Spending 30k on a ring?

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Anonymous wrote:You should buy a high quality diamond

Uhhh a 30k 3 ct ring is most likely high quality

No it isn't. A high quality 3 carat diamond costs a lot more than $30k.

I just did a quick search. For one with good color (F), decent clarity (VVS2) and only good for the cut, it is $68k. And that isn't even a high quality 3 carat asscher b/c of the cut. Cut and color are most important and the cut of that one is average, not ideal or very good. Diamond prices increase exponentially, not in a straight line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would prefer a new car and a smaller, less expensive ring for that price. That would be a great way to propose. Drive up in a new car with the ring hiding in it somewhere.

He's a multimillionaire, and he already has a new house and cars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should buy a high quality diamond

Uhhh a 30k 3 ct ring is most likely high quality

No it isn't. A high quality 3 carat diamond costs a lot more than $30k.

I just did a quick search. For one with good color (F), decent clarity (VVS2) and only good for the cut, it is $68k. And that isn't even a high quality 3 carat asscher b/c of the cut. Cut and color are most important and the cut of that one is average, not ideal or very good. Diamond prices increase exponentially, not in a straight line.

Agreed, I'm looking on Blue Nile and a 2 carat Asscher cut with an ideal cut, D-F color, and VVS2 or better clarity is $31K. (That's before the ring setting itself.) If you go all the way to D in color and VVS1, for 30K you can get about 1.7-1.8 carats.

If you've got the money, you should get a very good quality diamond. Large diamonds look cheap. A 1.5 carat very sparkly diamond will look much more impressive.

If neither of you can tell the difference, don't bother spending 30K on a ring.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I did not go Blue Nile of any of those sites. I went to a jeweler in downtown Chicago. From what I've heard from him and what I've read, a 2 carat will seem smaller because of the cut, H color is best for an Asscher cut, stick with VS2 clarity because the SI1 & SI2 are not recommended with steep cuts like an Asscher.

I want to get a 2.5-3 carat. I looked on " sites" and have been shopping around with jewelers. I found majority of these diamonds to be in the 20-45k range. I will be proposing next month on vacation. I have a little time to shop still.

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I am practical and frugal and that would be too much for me. (The ring, regardless of cost). You need to get an idea of what she would like somehow. Even if I won something like that completely for free I don't think I would wear it.

Mine is a high quality round solitaire, about 1ct. I wouldn't want much bigger or flashier. The bigger stone doesn't mean you love her more. Knowing what she likes is more important.

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Anonymous wrote:I am practical and frugal and that would be too much for me. (The ring, regardless of cost). You need to get an idea of what she would like somehow. Even if I won something like that completely for free I don't think I would wear it.

Mine is a high quality round solitaire, about 1ct. I wouldn't want much bigger or flashier. The bigger stone doesn't mean you love her more. Knowing what she likes is more important.

As I've already written, I know she loves this style. My sister and her best friend went out shopping. My sister is renewing he vows and went to look at rings. My girlfriend pointed out what she likes. She was specific on how her " perfect" ring would be Asscher cut, with either a solitaire or diamond band. He didn't say anything about carat size. She is somewhat frugal but still spends on clothes, makeup, etc. I know she will love it. I'm not sure she want something this big but that's what I want her to have. She is very practical but I know she will love it.

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OP, just get what you want.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not go Blue Nile of any of those sites. I went to a jeweler in downtown Chicago. From what I've heard from him and what I've read, a 2 carat will seem smaller because of the cut, H color is best for an Asscher cut, stick with VS2 clarity because the SI1 & SI2 are not recommended with steep cuts like an Asscher.

I want to get a 2.5-3 carat. I looked on " sites" and have been shopping around with jewelers. I found majority of these diamonds to be in the 20-45k range. I will be proposing next month on vacation. I have a little time to shop still.

H color is not best for any cut. That makes zero sense. D is the best. What is the grade of the cut? That is what is most important. Don't go below very good and preferably go with ideal. Cut is what determines sparkle and how the diamond looks to the eye. Then color.

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Anonymous wrote:You never buy an expensive ring until you're years into the marriage. Something nice but not $30,000. Have you lost your mind ? If this doesn't work out you'll be out the cost of a car. She WILL pawn that ring.

I don't know about the pawning aspect of this, but a too-big diamond will make it look like she's a second wife. I have a very beautiful 1.5 engagement ring that I still get comments on (very good clarity and color) and a 6-carat 10-year anniversary ring, and I wouldn't change a thing about either.

This wins for most ridiculous humblebrag of the weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not go Blue Nile of any of those sites. I went to a jeweler in downtown Chicago. From what I've heard from him and what I've read, a 2 carat will seem smaller because of the cut, H color is best for an Asscher cut, stick with VS2 clarity because the SI1 & SI2 are not recommended with steep cuts like an Asscher.

I want to get a 2.5-3 carat. I looked on " sites" and have been shopping around with jewelers. I found majority of these diamonds to be in the 20-45k range. I will be proposing next month on vacation. I have a little time to shop still.

I think that you are getting ripped off by the jeweler. H color is very yellow, and it will look like you sacrificed color for a bigger diamond. I think D is too expensive for what it is. You can get away with E or F. No less. Shop around.

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I am practical and would love a 3 carat diamond engagement ring in my preferred cut from the man I loved IF he could afford it. You can, OP. Go ahead and buy the ring and propose to your beloved. She'll wear it for the rest of her life and it will remind her of you. Congratulations, OP!

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3 carats might not be comfortable for her if she is not accustomed to or doesn't love wearing jewelry. It's pretty showy.

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Anonymous wrote:3 carats might not be comfortable for her if she is not accustomed to or doesn't love wearing jewelry. It's pretty showy.

Not at all. In the circle this couple will be moving in, a 3-carat ring will fit right in, if not be on the smaller side.

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She is a pharmacist, right? I'm a doctor and my ring is 0.8 ct and I love it. If I had 3 ct, I don't think I could wear it to work and have gloves on on occasion. Think about her profession and if this is practical.

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I am totally mystified why you started this thread, given that you now are saying that you "know" she'll love it. If you know she'll love it, why did you waste all our times with asking? I click on threads asking for advice because I genuinely like to be helpful and give advice where it is sincerely sought. You clearly already knew what you wanted, so I can't understand the purpose of this whole thread.
Have a nice life.