go away loser.

Lady, get help. Or go to a restaurant already.

Wow. I feel bad that your life is so sad you spend it on an anonymous forum of a place that you do not live, insulting people you do not know.

NP. Kind of like you did?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

Your post makes no sense, but I'm guessing you're trying (and failing) to make a nasty jab about now restaurants and bars don't make someone have a life. Well I fail to see how sitting in traffic is preferable than being in a place where you can enjoy yourself, meet new people, eat good food, and have fun. I'm sorry that your existence is so bleak you want to shit all over a woman who wants to enjoy her youth. And FWIW, as a mom with young kids in DC, I love that I can walk to bars and restaurants with my husband during our precious alone time together instead of spending an hour driving somewhere worthwhile. So it's always preferable to be in the city in my opinion.

Hey, no judgement from me here! Sorry I made you so angry at your perfect life in the city with all the restaurants.

BTW, I'm not in the area, and our food beats yours every day of the week and twice on Sunday. But you go ahead and keep assuming that people want to do other things than eating out

What are you even trying to say? I never said my life was perfect- that was your words.

And why are you on a DC forum if you're not from the area? Go away loser.

Lady, get help. Or go to a restaurant already.

Wow. I feel bad that your life is so sad you spend it on an anonymous forum of a place that you do not live, insulting people you do not know.

NP. Kind of like you did?

Nope. I'm from here and I have a sick kid so I'm killing time while my DC sleeps on me.

Instead of wasting time on DCUM, work on your reading comprehension. Of course, that's assuming you're not a sock puppet.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, visiting restaurants and bars in, indeed, life, PP

Your post makes no sense, but I'm guessing you're trying (and failing) to make a nasty jab about now restaurants and bars don't make someone have a life. Well I fail to see how sitting in traffic is preferable than being in a place where you can enjoy yourself, meet new people, eat good food, and have fun. I'm sorry that your existence is so bleak you want to shit all over a woman who wants to enjoy her youth. And FWIW, as a mom with young kids in DC, I love that I can walk to bars and restaurants with my husband during our precious alone time together instead of spending an hour driving somewhere worthwhile. So it's always preferable to be in the city in my opinion.

Hey, no judgement from me here! Sorry I made you so angry at your perfect life in the city with all the restaurants.

BTW, I'm not in the area, and our food beats yours every day of the week and twice on Sunday. But you go ahead and keep assuming that people want to do other things than eating out

What are you even trying to say? I never said my life was perfect- that was your words.

And why are you on a DC forum if you're not from the area? Go away loser.

Lady, get help. Or go to a restaurant already.

Wow. I feel bad that your life is so sad you spend it on an anonymous forum of a place that you do not live, insulting people you do not know.

They call it cabin fever. Must be awful being so stir-crazy.