16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships

[Anonymous]

I have noticed that the "perfect" age difference between men and women seems to be 16 years, the man being the older one. Whenever you hear about a man leaving his wife for a younger woman, the age difference always seems to be about 16 years -- I do not know why this is.

So under my theory, a man cannot start to date his "perfect" match until he is at least 35; and can no longer date a woman in her early 30s or younger once he is older than 48 years.

[Anonymous]

Stupid theory.

A 19 year old girl has nothing in common with a 35 year old man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have noticed that the "perfect" age difference between men and women seems to be 16 years, the man being the older one. Whenever you hear about a man leaving his wife for a younger woman, the age difference always seems to be about 16 years -- I do not know why this is.

So under my theory, a man cannot start to date his "perfect" match until he is at least 35; and can no longer date a woman in her early 30s or younger once he is older than 48 years.

Man older than 48 years means greater chances of birth defects. Was your father older than 48 when you were conceived?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have noticed that the "perfect" age difference between men and women seems to be 16 years, the man being the older one. Whenever you hear about a man leaving his wife for a younger woman, the age difference always seems to be about 16 years -- I do not know why this is.

So under my theory, a man cannot start to date his "perfect" match until he is at least 35; and can no longer date a woman in her early 30s or younger once he is older than 48 years.

Man older than 48 years means greater chances of birth defects. Was your father older than 48 when you were conceived?

No, my father was simply a pack-a-day smoker when I was conceived.

If your friends divorce, look for that 16-year magic number in the men's second marriages. Also, no, 35-year old men should not date 19-year old women, they should date and enjoy the women their own age.

I am simply stating that since many divorce and remarriages end up with this 16-year age difference, then perhaps these men should save their peers the trouble and wait until they are 43, and the younger women they eventually plan to marry in any case are 27, to finally marry.

[Anonymous]

Yes, OP, men are gross: they look to remarry someone who can be their daughter. Sure.

[Anonymous]

this is totally stupid. anyway research shows that relationships with that big of an age diff end in divorce more often than when there's a smaller gap, so your theory is wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, OP, men are gross: they look to remarry someone who can be their daughter. Sure.

Which men do you know who were parents when they were only sixteen years old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have noticed that the "perfect" age difference between men and women seems to be 16 years, the man being the older one. Whenever you hear about a man leaving his wife for a younger woman, the age difference always seems to be about 16 years -- I do not know why this is.

So under my theory, a man cannot start to date his "perfect" match until he is at least 35; and can no longer date a woman in her early 30s or younger once he is older than 48 years.

Man older than 48 years means greater chances of birth defects. Was your father older than 48 when you were conceived?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is totally stupid. anyway research shows that relationships with that big of an age diff end in divorce more often than when there's a smaller gap, so your theory is wrong

OP does not make the claim that the 16-year age difference is good or bad, or will result in fewer or more eventual divorces. As I read it, OP is simply making the claim that in their experience, men who divorce and then remarry a younger woman, will typically remarry a woman who is somewhere around 16 years younger than them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have noticed that the "perfect" age difference between men and women seems to be 16 years, the man being the older one. Whenever you hear about a man leaving his wife for a younger woman, the age difference always seems to be about 16 years -- I do not know why this is.

So under my theory, a man cannot start to date his "perfect" match until he is at least 35; and can no longer date a woman in her early 30s or younger once he is older than 48 years.

Man older than 48 years means greater chances of birth defects. Was your father older than 48 when you were conceived?

+1

No, my father was simply a pack-a-day smoker when I was conceived.

If your friends divorce, look for that 16-year magic number in the men's second marriages. Also, no, 35-year old men should not date 19-year old women, they should date and enjoy the women their own age.

I am simply stating that since many divorce and remarriages end up with this 16-year age difference, then perhaps these men should save their peers the trouble and wait until they are 43, and the younger women they eventually plan to marry in any case are 27, to finally marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:this is totally stupid. anyway research shows that relationships with that big of an age diff end in divorce more often than when there's a smaller gap, so your theory is wrong

OP does not make the claim that the 16-year age difference is good or bad, or will result in fewer or more eventual divorces. As I read it, OP is simply making the claim that in their experience, men who divorce and then remarry a younger woman, will typically remarry a woman who is somewhere around 16 years younger than them.

Agree + 1. Note that the OP sarcastically puts "perfect" in quotation marks. I think the OP is being critical of the age difference if you ask me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have noticed that the "perfect" age difference between men and women seems to be 16 years, the man being the older one. Whenever you hear about a man leaving his wife for a younger woman, the age difference always seems to be about 16 years -- I do not know why this is.

So under my theory, a man cannot start to date his "perfect" match until he is at least 35; and can no longer date a woman in her early 30s or younger once he is older than 48 years.

Man older than 48 years means greater chances of birth defects. Was your father older than 48 when you were conceived?

No, my father was simply a pack-a-day smoker when I was conceived.

If your friends divorce, look for that 16-year magic number in the men's second marriages. Also, no, 35-year old men should not date 19-year old women, they should date and enjoy the women their own age.

I am simply stating that since many divorce and remarriages end up with this 16-year age difference, then perhaps these men should save their peers the trouble and wait until they are 43, and the younger women they eventually plan to marry in any case are 27, to finally marry.

Sorry about your low IQ. What are the divorce stats for these marriages?

[Anonymous]

I realize it's a silly post, but I also know a few men who have remarried women 16-17 years their junior. Isn't that the difference between Newt and Calista Gingrich, too? I'm too tired to look it up. I realize the plural of anecdote is not data, but OP's post isn't that out there.

[Anonymous]

As someone in a May-December marriage, I'd point out the obvious which is that age differences mean different things at different stages in life.

At 25, you probably thought nothing of dating a 29yr old. But would you let your 14yr old daughter date an 18yr old guy?

DH and I are 15yrs apart. Would have been creepy had I been 15 and he was 30, or if I were his 4yr old child bride when he was 19 it would be sick. In our 30s and 40s as independent, educated, accomplished professionals though, not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Um I'll pass. I'd happily take a younger guy, as I tend to meet, over a guy 16 years older. Who wants to be with a 65yo at age 49?