SO angry at my dh this morning

[Anonymous]

So what would happen if a DH came on here, complaining that his wife never was home after work or on the weekends, because she wants to socialize with new friends and coworkers, and he's home alone by himself all the time.

I don't think too many people would be on the wife's side on this, and would tell the husband to reign her in and a married woman doesn't need to be going out all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what would happen if a DH came on here, complaining that his wife never was home after work or on the weekends, because she wants to socialize with new friends and coworkers, and he's home alone by himself all the time.

I don't think too many people would be on the wife's side on this, and would tell the husband to reign her in and a married woman doesn't need to be going out all the time.

OP said that her DH likes to stay at home and play video games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what would happen if a DH came on here, complaining that his wife never was home after work or on the weekends, because she wants to socialize with new friends and coworkers, and he's home alone by himself all the time.

I don't think too many people would be on the wife's side on this, and would tell the husband to reign her in and a married woman doesn't need to be going out all the time.

But her DH ISNT complaining. He doesn't have an issue with her doing things. He just doesn't want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what would happen if a DH came on here, complaining that his wife never was home after work or on the weekends, because she wants to socialize with new friends and coworkers, and he's home alone by himself all the time.

I don't think too many people would be on the wife's side on this, and would tell the husband to reign her in and a married woman doesn't need to be going out all the time.

I think you missed the entire point of this discussion.

[Anonymous]

I have a hard time believing that it takes two hours to get from Washington to Fairfax, especially at 8:00 PM at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I make it to the Pentagon then into DC on a bus and metro in 45 minutes during rush hour and I live in Fairfax behind NOVA off of Little River Turn Pike. Where in Fairfax are you? There's an HOV bus that gets on at 236 & 495, takes the HOV lanes, gets off at the Pentagon, then like 3 stops and you're in DC.

This is my thought as well. Does OP really even live in Fairfax, or is it more like Centreville? DH and I looked at houses in Fairfax (near George Mason) when we were buying, and all of the commuting options to downtown to DC were roughly an hour.

Also, we bought in the burbs when we were in our twenties - we still go out in DC or stay late to go to happy hour. Outside of rush hour, our house is 20 minutes from the National Mall. Besides downtown, we go out in Old Town Alexandria, Shirlington, Arlington, etc. Living in the suburbs is not some depressing death sentence that OP makes it out to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a hard time believing that it takes two hours to get from Washington to Fairfax, especially at 8:00 PM at night.

Exactly. It DOES NOT TAKE THAT LONG. Move to Alexandria or Downtown Silver Spring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make it to the Pentagon then into DC on a bus and metro in 45 minutes during rush hour and I live in Fairfax behind NOVA off of Little River Turn Pike. Where in Fairfax are you? There's an HOV bus that gets on at 236 & 495, takes the HOV lanes, gets off at the Pentagon, then like 3 stops and you're in DC.

This is my thought as well. Does OP really even live in Fairfax, or is it more like Centreville? DH and I looked at houses in Fairfax (near George Mason) when we were buying, and all of the commuting options to downtown to DC were roughly an hour.

Also, we bought in the burbs when we were in our twenties - we still go out in DC or stay late to go to happy hour. Outside of rush hour, our house is 20 minutes from the National Mall. Besides downtown, we go out in Old Town Alexandria, Shirlington, Arlington, etc. Living in the suburbs is not some depressing death sentence that OP makes it out to be.

I live in Centreville and it STILL isn't 2 hours at 8 PM.

[Anonymous]

Fairfax is soul sucking even if your commute is only an hour. OP, just start looking for apartments. Find one in Arlington and tell him that you're moving there. Don't discuss it to death. Just ACT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fairfax is soul sucking even if your commute is only an hour. OP, just start looking for apartments. Find one in Arlington and tell him that you're moving there. Don't discuss it to death. Just ACT.

Because that sounds like a great decision to make unilaterally. Arlington is more expensive than Fairfax. Can OP afford the actual cost of living closer in? Her DH could have reasons beyond being a "hermit" for living in Fairfax. OP wants validation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fairfax is soul sucking even if your commute is only an hour. OP, just start looking for apartments. Find one in Arlington and tell him that you're moving there. Don't discuss it to death. Just ACT.

Good advice as long as she is willing to risk being single after that.

[Anonymous]

When did she say it took two hours? I thought she just said one hour each way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would be a deal breaker for me. It makes me so sad for you to be all the way out there with no friends. I have lived in DC since college and loved my 20s in the city. I married DH and we lived in DuPont circle and our first was 1.5 and then we moved to arlington. It was so great to be able to walk to tons of bars and restaurants, we could get together with friends at the last minute, no worries about drinking and driving home or an expensive can. If one of us didn't feel like going out, the other could pop by a bar for an hour without abandoning the other all night. We live in a house about a mile from the metro now and I really miss living in the city, but the trade off was worth it now that we are late thirties, have two kids, two cars, a big yard etc. I also stay at home and can meet up with friends and play groups easily in the suburbs.

I would insist on marriage counseling and if he still doesn't agree to move, I would divorce. You are so young, you don't want to spend the rest of your life miserable because you're are never able to have any fun. It sounds like you aren't a good match for each other, it would be better to get out now while you are still young than to have kids and be resentful your whole life/

Nice bragathon disguised as concern for the OP. So common on DCUM. Someone posts their dilemma, tons of narcissistic douchebags jump in to describe how awesome their neighborhood, job, spouse, bod, or choices are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did she say it took two hours? I thought she just said one hour each way.

Even one hour each way isn't believable when she says that they don't get home until 8 or 9 at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did she say it took two hours? I thought she just said one hour each way.

Even one hour each way isn't believable when she says that they don't get home until 8 or 9 at night.

Wow who cares. She has a long commute.