Husband tells me to move out every time we argue

[Anonymous]

It’s not abandonment if he tells you to leave. My husband says it all the time, last time he said it , I moved into a small cabin we own. He’s a narcissist , he’ll never change. One step at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? If no, this guy sounds like an asshole. I would definitely "leave" next time. Do you have access to your own money?

No kids and not much money.

RUN.

[Anonymous]

OP, he sounds like a mean person. Run for your life. People are telling you this over and over again. Don't waste any more years with him, and for the love of God, don't have children with him. Be double careful with birth control from now until you leave.

You deserve it.

[Anonymous]

No kids? Leave this weekend. Get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Please please leave before kids.
Ask me how I know this.

Leave. Now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband of 8 years tells me "so go live by yourself if you don't like the way I treat you" every time I try to talk to him about some shitty thing he said to me. The latest happened today. I misplaced my keys at work. I looked for nearly 30 minutes and could not find them. I called him for a ride and he got pissed and said that he is sick of me doing things like this. I have never lost my keys and have never called him to bring me a spare key. Ever.
I told him later that I didn't appreciate being treated the way he treated me and he told me "if you don't like it, you can move out on your own and you won't have to deal with it." That is his solution to every problem. He doesn't want to talk about any of our problems, so he pulls this shit on me.
We tried counselling, but it obviously didn't take.
I'm constantly on edge, feel anxious all the time and feel generally inadequate with most things that I do because of this.
I don't really have a question. I just need to vent.

You need to move out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I divorced his sorry ass. I'm much happier now.

Good!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get an annulment and start over.

+1

This sounds like a horrible situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I smell a man who is either having an affair or contemplating one with a candidate at hand. He seems very easily irritated, and looking for a way to make it your choice/fault to go (which would make it much easier on him).

This was my first thought, too. It's classic behavior.

Start saving money in a separate account. Remove his name as beneficiary from your other accounts. Start meeting with all of the divorce lawyers in your area (just one meeting, a consultation) so he cannot use them in the eventual divorce. And start making a plan as to leave. Don't let on that you are doing this. Divorce lawyer will have advice on how to gather evidence of an affair.

Also immediately get an IUD. You don't want a kid with this guy. Soon this will all be a memory for both of you and you'll both probably be much happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I divorced his sorry ass. I'm much happier now.

Good for you OP!!!!!

Repeating OP's update for others to see.

Yes OP good for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

So many stupid, infantile answers on this thread.

If an immature man says "Move out" the solution is to move out????

What if her husband said "Stab yourself with a steak knife if you don't like it," you'd all be telling OP to do that???

You people are F*CKED UP little children.

I'm not sure if you are just trolling but OK has described the ongoing history of him saying this to her and finding fault with her over nothing. They've even tried counseling. It reads like classic fault finding in order to justify his affair.

I'm not a child. I'm a rational adult who expects mutual respect in a marriage. I've been happily married for 14 years. If my DH repeatedly spoke to me like this, we would have to separate. P.S. I had to.edit the curse word because the forum blacked me from quoting it.

[Anonymous]

My ex after getting married told me he'd divorce me if I didn't do what he said. It ranged from home remodeling, to living abroad which was the final straw. He broke every agreement which was another big one. I pretended to go along with him, and went overseas. Then left him and came back filing divorce. It was the best feeling to be rid of him and constant threats.
His life didn't end well which was by his own stupidity.

[Anonymous]

This post is 5 years old.

[Anonymous]

No kids—divorce now.

[Anonymous]

I know everyone is quick to say " get out", or " don't take that shit". I've been living that life for 20 year's and it's not that easy to get out. Stay strong, and mostly important,
Stay true to yourself and your children. It's all about you and your children. Protect your kids and your self like your life depends on it. Good luck, stay strong 💓