Husband tells me to move out every time we argue

[Anonymous]

This is not a marriage, this sounds like a punishment. Leave him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

So many stupid, infantile answers on this thread.

If an immature man says "Move out" the solution is to move out????

What if her husband said "Stab yourself with a steak knife if you don't like it," you'd all be telling OP to do that???

You people are FUCKED UP little children.

Not really, did you read the reason he got pissed? He had to bring her a spare key, so what? Isn't that what having a person to rely upon is for? If my husband asked me to bring him a spare key because he lost his, I'd do it and probably feel bad that he has to wait for me to bring it to him. He'd do the same for me in a heart beat. You don't threaten your spouse with shit like that, you don't threaten period. That's childish.

[Anonymous]

Isn't there a legal thing about being the partner who moves out of the house "you" both own which is considered abandonment? or something similar? I might be completely wrong, OP should consult with a lawyer b4 doing anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't there a legal thing about being the partner who moves out of the house "you" both own which is considered abandonment? or something similar? I might be completely wrong, OP should consult with a lawyer b4 doing anything.

If they don't have assets or children, what's the harm in being faulted in the divorce?

[Anonymous]

DTMF

Kick him to the curb. He is not a good man.

[Anonymous]

This "dare" speaks to a fundamental lack of fairness, the absence of any basic respect for the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't there a legal thing about being the partner who moves out of the house "you" both own which is considered abandonment? or something similar? I might be completely wrong, OP should consult with a lawyer b4 doing anything.

If they don't have assets or children, what's the harm in being faulted in the divorce?

Yes,
The context in which I heard this heard years ago involved children/house

[Anonymous]

Have you considered the possibility that he wants you to file for divorce?

Sometimes, spouses become callous because they've given up on the relationship and feel that they have zero incentive to accommodate you. All interactions with them become about them putting up boundaries. There's probably a lot of stuff that let up to this point, but you're just reporting the most recent.

You might just ask him straight-out if he wants a divorce.

[Anonymous]

OMG just leave already!!

[Anonymous]

RUN AWAY FROM THIS ASSHOLE. you will be so much happier. At the end of your life do you want to look back and say wow, that sucked? Hell no you don't. There are nice people out there, or be alone. Anything beats living the life you are living.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve been going through. It seems to me that it is affecting your self-esteem. A healthy marriage does not make you feel bad about yourself or create so much anxiety. It sounds like you’ve tried counseling but may be one more shot would be worth it. A very reputable and free organization I’ve heard about is Focus on the Family and they provide free counseling. Their number is: 855-771-HELP. If you find your husband isn’t willing to go or try to work on the issues, I hope you will seek counsel for yourself to determine your next steps. Would it be ok if I prayed for you and your situation? I wish you all the best!

Suzy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband of 8 years tells me "so go live by yourself if you don't like the way I treat you" every time I try to talk to him about some shitty thing he said to me. The latest happened today. I misplaced my keys at work. I looked for nearly 30 minutes and could not find them. I called him for a ride and he got pissed and said that he is sick of me doing things like this. I have never lost my keys and have never called him to bring me a spare key. Ever.
I told him later that I didn't appreciate being treated the way he treated me and he told me "if you don't like it, you can move out on your own and you won't have to deal with it." That is his solution to every problem. He doesn't want to talk about any of our problems, so he pulls this shit on me.
We tried counselling, but it obviously didn't take.
I'm constantly on edge, feel anxious all the time and feel generally inadequate with most things that I do because of this.
I don't really have a question. I just need to vent.

Your DH sounds a lot like my bitch of a wife. Can we introduce them to each other?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband of 8 years tells me "so go live by yourself if you don't like the way I treat you" every time I try to talk to him about some shitty thing he said to me. The latest happened today. I misplaced my keys at work. I looked for nearly 30 minutes and could not find them. I called him for a ride and he got pissed and said that he is sick of me doing things like this. I have never lost my keys and have never called him to bring me a spare key. Ever.
I told him later that I didn't appreciate being treated the way he treated me and he told me "if you don't like it, you can move out on your own and you won't have to deal with it." That is his solution to every problem. He doesn't want to talk about any of our problems, so he pulls this shit on me.
We tried counselling, but it obviously didn't take.
I'm constantly on edge, feel anxious all the time and feel generally inadequate with most things that I do because of this.
I don't really have a question. I just need to vent.

Your DH sounds a lot like my bitch of a wife. Can we introduce them to each other?

She can have my husband. He not only tells me to "get the f@ck out" every time we argue, but has told me, "just go kill yourself." He's a real gem. And no, he wasn't like that when we got married.

[Anonymous]

My husband keeps telling me to leave but I have nowhere to go we have 4kids and I'm due with our 5child on September 2.he moved us to his hometown? in California we staying with Mom but he's truned hateful and I don't no what to I have no living family of my own..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband keeps telling me to leave but I have nowhere to go we have 4kids and I'm due with our 5child on September 2.he moved us to his hometown? in California we staying with Mom but he's truned hateful and I don't no what to I have no living family of my own..

Why do you keep having babies with him? Seems irresponsible to me.