Constructive Feedback on Wife's Hair

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dcum wife on one thread -- I will wear my hair the way I want and dress how I want. It's my body and DH needs to accept it!!!!

Same wife on another thread -- DH NEVER plans a date night! He is so boring!

Lol, yup. Pretty much! Haha.

More like:

DCUM husband on one thread: my wife won't have sex with me. When she does, the lights have to be off and the conditions have to be perfect.

DCUM husband on another thread: I am going to get hung up on some superficial thing about my wife. Regardless of the fact it may make her feel sexy as hell, I am going to tell her I don't find it as sexy as what it is I specifically want.

Not more like, but also

NP. Nope, it's more like.

Nope

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its no wonder so many of you are miserable in your marriages. Both of us have preferences about levels of fitness and personal grooming. Of course our decision is our own but we certainly are not dismissive of what each of finds attractive.

Good luck, many of you need it.

So your husband prefers you with a fuscia pixie cut, turquoise contact lenses, in thigh high boots and fishnets. He sees you in yoga pants and feels nauseated. No nightgowns either.

Are you accommodating him because it's what he finds attractive?

No woman should have to mitigate her own happiness in her own skin to make her partner happy. A haircut or hair color doesnt define a person.

Sure, you can have a preference, but for me, this getting caught up in superficial trappings is really bizarre to me. So she cuts her hair short for a year? Two? Five? Does that define her differently as a short haired person? Is she less of a mother? Is her vagina less wonderful?

I'm sorry, this post is really confounding me because I really don't get it.

And as a post note - gentlemen, if you are so desperate for passionate and regular sex with your wives, DON'T put in their heads that you find them anything but irresistible. If you think that you suggesting a hairstyle isn't a big deal, trust me when I say many women will then worry about the other things you DONT say. So you don't like her hair - how do you feel about her stretch marks, saggy boobs, cellulite, the fact she didn't shave her legs for a week, the chin hair she's praying you didn't notice, her chapped lips, the spinach she had between her teeth on Tuesday.

Are you really this neurotic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dcum wife on one thread -- I will wear my hair the way I want and dress how I want. It's my body and DH needs to accept it!!!!

Same wife on another thread -- DH NEVER plans a date night! He is so boring!

Lol, yup. Pretty much! Haha.

More like:

DCUM husband on one thread: my wife won't have sex with me. When she does, the lights have to be off and the conditions have to be perfect.

DCUM husband on another thread: I am going to get hung up on some superficial thing about my wife. Regardless of the fact it may make her feel sexy as hell, I am going to tell her I don't find it as sexy as what it is I specifically want.

Not more like, but also

NP. Nope, it's more like.

Nope

Yeah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many of you ladies grew out your hair before your wedding then cut it quite a bit shortly thereafter?

In any case, pretty much nobody cuts their hair short for their wedding. So the idea that it looks more attractive is b.s. When you want to look pretty, the hair gets long.

Hm, no. After 35-40 very few woman have shiny, healthy looking hair. Hair, like skin, ages., no matter how well you care for it. Long old hairs is not pretty. Woman with long thining hair look pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its no wonder so many of you are miserable in your marriages. Both of us have preferences about levels of fitness and personal grooming. Of course our decision is our own but we certainly are not dismissive of what each of finds attractive.

Good luck, many of you need it.

So your husband prefers you with a fuscia pixie cut, turquoise contact lenses, in thigh high boots and fishnets. He sees you in yoga pants and feels nauseated. No nightgowns either.

Are you accommodating him because it's what he finds attractive?

No woman should have to mitigate her own happiness in her own skin to make her partner happy. A haircut or hair color doesnt define a person.

Sure, you can have a preference, but for me, this getting caught up in superficial trappings is really bizarre to me. So she cuts her hair short for a year? Two? Five? Does that define her differently as a short haired person? Is she less of a mother? Is her vagina less wonderful?

I'm sorry, this post is really confounding me because I really don't get it.

And as a post note - gentlemen, if you are so desperate for passionate and regular sex with your wives, DON'T put in their heads that you find them anything but irresistible. If you think that you suggesting a hairstyle isn't a big deal, trust me when I say many women will then worry about the other things you DONT say. So you don't like her hair - how do you feel about her stretch marks, saggy boobs, cellulite, the fact she didn't shave her legs for a week, the chin hair she's praying you didn't notice, her chapped lips, the spinach she had between her teeth on Tuesday.

Of course you are confounded. I bed you don't even shave your pits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its no wonder so many of you are miserable in your marriages. Both of us have preferences about levels of fitness and personal grooming. Of course our decision is our own but we certainly are not dismissive of what each of finds attractive.

Good luck, many of you need it.

So your husband prefers you with a fuscia pixie cut, turquoise contact lenses, in thigh high boots and fishnets. He sees you in yoga pants and feels nauseated. No nightgowns either.

Are you accommodating him because it's what he finds attractive?

No woman should have to mitigate her own happiness in her own skin to make her partner happy. A haircut or hair color doesnt define a person.

Sure, you can have a preference, but for me, this getting caught up in superficial trappings is really bizarre to me. So she cuts her hair short for a year? Two? Five? Does that define her differently as a short haired person? Is she less of a mother? Is her vagina less wonderful?

I'm sorry, this post is really confounding me because I really don't get it.

And as a post note - gentlemen, if you are so desperate for passionate and regular sex with your wives, DON'T put in their heads that you find them anything but irresistible. If you think that you suggesting a hairstyle isn't a big deal, trust me when I say many women will then worry about the other things you DONT say. So you don't like her hair - how do you feel about her stretch marks, saggy boobs, cellulite, the fact she didn't shave her legs for a week, the chin hair she's praying you didn't notice, her chapped lips, the spinach she had between her teeth on Tuesday.

Of course you are confounded. I bed you don't even shave your pits.

If not shaving your pits means a person is confounded, then that explains a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[

Hm, no. After 35-40 very few woman have shiny, healthy looking hair. Hair, like skin, ages., no matter how well you care for it. Long old hairs is not pretty. Woman with long thining hair look pathetic.

To other women. The "aging hair" argument probably has a nugget of truth, but so much of the short hair pressure seems to come from women demanding that other women "act their age." It's like an older woman wearing a min-skirt. A lot of guys might think she looks hot, but the hens will go after her for looking tacky and not looking her age.

[Anonymous]

Haven't read pages of responses but my DH and I share our preferences without any issues. He prefers me with longer hair, for sure, and when we go on vacation he doesn't shave because he knows I find it sexy on him (but he can't go to work that way). That's just one example but there are other things too. If you have a good marriage and love and respect each other then why should it be a landmine to express your preferences? I know DH will still love me and want to have sex with me if I cut my hair short but he definitely prefers it long and that's fine with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its no wonder so many of you are miserable in your marriages. Both of us have preferences about levels of fitness and personal grooming. Of course our decision is our own but we certainly are not dismissive of what each of finds attractive.

Good luck, many of you need it.

So your husband prefers you with a fuscia pixie cut, turquoise contact lenses, in thigh high boots and fishnets. He sees you in yoga pants and feels nauseated. No nightgowns either.

Are you accommodating him because it's what he finds attractive?

No woman should have to mitigate her own happiness in her own skin to make her partner happy. A haircut or hair color doesnt define a person.

Sure, you can have a preference, but for me, this getting caught up in superficial trappings is really bizarre to me. So she cuts her hair short for a year? Two? Five? Does that define her differently as a short haired person? Is she less of a mother? Is her vagina less wonderful?

I'm sorry, this post is really confounding me because I really don't get it.

And as a post note - gentlemen, if you are so desperate for passionate and regular sex with your wives, DON'T put in their heads that you find them anything but irresistible. If you think that you suggesting a hairstyle isn't a big deal, trust me when I say many women will then worry about the other things you DONT say. So you don't like her hair - how do you feel about her stretch marks, saggy boobs, cellulite, the fact she didn't shave her legs for a week, the chin hair she's praying you didn't notice, her chapped lips, the spinach she had between her teeth on Tuesday.

Of course you are confounded. I bed you don't even shave your pits.

If not shaving your pits means a person is confounded, then that explains a lot about you.

Wow, a very intellectual arguement and poorly spelled. Way to go.

I do shave my pits. And my legs. And my undercarriage. I get my hair done regularly, and I have a drawer filled with sexy lingerie that I wear. But - I don't do it "for" my DH. I do it for me. I do it because I lovefeeling sexy and turning him on, I do it because he makes me feel sexy every day, regardless if I am in pajamas with a snotty cold, in yoga pants and a ponytail, or in candlelight wearing black lace with my hair tumbled all around. I am not there for his enjoyment. I am there to share in the enjoyment together.

The fact that so many on this board can't understand the difference just shows me why there seems to be so many unhappily sexless marriages out there. What makes a woman feel sexy is being happy in her own skin, at all times. Needing to play a part to meet her partner's exacting standards undermines that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its no wonder so many of you are miserable in your marriages. Both of us have preferences about levels of fitness and personal grooming. Of course our decision is our own but we certainly are not dismissive of what each of finds attractive.

Good luck, many of you need it.

So your husband prefers you with a fuscia pixie cut, turquoise contact lenses, in thigh high boots and fishnets. He sees you in yoga pants and feels nauseated. No nightgowns either.

Are you accommodating him because it's what he finds attractive?

No woman should have to mitigate her own happiness in her own skin to make her partner happy. A haircut or hair color doesnt define a person.

Sure, you can have a preference, but for me, this getting caught up in superficial trappings is really bizarre to me. So she cuts her hair short for a year? Two? Five? Does that define her differently as a short haired person? Is she less of a mother? Is her vagina less wonderful?

I'm sorry, this post is really confounding me because I really don't get it.

And as a post note - gentlemen, if you are so desperate for passionate and regular sex with your wives, DON'T put in their heads that you find them anything but irresistible. If you think that you suggesting a hairstyle isn't a big deal, trust me when I say many women will then worry about the other things you DONT say. So you don't like her hair - how do you feel about her stretch marks, saggy boobs, cellulite, the fact she didn't shave her legs for a week, the chin hair she's praying you didn't notice, her chapped lips, the spinach she had between her teeth on Tuesday.

Of course you are confounded. I bed you don't even shave your pits.

If not shaving your pits means a person is confounded, then that explains a lot about you.

Wow, a very intellectual arguement and poorly spelled. Way to go.

I do shave my pits. And my legs. And my undercarriage. I get my hair done regularly, and I have a drawer filled with sexy lingerie that I wear. But - I don't do it "for" my DH. I do it for me. I do it because I lovefeeling sexy and turning him on, I do it because he makes me feel sexy every day, regardless if I am in pajamas with a snotty cold, in yoga pants and a ponytail, or in candlelight wearing black lace with my hair tumbled all around. I am not there for his enjoyment. I am there to share in the enjoyment together.

The fact that so many on this board can't understand the difference just shows me why there seems to be so many unhappily sexless marriages out there. What makes a woman feel sexy is being happy in her own skin, at all times. Needing to play a part to meet her partner's exacting standards undermines that.

You sound insane and long winded. Do you jabber all this nonsense in your husband's ear as well?

[Anonymous]

Not every woman can pull of short hair.

Remember when Sheryl Crow cut her hair in the 90's? Yikes.

Simply remark to your wife that you prefer her hair a little longer, that you will miss running your hands through it, etc.

But also tell her what a beautiful woman she is with or without long hair.

Do not tell her she should let it grow longer, after all she is an adult and can wear her hair any way she desires.

But you still have every right to voice your opinion. As long as you do so lovingly and without judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its no wonder so many of you are miserable in your marriages. Both of us have preferences about levels of fitness and personal grooming. Of course our decision is our own but we certainly are not dismissive of what each of finds attractive.

Good luck, many of you need it.

So your husband prefers you with a fuscia pixie cut, turquoise contact lenses, in thigh high boots and fishnets. He sees you in yoga pants and feels nauseated. No nightgowns either.

Are you accommodating him because it's what he finds attractive?

No woman should have to mitigate her own



Wow, a very intellectual arguement and poorly spelled. Way to go.

I do shave my pits. And my legs. And my undercarriage. I get my hair done regularly, and I have a drawer filled with sexy lingerie that I wear. But - I don't do it "for" my DH. I do it for me. I do it because I lovefeeling sexy and turning him on, I do it because he makes me feel sexy every day, regardless if I am in pajamas with a snotty cold, in yoga pants and a ponytail, or in candlelight wearing black lace with my hair tumbled all around. I am not there for his enjoyment. I am there to share in the enjoyment together.

The fact that so many on this board can't understand the difference just shows me why there seems to be so many unhappily sexless marriages out there. What makes a woman feel sexy is being happy in her own skin, at all times. Needing to play a part to meet her partner's exacting standards undermines that.

You sound insane and long winded. Do you jabber all this nonsense in your husband's ear as well?

If you're not actually going to add anything to the discussion other than hurl personal insults, why post at all? Do you gaslight your partner as well?

Here's how fruitful discussion goes:

Person 1: I believe X. Here is why.
Person 2: I dis/agree. I don't support x because.. Y is what I believe. Here is where I feel you X argument is flawed.
Person 1: interesting. I never considered it that way. I still think X is correct, but Y is certainly a consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many of you ladies grew out your hair before your wedding then cut it quite a bit shortly thereafter?

In any case, pretty much nobody cuts their hair short for their wedding. So the idea that it looks more attractive is b.s. When you want to look pretty, the hair gets long.

And I think that what you are saying is total B.S. I've had a short cut since I was 22. Long hair just does not look nice on me, at all. I had a short hair at my wedding (at 27), and let me assure you that I looked great. My husband absolutely adores my look and when I let it grow a bit longer than usual, he asks when I will have it cut again. He loves it when my neck is open and he really loves kissing my neck.

To say that ALL women look better with long hair and that ALL men prefer long hair is a rediculous and untrue oversimplification.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many of you ladies grew out your hair before your wedding then cut it quite a bit shortly thereafter?

In any case, pretty much nobody cuts their hair short for their wedding. So the idea that it looks more attractive is b.s. When you want to look pretty, the hair gets long.

And I think that what you are saying is total B.S. I've had a short cut since I was 22. Long hair just does not look nice on me, at all. I had a short hair at my wedding (at 27), and let me assure you that I looked great. My husband absolutely adores my look and when I let it grow a bit longer than usual, he asks when I will have it cut again. He loves it when my neck is open and he really loves kissing my neck.

To say that ALL women look better with long hair and that ALL men prefer long hair is a rediculous and untrue oversimplification.

So you figure short hair on the wedding day is about 50/50 then?

I will concede that there are exceptions. But I still contend that, for most women, when beauty is the goal, they go for long (or at least longer) hair. There are other considerations that lead to the bob, but the short cut is a sign that looking good for her spouse is low on the priority list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many of you ladies grew out your hair before your wedding then cut it quite a bit shortly thereafter?

In any case, pretty much nobody cuts their hair short for their wedding. So the idea that it looks more attractive is b.s. When you want to look pretty, the hair gets long.

And I think that what you are saying is total B.S. I've had a short cut since I was 22. Long hair just does not look nice on me, at all. I had a short hair at my wedding (at 27), and let me assure you that I looked great. My husband absolutely adores my look and when I let it grow a bit longer than usual, he asks when I will have it cut again. He loves it when my neck is open and he really loves kissing my neck.

To say that ALL women look better with long hair and that ALL men prefer long hair is a rediculous and untrue oversimplification.

So you figure short hair on the wedding day is about 50/50 then?

I will concede that there are exceptions. But I still contend that, for most women, when beauty is the goal, they go for long (or at least longer) hair. There are other considerations that lead to the bob, but the short cut is a sign that looking good for her spouse is low on the priority list.

In general, short hairstyles are more trendy. Long straight hair is classic and will not look dated in 40 years. I think that's why some women grow their hair out for weddings. We also know that long hair appeals to the masses. But that doesn't mean we think we look more beautiful with long hair.