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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This type of gender balanced arrangement worked beautifully for thousands of years. No wonder there are so many broken homes today. Women are natural caregivers.

Devoting their lives to supporting their man, rearing the children, managing the the household is both honorable and sensible.

I am quite sure OP is very happy. Instead of being snarky and jealous are her healthy, feminine role, why not take a lesson. Respect the diversity of traditional values that she has represents.[/quote]

Lol! It worked well for thousands of years? For who? Take a look at Yemen and Saudi and you can peek back thousands of years and let us know how well that works for everyone.

The OPs relationship is not healthy. It is warped and so are you. Jealois? Hilarious! I'd rather be a spinster <b>alone with my cats than have the OPs life</b>. You can take that to the bank.[/quote]

You might just join their ranks one day if you can't distinguish between human rights violations in places like Yemen, and a healthy relationship defined by natural gender roles molded by generations of biological, social and evolutionary norms. 
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Sharia law=traditional gender roles, going back thousands of years.  It was never a human rights violation to own your wife and do what you please until very recently THANK YOU VERY MUCH TO THE MODERN WOMAN.

Don't worry about my marriage, we are doing just fine. I did not marry a cave man. And if said husband dies or loses his job, I'm capable enough to provide for myself and my kids. That is what being a natural caregiver and supportive wife is all about.
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If OP is in a traditional relationship, her DH has prepared for his death or disability through insurance, etc, because that's what a responsible, traditional MAN does.  She has already demonstrated she has the skills to manage the rest without him provided he has secured their financial future. Again, you diminish her role. Obviously, it wouldn't work for you. That's clear. But she is especially capable of seamlessly transitioning to a Single parent caregiver because she has focused her entire energies on doing just that.  [/quote]

Actually I know someone just like the OP. She is a ministers wife and is the neck and he is the head. They are piss poor and have no such safety net. Apparently God will provide, which translates to they will need donations from the church and family will prop them up.

Private Whole-Life and private disability are for the wealthy. OP doesn't even have an extra 10 bucks.

BTW, we have WL and Disability, we have a 2M policy.  If I never had a career, I would still be uneasy. It's not so easy to get by on 2M for 20-40 years, especially if you have 4 kids.[/quote]

Hubby should have insurance from work unless he picks cotton. Who typically doesn't have that in a benefits package these days and in this area? Should we assume OP has never balanced a checkbook? She said she was in a conventional marriage, not that she is barefoot, pregnant and living under a rock.[/quote]

How much coverage do you think employers have?

Death is not always instant, which is exactly why private is the way to go if you can afford it. My friends DH just died of brain cancer at 36, two kids left behind.  Had to leave his job. Took him over a year to die.  Even if not, most employer based policies would be a pittance for a single mom of 4 kids. Luckily my friend worked and was able to carry the health insurance for his treatment, but despite health insurance and her employment, his treatment and subsequent funeral left her in severe debt and I'm talking people here who HAD a combined HHI of 300K+, until half of that went away and massive end of life medical expenses piled up.

Now she is a single mom with two kids who are not old enough to be home alone. She works and has to pay for after care, which is worse financially than being a two income home with a SAHM.[/quote]

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