Spending 30k on a ring?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does she wear expensive clothing, jewelry, etc? What socio economic status is she? What's her profession?

When I was looking at rings many large ones looked gaudy and made me self conscious. I'm in big law and most of the women in my office have modest solitaires. Two have larger flashier rings; one tries to down play it.

I would focus more of how it sparkles versus getting some massive rock. Many will think a very large ring is fake and no woman wants to have to deal with that.

I was raised on the East Coast with the notion that diamonds are better when bigger. She likes nice things but she isn't over the top with it. All her jewelry is expensive because she is allergic to fake ones. She is big city mid-west girl ( Chi-Town). My net worth is the double digit millions and she makes roughly $130,000 ( Pharmacist).

My sister took her out with an excuse to look at rings. She told my sister the only style she likes is Asscher cut with the diamond band. I don't think she cares about carat size but 2-3 seems about what my buddies got their wives.

Asscher cut faces up smaller, so 3 carat will be fine. Don't listen to people judging you because they are either jealous, or don't appreciate or enjoy jewelry. If you can afford it and she would love it, then why not?

I think a 3 ct asscher could be beautiful. But OP needs to pony up the money for a nice one. Not an H colored one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a practical, down to earth person with no interest wearing many thousands of dollars of gemstones on my finger. I told my fiancé this--NO BIG RINGS. Hell, no ring at all is fine with me. He was told by his buddies that all women want rings and he should ignore me. He compromised and got something inexpensive and perfectly fine with me. Honestly, wtf is this crazy sh!t about rings?

True to my history with jewelry, I lost my first engagement band. And my first and second wedding rings. Good thing they were all in the $200-$500 range.

I would be pissed if I were your husband. Marrying a woman who loses that many rings. Very careless on your part.

Which is why you should know your fiance. I would be pissed at a $30k frivolity intended mostly to impress other people. And with a pharmacist constantly working w her hands, probably needing to take said ring off, you're asking for it. Plus, if you're a financially astute person, you knw diamond values are mostly hype.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am getting ready to propose to the most amazing woman I've met. She's it for me and I want to do it right. I want to give her the best I can. She very
" girl next door" - not very high maintenance. I found the perfect ring for her! It's a 3 carat, Asscher cut ring with a brilliant cut and colorless. The band is
" Classic" with tiny diamonds. It's roughly 30k. The price is not an issue, but I know she is very practical and a bit frugal. Ladies, would you appreciate/zany a ring like that? I, like most men, are a little clueless at this.

You, unlike most men, are stupid enough to spend $30k on a ring.

[Anonymous]

So money is no expense but you're settling for h color and vs2, not even vs1?

Lmao.

That jeweler is taking you for a ride. Men need to learn that size is not everything.

Get a better 2 CT diamond. Don't go below F in color, VVS2 in clarity or ideal cut.

I'm not a multimillionare, just a six-figure pauper, lol but H color would be a little frowned up.
In the moment, your gf will be thrilled and love anything you present her but with time, as she compares it with her friends, and has time to think about it, she will know that quality was sacrificed for size.

If you're going to spend $30k, gets the best diamond that you can, not the biggest. This is not it. For the desired specs I listed above a 3ct diamond would easily cost double what you've been quoted. You're not getting a bargain but a large-ish mediocre stone.

So mediocre, lol. Do better and get your money's worth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am practical and frugal and that would be too much for me. (The ring, regardless of cost). You need to get an idea of what she would like somehow. Even if I won something like that completely for free I don't think I would wear it.

Mine is a high quality round solitaire, about 1ct. I wouldn't want much bigger or flashier. The bigger stone doesn't mean you love her more. Knowing what she likes is more important.

As I've already written, I know she loves this style. My sister and her best friend went out shopping. My sister is renewing he vows and went to look at rings. My girlfriend pointed out what she likes. She was specific on how her " perfect" ring would be Asscher cut, with either a solitaire or diamond band. He didn't say anything about carat size. She is somewhat frugal but still spends on clothes, makeup, etc. I know she will love it. I'm not sure she want something this big but that's what I want her to have. She is very practical but I know she will love it.

Here's the thing. If you are willing to blow $30k Ina ring, when your practical girls parents or never do well sister need money, will you happily pony up b/c you are setting expectations here that $30k is walking around money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am getting ready to propose to the most amazing woman I've met. She's it for me and I want to do it right. I want to give her the best I can. She very
" girl next door" - not very high maintenance. I found the perfect ring for her! It's a 3 carat, Asscher cut ring with a brilliant cut and colorless. The band is
" Classic" with tiny diamonds. It's roughly 30k. The price is not an issue, but I know she is very practical and a bit frugal. Ladies, would you appreciate/zany a ring like that? I, like most men, are a little clueless at this.

You, unlike most men, are stupid enough to spend $30k on a ring.

I know. I'm surprised he's a successful business owner?

[Anonymous]

Sounds kind of frugal for a 3 ct diamond engagement ring. Costco has a 3 ct asscher for $39,999.00 on their website.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am practical and frugal and that would be too much for me. (The ring, regardless of cost). You need to get an idea of what she would like somehow. Even if I won something like that completely for free I don't think I would wear it.

Mine is a high quality round solitaire, about 1ct. I wouldn't want much bigger or flashier. The bigger stone doesn't mean you love her more. Knowing what she likes is more important.

As I've already written, I know she loves this style. My sister and her best friend went out shopping. My sister is renewing he vows and went to look at rings. My girlfriend pointed out what she likes. She was specific on how her " perfect" ring would be Asscher cut, with either a solitaire or diamond band. He didn't say anything about carat size. She is somewhat frugal but still spends on clothes, makeup, etc. I know she will love it. I'm not sure she want something this big but that's what I want her to have. She is very practical but I know she will love it.

Here's the thing. If you are willing to blow $30k Ina ring, when your practical girls parents or never do well sister need money, will you happily pony up b/c you are setting expectations here that $30k is walking around money.

This is a great point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So money is no expense but you're settling for h color and vs2, not even vs1?

Lmao.

That jeweler is taking you for a ride. Men need to learn that size is not everything.

Get a better 2 CT diamond. Don't go below F in color, VVS2 in clarity or ideal cut.

I'm not a multimillionare, just a six-figure pauper, lol but H color would be a little frowned up.
In the moment, your gf will be thrilled and love anything you present her but with time, as she compares it with her friends, and has time to think about it, she will know that quality was sacrificed for size.

If you're going to spend $30k, gets the best diamond that you can, not the biggest. This is not it. For the desired specs I listed above a 3ct diamond would easily cost double what you've been quoted. You're not getting a bargain but a large-ish mediocre stone.

So mediocre, lol. Do better and get your money's worth.

difference between vs2 and vs1 is negligible, at best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am practical and frugal and that would be too much for me. (The ring, regardless of cost). You need to get an idea of what she would like somehow. Even if I won something like that completely for free I don't think I would wear it.

Mine is a high quality round solitaire, about 1ct. I wouldn't want much bigger or flashier. The bigger stone doesn't mean you love her more. Knowing what she likes is more important.

As I've already written, I know she loves this style. My sister and her best friend went out shopping. My sister is renewing he vows and went to look at rings. My girlfriend pointed out what she likes. She was specific on how her " perfect" ring would be Asscher cut, with either a solitaire or diamond band. He didn't say anything about carat size. She is somewhat frugal but still spends on clothes, makeup, etc. I know she will love it. I'm not sure she want something this big but that's what I want her to have. She is very practical but I know she will love it.

Here's the thing. If you are willing to blow $30k Ina ring, when your practical girls parents or never do well sister need money, will you happily pony up b/c you are setting expectations here that $30k is walking around money.

This is a great point.

this is an absurd point. why would your sister or in laws be entitled to anything or assume anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am getting ready to propose to the most amazing woman I've met. She's it for me and I want to do it right. I want to give her the best I can. She very
" girl next door" - not very high maintenance. I found the perfect ring for her! It's a 3 carat, Asscher cut ring with a brilliant cut and colorless. The band is
" Classic" with tiny diamonds. It's roughly 30k. The price is not an issue, but I know she is very practical and a bit frugal. Ladies, would you appreciate/zany a ring like that? I, like most men, are a little clueless at this.

You, unlike most men, are stupid enough to spend $30k on a ring.

I know. I'm surprised he's a successful business owner?

I don't think the OP really is a dual business owner, or makes the money he is claiming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds kind of frugal for a 3 ct diamond engagement ring. Costco has a 3 ct asscher for $39,999.00 on their website.

That's because OP is going for only minimally acceptable quality. Anything worse than H is basically piss-colored, he's going for the cheapest 3-carat Asscher cut he can get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am getting ready to propose to the most amazing woman I've met. She's it for me and I want to do it right. I want to give her the best I can. She very
" girl next door" - not very high maintenance. I found the perfect ring for her! It's a 3 carat, Asscher cut ring with a brilliant cut and colorless. The band is
" Classic" with tiny diamonds. It's roughly 30k. The price is not an issue, but I know she is very practical and a bit frugal. Ladies, would you appreciate/zany a ring like that? I, like most men, are a little clueless at this.

You, unlike most men, are stupid enough to spend $30k on a ring.

I know. I'm surprised he's a successful business owner?

I don't think the OP really is a dual business owner, or makes the money he is claiming.

Oh, I think he might be, but the part he snuck in later is that he inherited the money, if not the businesses. It's easy to "own two businesses" if granddaddy passed them on to you and you hire competent folks to do the actual running of them.

[Anonymous]

OP I am as big a trust fund baby as it gets. I am 35 and just bought an engagement ring and actually came to this forum because I felt a little insecure about the ring I bought.

I'm realizing now that by engaging in this process of worry I am just refusing to get off the hamster wheel. In the grand scheme of things this is a pretty insignificant question (that we are both pondering) and the question is based around society conditioning us to be a certain way, but it is on me (or you) for playing into the game (and making us worried).

Get what ever you feel like getting her, and just be happy about it. If she likes it then great you made her happy, you can't put a price on that. Try and get a ring with a return policy so if she doesn't like it, you can exchange it.

Do what you think is right, but for gods sake man, just be positive! Forget about what other people think. Love is real; values attached to little rocks are insignificant compared to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am practical and frugal and that would be too much for me. (The ring, regardless of cost). You need to get an idea of what she would like somehow. Even if I won something like that completely for free I don't think I would wear it.

Mine is a high quality round solitaire, about 1ct. I wouldn't want much bigger or flashier. The bigger stone doesn't mean you love her more. Knowing what she likes is more important.

As I've already written, I know she loves this style. My sister and her best friend went out shopping. My sister is renewing he vows and went to look at rings. My girlfriend pointed out what she likes. She was specific on how her " perfect" ring would be Asscher cut, with either a solitaire or diamond band. He didn't say anything about carat size. She is somewhat frugal but still spends on clothes, makeup, etc. I know she will love it. I'm not sure she want something this big but that's what I want her to have. She is very practical but I know she will love it.

Here's the thing. If you are willing to blow $30k Ina ring, when your practical girls parents or never do well sister need money, will you happily pony up b/c you are setting expectations here that $30k is walking around money.

This is a great point.

this is an absurd point. why would your sister or in laws be entitled to anything or assume anything?

They wouldn't be "entitled". They'd be family, who might need help. Marriages, good ones, unite families. If my husband could put 30K on my hand but wouldn't help out a family member in dire straights, it'd be problematic.