Can we talk about married sex - nonexpicitly? What is the actual norm?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Any SAHM mom bragging this is "another advantage" needs a reality check. Sure my "career woman" DW doesnt have the energy to put out as much as I would like but we make up for it when the rest is there and the mood hits. I find the pension she is working toward, the 401k balance, and the added financial security she brings quite sexy too. She can also carry on an intellectual business conversation at a neighborhood BBQ. I have not seen a SAHM her age that looks better either ( mid 40's passes for early 30s)

Thanks for the warning! I'll make certain I avoid your DW at the next neighborhood BBQ. Apparently, you are easily dazzled. Who wants to talk business at a BBQ? Boring. Next.


Believe me, you are the creepy DH at the BBQ (20 lbs. overweight, paunchy, double-chin wearing crocs and socks and cargo shorts) that all the moms avoid, especially the SAHMs. We see you staring and you are not at all subtle.

How pathetic that it bothers you that he respects his wife as an intellectual equal. Your catty (so typical) response says much more about you than him.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest question, no judgement.

Those that have sex only once a month or the like, do you feel connected and actively in love with your spouse? I know love isn't all sex, I just think that would be an awfully big anvil hanging in the room.

I have sex about 5 or 6 times a month with my spouse, but that's not enough to feel connected to him, and I haven't been actively in love with him for over 10 years.

Are you suggesting you could or would actively love your husband if you were having more sex? Just curious about the chicken or the egg thing. In other words, is the lack of sex because you don't actively love and feel connected to him, or do those feelings result from a lack of sex? Do you enjoy having sex with him and want more of it even though you don't actively love and feel connected to him? Just curious as I am in a situation that sounds similar.

I think I would feel more connected if we had sex more often. Not having it has the opposite effect. I feel rejected and down. Pleading for it and being told I'm a pervert is horrible. Having him finally decide after two months that he is ready and telling me I should be good to go because I "always want it" is horrifyingly painful. I am so much happier now with my APs and, ironically, more happy/peaceful in my marriage with that tension lifted. And I've realized that actually I don't really enjoy sex with him.

[Anonymous]

Thought this was a question on top of a post I made (5-6/year, not a month). I need to have my eyes checked, oops, -PP

[Anonymous]

I do not know what the norm is, but DH and I have very active sex life. We like to have sex everyday if we can help it. I think doing it frequently does makes us want more. Married 20+ years.

- DW

[Anonymous]

I am in the 2 times a week boat. But, we don't have sex when I'm on my period just because I am very much not in the mood then (bloated, uncomfortable, crampy, etc.), so that brings down the monthly average. For those of you who are very frequent, do you slow down during that time too?