16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships

[Anonymous]

My DH is 8 years younger than me, so we're doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn. I'm 46. No way in hell I want a 62 year old man.

I have a seriously, buff, muscular and active 45 year old husband of 17 years.

He can coach and play with our boys and challenge them in the sporting field. We both are very HHIs--now semi-retired. The sperm was young and not at high risk at 32.

Nah. No old dudes. That's for women that can't land a good young one.

HHI = HouseHold Income. So if you live together, you both can't be HHI.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP, men are gross: they look to remarry someone who can be their daughter. Sure.

It's not gross; it's natural. Fertility is implicitly attractive, and human males remain fertile much longer than females. There is no point in getting pissed at simple facts of life, lady.

That's a myth. Older men have children with problems. Read the facts fyi

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am the exception but I am 46 and dating a 65 year old man, a very young acting/looking active amazing man. I have yet to meet any 40 something years old who can hold a candle to him and the sex is off the charts. Age is nothing more than a number.

You expect to have an active sex life when you are 55 and he is 74??

LOL a friend of a friend is 75. He travels a lot and can't get enough of young ladies all over the world, talks about them constantly, takes photos and such. Unfortunately, he's still married to his old hag. I bet he'd have a mighty active life with someone younger

Hahaha at 75 he would have a good act life with someone that would try to roll him for his pension or other $$ benefits. Talk about denial..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16 years? Oh hell no. I am 38 and would not even consider dating a 54 year old.

Of course not but many do because it's a short road. Like my step mother she didn't have to work, traveled and when he was ill in his late 60's she was his nurse. He died, now she has all the assets including our family vacation home he should have left to his kids. Not saying all men are this stupid, but MANY are. I couldn't do it or shag a old guy, but there are a lot of women who can stomach that sort of thing. Like Fear Factor, people can eat bugs and crap when there's a decent dollar amount. Such is life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn. I'm 46. No way in hell I want a 62 year old man.

I have a seriously, buff, muscular and active 45 year old husband of 17 years.

He can coach and play with our boys and challenge them in the sporting field. We both are very HHIs--now semi-retired. The sperm was young and not at high risk at 32.

Nah. No old dudes. That's for women that can't land a good young one.

HHI = HouseHold Income. So if you live together, you both can't be HHI.

We both had high salaries. DINKs from 27-35 before we had our first kid.

He still makes a very, very high salary while I make merely a high one because I "leaned out" and chose to WAH instead of continuing up the corporate ladder. This leaves me with flexibility to be there after school, etc. and a $165k salary instead of double-triple that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Damn. I'm 46. No way in hell I want a 62 year old man.

I have a seriously, buff, muscular and active 45 year old husband of 17 years.

He can coach and play with our boys and challenge them in the sporting field. We both are very HHIs--now semi-retired. The sperm was young and not at high risk at 32.

Nah. No old dudes. That's for women that can't land a good young one.

HHI = HouseHold Income. So if you live together, you both can't be HHI.

We both had high salaries. DINKs from 27-35 before we had our first kid.

He still makes a very, very high salary while I make merely a high one because I "leaned out" and chose to WAH instead of continuing up the corporate ladder. This leaves me with flexibility to be there after school, etc. and a $165k salary instead of double-triple that.

I didn't ask for that information, nor do I care, frankly. I was just pointing out that you were using the acronym HHI incorrectly. Does it make you feel good to randomly tell people how much money you make completely out of context. I hope you don't do that in person when you meet new people - very low status behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Age is just a number to me.

Instead of focusing on biological age, I think people should factor emotional maturity and character instead.

That's a nice platitude, hon. Which falls apart when it's time to gaze upon and lick those saggy grey balls of his.

What's your problem? Do you have to be this nasty? Why? What's your personal beef with these couples?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP, men are gross: they look to remarry someone who can be their daughter. Sure.

It's not gross; it's natural. Fertility is implicitly attractive, and human males remain fertile much longer than females. There is no point in getting pissed at simple facts of life, lady.

That's a myth. Older men have children with problems. Read the facts fyi

Everybody has a chance to have children with problems. The risk slightly goes up for men over 40, but remains very low. In practical terms, it's negligible. And yes, I am very much familiar with statistics, because my husband and I are of advanced reproductive age. Our kid is leaps and bounds ahead of his peers in development, thank you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:16 years? Oh hell no. I am 38 and would not even consider dating a 54 year old.

Of course not but many do because it's a short road. Like my step mother she didn't have to work, traveled and when he was ill in his late 60's she was his nurse. He died, now she has all the assets including our family vacation home he should have left to his kids. Not saying all men are this stupid, but MANY are. I couldn't do it or shag a old guy, but there are a lot of women who can stomach that sort of thing. Like Fear Factor, people can eat bugs and crap when there's a decent dollar amount. Such is life.

Hon, maybe your daddy disowned you, because he was "bugs and crap" to you and knew it? Sorry you've been burned, but you sound like someone who deserved it

[Anonymous]

DH is 8 years older. Now that he is 60 and I am 52 I am noticing the differences more. Luckily he is in great physical shape but is slowing down in ways I'm not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is 8 years older. Now that he is 60 and I am 52 I am noticing the differences more. Luckily he is in great physical shape but is slowing down in ways I'm not.

My parents are the same age, born withing a couple of months. Mom is quite spry still. Dad is a wreck.

My husband is 17 years older than me. I'm in a worse shape physically than he is. I seek medical assistance more often and take medication.

You just never know. People who think years down the road make me smile. It's pure hubris. First, you assume you'll live a long life. Then you assume you will be healthy enough to be a "nurse" and so on. I'm of the school of thought that nothing is guaranteed for us, and the most you can do is live in the now. Why on earth would I forgo love, family, happiness now for something that may or may not happen in the future? It is the definition of insanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP, men are gross: they look to remarry someone who can be their daughter. Sure.

It's not gross; it's natural. Fertility is implicitly attractive, and human males remain fertile much longer than females. There is no point in getting pissed at simple facts of life, lady.

That's a myth. Older men have children with problems. Read the facts fyi

Everybody has a chance to have children with problems. The risk slightly goes up for men over 40, but remains very low. In practical terms, it's negligible. And yes, I am very much familiar with statistics, because my husband and I are of advanced reproductive age. Our kid is leaps and bounds ahead of his peers in development, thank you

+1 I've seen the idea that older men have children with birth defect repeated so many time on DCUMs as a way to discourage women form getting involved with them that I asked my doctor about it during my last visit. He said it is a "slight" risk but that it is not significant and nothing at all to worry about. He said that old females are at a much greater risk compared to men.

[Anonymous]

http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9801E0DD1431F935A35755C0A9609C8B63

"For the gene that causes dwarfism, researchers found a 2 percent increase in the frequency of the mutation for each year of increasing age...Other kinds of genetic defects did not increase with age. Aneuploidy, the abnormal number of chromosomes that causes Down syndrome and various other genetic disorders, was no more common in the sperm of older men. Age made no difference in sex chromosome abnormalities, which can cause sterility and other physical or mental problems"

So... older men have a higher chance of fathering a short child... chance of other genetic defects do not increase...

[Anonymous]

Hmm...know 2 divorced men and 2 never married men. All are in serious relationships with women with a 0-5 year age difference.