OP, do you and your husband have any hobbies that you pursue together? Do you go on dates? Did you have a honeymoon? How did you meet? |
What does your DH want for any daughters you may have? Does he think their role will also be traditional wives and moms or will he encourage them to pursue anything he'd want his sons to pursue?
What if a daughter said she wanted a profession that's really tough and male oriented -- say she wanted to go to West Point. How do you think you and DH would react? |
That sounds pretty elitist and dismissive. It sounds like she's a very attentive mom IMHO. |
I'm sorry for all you went through and glad you are happy now. I am allowed to have friends. It's perfectly fine to have friends over or meet someone, etc. |
We have three girls. If they want to go to college they certainly can. If they want to become a doctor or banker that's fine. I want them to do what feels fulfilling to them. My younger sister decided she didn't want to get married until she was at least 30 and became a physician's assistant. I was completely supportive of her and would be the same if one of my daughters wanted to do something similar. |
I'm from upstate NY, near Albany. Yes, I wish I could drive stick more smoothly. DH tried to teach me but it never took. Also, I wish I could BBQ better. Yes, I love him. |
OMG THIS IS SUCH A TROLL why is everyone going along with this?? NOBODY acts like this willingly. |
To be honest, with four small children we don't often have time for hobbies. We will do yard work together. For a while my sister was living very close by to us and she would babysit so we could go on dates. We honeymooned in Niagara Falls and Canada. We met because his mother was one of my teachers in 12th grade. |
I think it's way too early to predict what they'll grow up and want to do. |
How many kids do you have and who decides/decided how many? |
Was this in the United States or another country? |
What does you DH do for a living? Military? |
Here, in the US. I stayed after school for a club and he went to the school to drop something off to his mom/my teacher. Then my car wouldn't start so he saw that, fixed it and then followed me home to make sure I got there safely. That's how we met. |
He works in IT. |
How much coverage do you think employers have? Death is not always instant, which is exactly why private is the way to go if you can afford it. My friends DH just died of brain cancer at 36, two kids left behind. Had to leave his job. Took him over a year to die. Even if not, most employer based policies would be a pittance for a single mom of 4 kids. Luckily my friend worked and was able to carry the health insurance for his treatment, but despite health insurance and her employment, his treatment and subsequent funeral left her in severe debt and I'm talking people here who HAD a combined HHI of 300K+, until half of that went away and massive end of life medical expenses piled up. Now she is a single mom with two kids who are not old enough to be home alone. She works and has to pay for after care, which is worse financially than being a two income home with a SAHM. |