My husband forces me to be a nagging b***h

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. You people certainly like to make assumptions.

1. The desk is his. He brought it into the marriage and it contains his stuff. I'm not going to make arrangements to get rid of something that is not mine.

2. The choice to foster the cats was OURS. We work in animal rescue. That is actually how we met.

3. The cats were 2 days old when we found them in a box. They were too young to be neutered. We have 1 dog of our own. I am not an animal hoarder.

3. I do not use sex as a bartering tool in my marriage. I added the blow job part to my original post as a way of saying that DH is well taken care of physically, meaning that he can't complain that he doesn't want to do anything because his needs aren't being met.

4. Craigslist CAN be dangerous. I was robbed when I went to buy a car once.

5. He has told me he will do it.

6. When it comes to short term requests-he is amazing. If I ask him to handle dinner-he does it. If I ask him to take out the trash-he does it. If I ask him to take my car for an oil change-he does it.

7. Again, you are making so many assumptions.

OP, you sure do like to stir the pot and then play victim, don't you? Let's start with your inflammatory thread title. Your husband doesn't force you to be a nagging bitch. You choose to be one. You were hoping posters would jump on your bandwagon and vilify your DH. But most of them told you the truth. Grow a pair and deal with it yourself.

To be generous, I might say that the real issue isn't about you being a bitch but more about how you and your DH have different expectations and you need to work it out and both contribute to your household with mutually agreed upon effort. But since you aren't at all a sympathetic poster and have shown in your OP little to no respect for your DH, I'll spare you that wisdom.

Let's instead rip down your smarmy followup.

1. If the desk is his and he wants to keep it, get over it. There are many ways to get out cat piss smell. Spend ten minutes on Google and fix your problem. If he doesn't care about the desk and you want it gone, Google the many ways to have junk hauled away and do it yourself. You're not helpless.

2. No one cares who decided to foster the cats. It's irrelevant. If you can't deal with the downside of fostering cats, then read point 1. above and deal with it.

3. Irrelevant.

4. I think you're lying but it doesn't matter. If you don't like Craigslist, there are plenty of other ways to dispose of junk.

5. Yeah, but he hasn't because it apparently isn't important to him. If it's important to you, DO IT YOURSELF.

6. Irrelevant.

7. Again, you are a pot stirrer who started a thread to bash your DH and make some nonsense accusation that he forces you to be a bitch. That is far worse than any assumptions PPs might have made. You created this ugly thread. Own it. Grow a pair, and deal with your simple problem.

You are seriously the ugly of DCUM.

Wow. You win the Internet. You sure sure showed her. Tool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. You people certainly like to make assumptions.

1. The desk is his. He brought it into the marriage and it contains his stuff. I'm not going to make arrangements to get rid of something that is not mine.

2. The choice to foster the cats was OURS. We work in animal rescue. That is actually how we met.

3. The cats were 2 days old when we found them in a box. They were too young to be neutered. We have 1 dog of our own. I am not an animal hoarder.

3. I do not use sex as a bartering tool in my marriage. I added the blow job part to my original post as a way of saying that DH is well taken care of physically, meaning that he can't complain that he doesn't want to do anything because his needs aren't being met.

4. Craigslist CAN be dangerous. I was robbed when I went to buy a car once.

5. He has told me he will do it.

6. When it comes to short term requests-he is amazing. If I ask him to handle dinner-he does it. If I ask him to take out the trash-he does it. If I ask him to take my car for an oil change-he does it.

7. Again, you are making so many assumptions.

OP, you sure do like to stir the pot and then play victim, don't you? Let's start with your inflammatory thread title. Your husband doesn't force you to be a nagging bitch. You choose to be one. You were hoping posters would jump on your bandwagon and vilify your DH. But most of them told you the truth. Grow a pair and deal with it yourself.

To be generous, I might say that the real issue isn't about you being a bitch but more about how you and your DH have different expectations and you need to work it out and both contribute to your household with mutually agreed upon effort. But since you aren't at all a sympathetic poster and have shown in your OP little to no respect for your DH, I'll spare you that wisdom.

Let's instead rip down your smarmy followup.

1. If the desk is his and he wants to keep it, get over it. There are many ways to get out cat piss smell. Spend ten minutes on Google and fix your problem. If he doesn't care about the desk and you want it gone, Google the many ways to have junk hauled away and do it yourself. You're not helpless.

2. No one cares who decided to foster the cats. It's irrelevant. If you can't deal with the downside of fostering cats, then read point 1. above and deal with it.

3. Irrelevant.

4. I think you're lying but it doesn't matter. If you don't like Craigslist, there are plenty of other ways to dispose of junk.

5. Yeah, but he hasn't because it apparently isn't important to him. If it's important to you, DO IT YOURSELF.

6. Irrelevant.

7. Again, you are a pot stirrer who started a thread to bash your DH and make some nonsense accusation that he forces you to be a bitch. That is far worse than any assumptions PPs might have made. You created this ugly thread. Own it. Grow a pair, and deal with your simple problem.

You are seriously the ugly of DCUM.

It seems that you've turned a simple problem into an ugly thread.

[Anonymous]

I don't think any disagreement forces you to or makes it ok to lose your shit, and it seems to be a pattern for OP. What discussion is really needed beyond that?

[Anonymous]

I still want to know if OP is a maid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. You people certainly like to make assumptions.

1. The desk is his. He brought it into the marriage and it contains his stuff. I'm not going to make arrangements to get rid of something that is not mine.

2. The choice to foster the cats was OURS. We work in animal rescue. That is actually how we met.

3. The cats were 2 days old when we found them in a box. They were too young to be neutered. We have 1 dog of our own. I am not an animal hoarder.

3. I do not use sex as a bartering tool in my marriage. I added the blow job part to my original post as a way of saying that DH is well taken care of physically, meaning that he can't complain that he doesn't want to do anything because his needs aren't being met.

4. Craigslist CAN be dangerous. I was robbed when I went to buy a car once.

5. He has told me he will do it.

6. When it comes to short term requests-he is amazing. If I ask him to handle dinner-he does it. If I ask him to take out the trash-he does it. If I ask him to take my car for an oil change-he does it.

7. Again, you are making so many assumptions.

OP, you sure do like to stir the pot and then play victim, don't you? Let's start with your inflammatory thread title. Your husband doesn't force you to be a nagging bitch. You choose to be one. You were hoping posters would jump on your bandwagon and vilify your DH. But most of them told you the truth. Grow a pair and deal with it yourself.

To be generous, I might say that the real issue isn't about you being a bitch but more about how you and your DH have different expectations and you need to work it out and both contribute to your household with mutually agreed upon effort. But since you aren't at all a sympathetic poster and have shown in your OP little to no respect for your DH, I'll spare you that wisdom.

Let's instead rip down your smarmy followup.

1. If the desk is his and he wants to keep it, get over it. There are many ways to get out cat piss smell. Spend ten minutes on Google and fix your problem. If he doesn't care about the desk and you want it gone, Google the many ways to have junk hauled away and do it yourself. You're not helpless.

2. No one cares who decided to foster the cats. It's irrelevant. If you can't deal with the downside of fostering cats, then read point 1. above and deal with it.

3. Irrelevant.

4. I think you're lying but it doesn't matter. If you don't like Craigslist, there are plenty of other ways to dispose of junk.

5. Yeah, but he hasn't because it apparently isn't important to him. If it's important to you, DO IT YOURSELF.

6. Irrelevant.

7. Again, you are a pot stirrer who started a thread to bash your DH and make some nonsense accusation that he forces you to be a bitch. That is far worse than any assumptions PPs might have made. You created this ugly thread. Own it. Grow a pair, and deal with your simple problem.

You are seriously the ugly of DCUM.

It seems that you've turned a simple problem into an ugly thread.

The OP did that on her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. You people certainly like to make assumptions.

1. The desk is his. He brought it into the marriage and it contains his stuff. I'm not going to make arrangements to get rid of something that is not mine.

2. The choice to foster the cats was OURS. We work in animal rescue. That is actually how we met.

3. The cats were 2 days old when we found them in a box. They were too young to be neutered. We have 1 dog of our own. I am not an animal hoarder.

3. I do not use sex as a bartering tool in my marriage. I added the blow job part to my original post as a way of saying that DH is well taken care of physically, meaning that he can't complain that he doesn't want to do anything because his needs aren't being met.

4. Craigslist CAN be dangerous. I was robbed when I went to buy a car once.

5. He has told me he will do it.

6. When it comes to short term requests-he is amazing. If I ask him to handle dinner-he does it. If I ask him to take out the trash-he does it. If I ask him to take my car for an oil change-he does it.

7. Again, you are making so many assumptions.

OP, you sure do like to stir the pot and then play victim, don't you? Let's start with your inflammatory thread title. Your husband doesn't force you to be a nagging bitch. You choose to be one. You were hoping posters would jump on your bandwagon and vilify your DH. But most of them told you the truth. Grow a pair and deal with it yourself.

To be generous, I might say that the real issue isn't about you being a bitch but more about how you and your DH have different expectations and you need to work it out and both contribute to your household with mutually agreed upon effort. But since you aren't at all a sympathetic poster and have shown in your OP little to no respect for your DH, I'll spare you that wisdom.

Let's instead rip down your smarmy followup.

1. If the desk is his and he wants to keep it, get over it. There are many ways to get out cat piss smell. Spend ten minutes on Google and fix your problem. If he doesn't care about the desk and you want it gone, Google the many ways to have junk hauled away and do it yourself. You're not helpless.

2. No one cares who decided to foster the cats. It's irrelevant. If you can't deal with the downside of fostering cats, then read point 1. above and deal with it.

3. Irrelevant.

4. I think you're lying but it doesn't matter. If you don't like Craigslist, there are plenty of other ways to dispose of junk.

5. Yeah, but he hasn't because it apparently isn't important to him. If it's important to you, DO IT YOURSELF.

6. Irrelevant.

7. Again, you are a pot stirrer who started a thread to bash your DH and make some nonsense accusation that he forces you to be a bitch. That is far worse than any assumptions PPs might have made. You created this ugly thread. Own it. Grow a pair, and deal with your simple problem.

You are seriously the ugly of DCUM.

It seems that you've turned a simple problem into an ugly thread.

The OP did that on her own.

I beg to differ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wow OP. I posted awhile back and commented about how I was in a similar situation pre-marriage and also how off the rails this thread had gotten. it's even crazier now. sorry about all the shit you're getting. I understand where you're coming from

You two poor, helpless babies. Just two more reasons to never get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:wow OP. I posted awhile back and commented about how I was in a similar situation pre-marriage and also how off the rails this thread had gotten. it's even crazier now. sorry about all the shit you're getting. I understand where you're coming from

You two poor, helpless babies. Just two more reasons to never get married.

Yet...here you are on a Saturday afternoon commenting on an abandoned thread. Your home life must be aces.

[Anonymous]

He says sure because that's the quickest and easiest way to get you to shut up.

I think if you asked him and it didn't happen you could and should have just handled it instead of nagging and stewing about it for two months since the desk and the carpet and the smell were issues for you.

Also, this is who he is. It is likely who he has always been. You either adjust to that -- outsource various things -- or divorce.

[Anonymous]

You are choosing to be a nagging bitch. Nobody makes anyone do anything. If he's not doing, pay someone to haul the sh*t away. Take responsibility for your own behavior and decisions.