My husband forces me to be a nagging b***h

[Anonymous]

Withholding sex sounds like a terrible strategy and will probably make the situation worse than it already is. Op and hubby have a lack of communication of what is expected (maybe not on her part, but he's clearly not seeing her eye to eye on this) witholding sex isn't going to make that better, at least not in the long term. That's more like how you would punish a child , and hubby may react by growing resentful and passive aggressive . He needs to come to understand why it's important to you that the Chore is done at that moment and not in one of his choosing. Therapy helps. I'm serious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Withholding sex sounds like a terrible strategy and will probably make the situation worse than it already is. Op and hubby have a lack of communication of what is expected (maybe not on her part, but he's clearly not seeing her eye to eye on this) witholding sex isn't going to make that better, at least not in the long term. That's more like how you would punish a child , and hubby may react by growing resentful and passive aggressive . He needs to come to understand why it's important to you that the Chore is done at that moment and not in one of his choosing. Therapy helps. I'm serious.

Withholding sex is never a good control strategy. Sex is not currency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

You should read the title and original post. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Withholding sex sounds like a terrible strategy and will probably make the situation worse than it already is. Op and hubby have a lack of communication of what is expected (maybe not on her part, but he's clearly not seeing her eye to eye on this) witholding sex isn't going to make that better, at least not in the long term. That's more like how you would punish a child , and hubby may react by growing resentful and passive aggressive . He needs to come to understand why it's important to you that the Chore is done at that moment and not in one of his choosing. Therapy helps. I'm serious.

Withholding sex is never a good control strategy. Sex is not currency. [/quote
Offering sex in return for services rendered is also never a good control strategy lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

You should read the title and original post. Seriously.

Calm down. Women call themselves bitches all the time. It's really not a huge big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

You should read the title and original post. Seriously.

Calm down. Women call themselves bitches all the time. It's really not a huge big deal.

I think PP was referring to the part where she says she "yells at him till he does it"

I don't think this is the OPs fault, but I think the yelling is making it worse and doing nothing to teach her husband what he is doing wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

You should read the title and original post. Seriously.

Calm down. Women call themselves bitches all the time. It's really not a huge big deal.

I think PP was referring to the part where she says she "yells at him till he does it"

I don't think this is the OPs fault, but I think the yelling is making it worse and doing nothing to teach her husband what he is doing wrong.

I think if someone's a lazy asshole they're a lazy asshole regardless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

You should read the title and original post. Seriously.

Calm down. Women call themselves bitches all the time. It's really not a huge big deal.

I think PP was referring to the part where she says she "yells at him till he does it"

I don't think this is the OPs fault, but I think the yelling is making it worse and doing nothing to teach her husband what he is doing wrong.

I think if someone's a lazy asshole they're a lazy asshole regardless.

Yup, but with the right motivation even the laziest asshole can change. I did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

You should read the title and original post. Seriously.

Calm down. Women call themselves bitches all the time. It's really not a huge big deal.

I think PP was referring to the part where she says she "yells at him till he does it"

I don't think this is the OPs fault, but I think the yelling is making it worse and doing nothing to teach her husband what he is doing wrong.

The yelling at him and saying he "forces" her to be a bitch. It's a choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

You should read the title and original post. Seriously.

Calm down. Women call themselves bitches all the time. It's really not a huge big deal.

I think PP was referring to the part where she says she "yells at him till he does it"

I don't think this is the OPs fault, but I think the yelling is making it worse and doing nothing to teach her husband what he is doing wrong.

The yelling at him and saying he "forces" her to be a bitch. It's a choice.

Yes. But so is telling your wife you are going to do something for two months and still not doing it.

[Anonymous]

If you read the original post, you will see that he doesn't say he will do it, just that she tells him to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't go ballistic. You don't have the right to be abusive because he doesn't do as he is told. He is not your child.

Any chance you nitpick about the chores he has done before?

HUH? I guess the point where OP said she was considering beating her DH with a tire iron...

A tire iron is required for it to qualify as abuse? Losing your shit and yelling at your spouse because they won't obey is abuse.

No it's not.

Every time your spouse gets mad and yells, it is not necessarily "abuse". There are clear cut characteristics of abuse and it's genuinely awful for you to try to apply it to OP getting frustrated at her spouse.

GTFOOH.

You should read the title and original post. Seriously.

Calm down. Women call themselves bitches all the time. It's really not a huge big deal.

I think PP was referring to the part where she says she "yells at him till he does it"

I don't think this is the OPs fault, but I think the yelling is making it worse and doing nothing to teach her husband what he is doing wrong.

I think if someone's a lazy asshole they're a lazy asshole regardless.

Yup, but with the right motivation even the laziest asshole can change. I did.

Eh. But no one wants to have to be the "miracle worker" for a lazy asshole, or even be around one. I dont blame someone for shouting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you read the original post, you will see that he doesn't say he will do it, just that she tells him to do it.

Actually she says "he barely acknowledges me and then never does it" which I take to mean he just casually says "sure" or "mhm" and does t give it much thought after that. If Someone says that, they are in fact saying they will do it. Whether or not they actually intend to is up for debate.