My husband forces me to be a nagging b***h

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you read the original post, you will see that he doesn't say he will do it, just that she tells him to do it.

Actually she says "he barely acknowledges me and then never does it" which I take to mean he just casually says "sure" or "mhm" and does t give it much thought after that. If Someone says that, they are in fact saying they will do it. Whether or not they actually intend to is up for debate.

You read minds? Awesome.

If my guy ever told me to get my motherfucking anything out of the motherfucking house, we'd be done.

[Anonymous]

I didn't even bother to read post. No one forces you, unless he's literally holding you hostage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you read the original post, you will see that he doesn't say he will do it, just that she tells him to do it.

Actually she says "he barely acknowledges me and then never does it" which I take to mean he just casually says "sure" or "mhm" and does t give it much thought after that. If Someone says that, they are in fact saying they will do it. Whether or not they actually intend to is up for debate.

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He says "sure" because if he said "no, your damn cats messed it up, so you deal with it", he'd never hear the end of it. Seriously, why does she get to decide it's his problem? Since when is a penis required to call a junk company to take a desk away?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you read the original post, you will see that he doesn't say he will do it, just that she tells him to do it.

Actually she says "he barely acknowledges me and then never does it" which I take to mean he just casually says "sure" or "mhm" and does t give it much thought after that. If Someone says that, they are in fact saying they will do it. Whether or not they actually intend to is up for debate.

Exactly.

He sounds like a weasel, tbh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you read the original post, you will see that he doesn't say he will do it, just that she tells him to do it.

Actually she says "he barely acknowledges me and then never does it" which I take to mean he just casually says "sure" or "mhm" and does t give it much thought after that. If Someone says that, they are in fact saying they will do it. Whether or not they actually intend to is up for debate.

You read minds? Awesome.

If my guy ever told me to get my motherfucking anything out of the motherfucking house, we'd be done.

No, I read the text Supplied by the OP. You should try it. Idk how you went from the op saying her husband acknowledges he will do it to me reading his mind? I already said I don't know whether he intends to do it just because he said yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you read the original post, you will see that he doesn't say he will do it, just that she tells him to do it.

Actually she says "he barely acknowledges me and then never does it" which I take to mean he just casually says "sure" or "mhm" and does t give it much thought after that. If Someone says that, they are in fact saying they will do it. Whether or not they actually intend to is up for debate.

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He says "sure" because if he said "no, your damn cats messed it up, so you deal with it", he'd never hear the end of it. Seriously, why does she get to decide it's his problem? Since when is a penis required to call a junk company to take a desk away?

If he has a problem with it he can try telling her that instead of saying he will do it for 2 months. That's not how a marriage works (at least not one that doesn't end in divorce)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you read the original post, you will see that he doesn't say he will do it, just that she tells him to do it.

Actually she says "he barely acknowledges me and then never does it" which I take to mean he just casually says "sure" or "mhm" and does t give it much thought after that. If Someone says that, they are in fact saying they will do it. Whether or not they actually intend to is up for debate.

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He says "sure" because if he said "no, your damn cats messed it up, so you deal with it", he'd never hear the end of it. Seriously, why does she get to decide it's his problem? Since when is a penis required to call a junk company to take a desk away?

Clearly, OP's dialing finger must have been broken for 2 months. If only she had a penis, she would have an alternative for dialing.

[Anonymous]

He sounds super passive aggressive OP.

I think the no sex, hire someone else to do it rule is a good one.

Maybe it will wake him from his laziness stupor

[Anonymous]

OP, saturate everything in that room with Nature's Miracle. That will help a lot. Cat pee is the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds super passive aggressive OP.

I think the no sex, hire someone else to do it rule is a good one.

Maybe it will wake him from his laziness stupor [/quote
People are not passive aggressive because they are lazy...tbh I think the biggest take away from this is that op and hubby need to attend couples counseling ....using sex or the lack thereof as a form of punishment is a terrible idea and will strain an already tumultuous marriage even further.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, saturate everything in that room with Nature's Miracle. That will help a lot. Cat pee is the worst.

This is why we made sure our second cat was female...(first cat male) Luckily neither of them has ever sprayed.

[Anonymous]

I'm not going try to read the whole thread, but I have to say that I don't understand the premise.

Why not just remove the desk yourself, or pay someone else to do it? I'm not saying your husband isn't being a jerk, but I don't understand your feeling of helplessness.

Don't constantly put yourself in a position of asking and waiting for your spouse to do stuff. Either do something, or don't do it. When he doesn't get it done in a reasonable amount of time, just hire someone to do it and when he complains just explain that you asked him 5x to do it and finally decided to take matters into your own hands. Don't yell; just get things done.

Basically, don't be helpless because your husband is lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds super passive aggressive OP.

I think the no sex, hire someone else to do it rule is a good one.

Maybe it will wake him from his laziness stupor [/quote
People are not passive aggressive because they are lazy...tbh I think the biggest take away from this is that op and hubby need to attend couples counseling ....using sex or the lack thereof as a form of punishment is a terrible idea and will strain an already tumultuous marriage even further.

He sounds both passive aggressive and lazy, which is a nasty combo. I dont think it's necessarily using sex as a form of punishment. But if one person cant be responsible and considerate of the other- that's not a person I feel like sleeping with. And hopefully her DH will realize that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No blowjobs, no sex until he can help around the house more.

Or let him know that you will be hiring a cleaning person and taking it out of the household funds since he isn't willing to do an equal share.

x2. You are not a maid.

Wait, how do you know she isn't a maid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No blowjobs, no sex until he can help around the house more.

Or let him know that you will be hiring a cleaning person and taking it out of the household funds since he isn't willing to do an equal share.

x2. You are not a maid.

Wait, how do you know she isn't a maid?

Even if that's her career, at her home- that's not her role/identity. She is a wife, and equal partner to her husband.

If she's a maid, he is too. Or at least he needs to take up an equitable share of roles that she is alright with.