My husband forces me to be a nagging b***h
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Anonymous
LOL. What I don't understand is continuing to live in place that smells like cat piss without doing anything about it herself. If I asked my DH to take care of something like this and he didn't, I'd do it myself. I would not live in a place that smelled of cat piss for 2 weeks just because DC wasn't doing as requested. Pretty nasty. |
Anonymous
Exactly. If the desk is too heavy to move, take it apart and move the pieces. Anyone can do this. And if all else fails, smash it with a sledgehammer of hammer until it breaks into pieces that you can carry and dispose of. |
Anonymous
| Or be a responsible pet owner and have your cats neutered by 6 months.... Apologies if you did do this, just a hunch as an owner of a multiple cat household myself. |
Anonymous
| I'm missing something- when did this thread turn to cat piss? |
Anonymous
It's hidden in the first post of the thread. |
Anonymous
| When you're not upset, have a conversation where you talk about how you're feeling overwhelmed with domestic stuff. Share what it is you're doing around the house. (He may not realize everything you're doing.) Then, listen to him talk about what he's doing. (He may be doing things you don't realize.) Approach the problem as "I feel overwhelmed", not "you are not pulling your weight," and talk about what you can do together to fix this. Part of that can be you asking him to pick up some things he's not currently doing. Or maybe you'll decide to hire someone. I would bet your husband will be better about doing regular, small tasks than occasional big ones. Really involve him in this process as an equal partner and make him realize that you're happy. If he then agrees to do stuff and then doesn't, remind him a few times and if that doesn't work, have the conversation again and then tell him what decisions you are going to be making (which at this point could be lowering your expectations for what's going to get done and/or hiring more help.) |
Anonymous
All threads turn to cat piss by page 5. |
Anonymous
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No man I have ever met would agree to "foster a litter of kittens."
I love animals but people who hoard large numbers of them like shoes or books or whatever are just fucking weird. |
Anonymous
No man would initiate this. As such, the OP's DH isn't the one who should be forced to deal with the associated problems. If OP wants the desk gone, she should deal with it herself rather than just making it his problem and then bitching when he doesn't hop to it.. .png)
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Anonymous
She's not acting like an equal partner. She is acting like she is helpless and dependent. He might be a dick for not doing it himself, but that shouldn't be a roadblock to getting things done. Just hire someone to do it. If he doesn't like that, then maybe he'll listen next time. Don't let other people's laziness/inaction prevent you from doing what you want to do. |
Anonymous
You are missing something. If you read the OP you will realize this whole thread started because the cats pissed. |
Anonymous
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OP here. You people certainly like to make assumptions.
1. The desk is his. He brought it into the marriage and it contains his stuff. I'm not going to make arrangements to get rid of something that is not mine. 2. The choice to foster the cats was OURS. We work in animal rescue. That is actually how we met. 3. The cats were 2 days old when we found them in a box. They were too young to be neutered. We have 1 dog of our own. I am not an animal hoarder. 3. I do not use sex as a bartering tool in my marriage. I added the blow job part to my original post as a way of saying that DH is well taken care of physically, meaning that he can't complain that he doesn't want to do anything because his needs aren't being met. 4. Craigslist CAN be dangerous. I was robbed when I went to buy a car once. 5. He has told me he will do it. 6. When it comes to short term requests-he is amazing. If I ask him to handle dinner-he does it. If I ask him to take out the trash-he does it. If I ask him to take my car for an oil change-he does it. 7. Again, you are making so many assumptions. |
Anonymous
| Honestly, this sounds like typical male behavior. My husband is great with the short term stuff too. If I have an appointment or just want to get out of the house alone on weekends and I say, "please unload the dishwasher and vacuum in the basement while I'm gone" it's done, 100% of the time. But my husband would drag his feet on something like this too until I finally blew up on him about it 6-12 months later. I don't know why they do this but pretty much all my long-term married friends say the same thing! |
Anonymous
OP, you sure do like to stir the pot and then play victim, don't you? Let's start with your inflammatory thread title. Your husband doesn't force you to be a nagging bitch. You choose to be one. You were hoping posters would jump on your bandwagon and vilify your DH. But most of them told you the truth. Grow a pair and deal with it yourself. To be generous, I might say that the real issue isn't about you being a bitch but more about how you and your DH have different expectations and you need to work it out and both contribute to your household with mutually agreed upon effort. But since you aren't at all a sympathetic poster and have shown in your OP little to no respect for your DH, I'll spare you that wisdom. Let's instead rip down your smarmy followup. 1. If the desk is his and he wants to keep it, get over it. There are many ways to get out cat piss smell. Spend ten minutes on Google and fix your problem. If he doesn't care about the desk and you want it gone, Google the many ways to have junk hauled away and do it yourself. You're not helpless. 2. No one cares who decided to foster the cats. It's irrelevant. If you can't deal with the downside of fostering cats, then read point 1. above and deal with it. 3. Irrelevant. 4. I think you're lying but it doesn't matter. If you don't like Craigslist, there are plenty of other ways to dispose of junk. 5. Yeah, but he hasn't because it apparently isn't important to him. If it's important to you, DO IT YOURSELF. 6. Irrelevant. 7. Again, you are a pot stirrer who started a thread to bash your DH and make some nonsense accusation that he forces you to be a bitch. That is far worse than any assumptions PPs might have made. You created this ugly thread. Own it. Grow a pair, and deal with your simple problem. You are seriously the ugly of DCUM. |
Anonymous
| wow OP. I posted awhile back and commented about how I was in a similar situation pre-marriage and also how off the rails this thread had gotten. it's even crazier now. sorry about all the shit you're getting. I understand where you're coming from |