Spending 30k on a ring?

[Anonymous]

She will love the idea of getting a large rock. But, it is highly likely that she will return it for something else. So expect that and you will not be disappointed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a practical minded, frugal woman. I would not have liked such an expensive ring. We got one for less than $100 which I love.

I also don't like cut flowers. They don't last very long and die quickly and are really expensive. Does she like cut flowers? If she does, she might like grand romantic gestures like the described ring.

+1 (except I love cut flowers)

Some women really, truly don't care about diamonds, rings, size, price, or any of those things. Some are even actually kind of repulsed by the idea of spending THIRTY THOUSAND DOLLARS on something so tiny.

I'd rather go on a few really great vacations, or put it towards a house. I completely don't understand engagement rings, let alone expensive engagement rings. But some people care very, very much about them.

This is something you should maybe privately bring up to those closest to her and ask for advice, as none of us know your girlfriend.

+1 I would be repulsed. It's beyond extravagant. I have no issue with people wanting comfortable lives, but there is a tipping point at which extravagance (in my view) becomes almost unethical. But that's a huge discussion for another thread.

Beyond the ethics, I would not feel comfortable wearing a ring that expensive out and about.

But no one on here knows your girlfriend and what she'd like or dislike. I will say that if she's into that kind of thing (a $30k ring), then she's not a "girl next door" type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am practical and would love a 3 carat diamond engagement ring in my preferred cut from the man I loved IF he could afford it. You can, OP. Go ahead and buy the ring and propose to your beloved. She'll wear it for the rest of her life and it will remind her of you. Congratulations, OP!

Seriously, I hate to break it to you and OP, but, no, if you're cool with a $30k ring, then you're not practical.

This thread reminds me of the the "we make 400k HHI and we're middle class." FFS, if you like extravagant things, just admit it.

Same with OP and his "she's not high maintenance." Women who are not high maintenance don't have a "my perfect ring is ..."

Whatever. I think I just need to get off of this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am totally mystified why you started this thread, given that you now are saying that you "know" she'll love it. If you know she'll love it, why did you waste all our times with asking? I click on threads asking for advice because I genuinely like to be helpful and give advice where it is sincerely sought. You clearly already knew what you wanted, so I can't understand the purpose of this whole thread.
Have a nice life.

Do you read? I said I know she will like the style of it. I started this thread to ask about the carat size and price. Her loving that style has nothing to do euth it.

[Anonymous]

I know she will love it. I'm not sure she want something this big but that's what I want her to have.

A bit of unsolicited advice OP: learn to love her the way *she* wants to be loved, not the way *you* want to love her. Or own that you are getting her something that's also for you because it's what you want, which is fine too.

Just be aware that a HUGE source of hurt feelings in a marriage is one person doing something they feel is extremely loving (because it would make them feel loved in reverse) and then not getting the reaction they expect because it doesn't make the other person feel loved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not go Blue Nile of any of those sites. I went to a jeweler in downtown Chicago. From what I've heard from him and what I've read, a 2 carat will seem smaller because of the cut, H color is best for an Asscher cut, stick with VS2 clarity because the SI1 & SI2 are not recommended with steep cuts like an Asscher.

I want to get a 2.5-3 carat. I looked on " sites" and have been shopping around with jewelers. I found majority of these diamonds to be in the 20-45k range. I will be proposing next month on vacation. I have a little time to shop still.

What you've read from literally the first website that pops up on google if you search on "Asscher cut"?

https://www.diamonds.pro/truth-about/diamond-shapes/asscher-cut-emerald-cut/

You are a dumbass, and I think this whole thread is just made up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not go Blue Nile of any of those sites. I went to a jeweler in downtown Chicago. From what I've heard from him and what I've read, a 2 carat will seem smaller because of the cut, H color is best for an Asscher cut, stick with VS2 clarity because the SI1 & SI2 are not recommended with steep cuts like an Asscher.

I want to get a 2.5-3 carat. I looked on " sites" and have been shopping around with jewelers. I found majority of these diamonds to be in the 20-45k range. I will be proposing next month on vacation. I have a little time to shop still.

What you've read from literally the first website that pops up on google if you search on "Asscher cut"?

https://www.diamonds.pro/truth-about/diamond-shapes/asscher-cut-emerald-cut/

You are a dumbass, and I think this whole thread is just made up.

I was wondering when someone would say this thread is made up. I don't buy the fact this guy is a multimillionaire or owns 2 companies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not go Blue Nile of any of those sites. I went to a jeweler in downtown Chicago. From what I've heard from him and what I've read, a 2 carat will seem smaller because of the cut, H color is best for an Asscher cut, stick with VS2 clarity because the SI1 & SI2 are not recommended with steep cuts like an Asscher.

I want to get a 2.5-3 carat. I looked on " sites" and have been shopping around with jewelers. I found majority of these diamonds to be in the 20-45k range. I will be proposing next month on vacation. I have a little time to shop still.

What you've read from literally the first website that pops up on google if you search on "Asscher cut"?

https://www.diamonds.pro/truth-about/diamond-shapes/asscher-cut-emerald-cut/

You are a dumbass, and I think this whole thread is just made up.

Omg. Hysterical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am practical and would love a 3 carat diamond engagement ring in my preferred cut from the man I loved IF he could afford it. You can, OP. Go ahead and buy the ring and propose to your beloved. She'll wear it for the rest of her life and it will remind her of you. Congratulations, OP!

Seriously, I hate to break it to you and OP, but, no, if you're cool with a $30k ring, then you're not practical.

This thread reminds me of the the "we make 400k HHI and we're middle class." FFS, if you like extravagant things, just admit it.

Same with OP and his "she's not high maintenance." Women who are not high maintenance don't have a "my perfect ring is ..."

Whatever. I think I just need to get off of this thread.

I think you do, too, pp. You are taking this way too personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am totally mystified why you started this thread, given that you now are saying that you "know" she'll love it. If you know she'll love it, why did you waste all our times with asking? I click on threads asking for advice because I genuinely like to be helpful and give advice where it is sincerely sought. You clearly already knew what you wanted, so I can't understand the purpose of this whole thread.
Have a nice life.

Do you read? I said I know she will like the style of it. I started this thread to ask about the carat size and price. Her loving that style has nothing to do euth it.

Actually, no. Your OP asked if other women would appreciate your "zany" gesture. Your follow ups keep talking about how much she will love it. Since she is the only one matters in the situation, do what you want to do.

As you've heard here, and I suspect what disappoints you, is that many women here would not appreciate your purchase. NBD. Do what you want and move on.

I suspect you wanted more posters to fawn over your choice and show their materialistic side for your amusement. A few did. That should be enough for you.

[Anonymous]

I'd go with a two carat. You can then give her a beautiful wedding band to go with it. Later another ring guard or anniversary ring.

[Anonymous]

I would not want a ring that big. I'd want a 1 carat with some side diamonds and a diamond wedding band. I'd prefer a ring and new car or retirement money for that price.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not want a ring that big. I'd want a 1 carat with some side diamonds and a diamond wedding band. I'd prefer a ring and new car or retirement money for that price.

He is worth 8 digits in his twenties. They will have all those other things even if he gets her that ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not want a ring that big. I'd want a 1 carat with some side diamonds and a diamond wedding band. I'd prefer a ring and new car or retirement money for that price.

He is worth 8 digits in his twenties. They will have all those other things even if he gets her that ring.

I'm not in my 20's. I'm turn 35 in September. I dot care what anyone says on here. This is a real post and I do own two successful companies. I come from a large line of of family running successful companies. I am what most call a " trust fund baby". Unlike most of those kids, I learned the value of a dollar and worked hard since I was a teenager to accomplish my goals. Thank you very much. I will get her the ring I feel is best for her and she will love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not want a ring that big. I'd want a 1 carat with some side diamonds and a diamond wedding band. I'd prefer a ring and new car or retirement money for that price.

He is worth 8 digits in his twenties. They will have all those other things even if he gets her that ring.

I'm not in my 20's. I'm turn 35 in September. I dot care what anyone says on here. This is a real post and I do own two successful companies. I come from a large line of of family running successful companies. I am what most call a " trust fund baby". Unlike most of those kids, I learned the value of a dollar and worked hard since I was a teenager to accomplish my goals. Thank you very much. I will get her the ring I feel is best for her and she will love.

You've managed to build two successful companies and you can't figure out a diamond? Um, okay.