16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships

[Anonymous]

I'm in my late 20's and my bf is 15 yrs older. We're very happy, and compatible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Age is just a number to me.

Instead of focusing on biological age, I think people should factor emotional maturity and character instead.

That's a nice platitude, hon. Which falls apart when it's time to gaze upon and lick those saggy grey balls of his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

That's a nice platitude, hon. Which falls apart when it's time to gaze upon and lick those saggy grey balls of his.

As if a young man's balls are somehow appealing or attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid theory.

A 19 year old girl has nothing in common with a 35 year old man.

Hey 19... no we can't dance together.... no we can't talk at all...

[Anonymous]

My current BF is 18 years older than I am. He's perfect. Patient, kind, smart, has been around. He just has a maturity that I think is hard to find in men closer to my own age.

I've always gravitated towards older people. As I've gotten older, the friends I make get exponentially older, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Age is just a number to me.

Instead of focusing on biological age, I think people should factor emotional maturity and character instead.

That's a nice platitude, hon. Which falls apart when it's time to gaze upon and lick those saggy grey balls of his.

Happily lick his 60 YO balls. No complaints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Age is just a number to me.

Instead of focusing on biological age, I think people should factor emotional maturity and character instead.

That's a nice platitude, hon. Which falls apart when it's time to gaze upon and lick those saggy grey balls of his.

You think saggy grey balls are appealing just because you happen to be the same age as the balls? I'm pretty sure whether you're 45 or 75, saggy old grey balls are not appealing... and you'll be gazing upon and licking them too one day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Age is just a number to me.

Instead of focusing on biological age, I think people should factor emotional maturity and character instead.

That's a nice platitude, hon. Which falls apart when it's time to gaze upon and lick those saggy grey balls of his.

You think saggy grey balls are appealing just because you happen to be the same age as the balls? I'm pretty sure whether you're 45 or 75, saggy old grey balls are not appealing... and you'll be gazing upon and licking them too one day.

Never mind that, you will be changing the colostomy bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As someone in a May-December marriage, I'd point out the obvious which is that age differences mean different things at different stages in life.

At 25, you probably thought nothing of dating a 29yr old. But would you let your 14yr old daughter date an 18yr old guy?

DH and I are 15yrs apart. Would have been creepy had I been 15 and he was 30, or if I were his 4yr old child bride when he was 19 it would be sick. In our 30s and 40s as independent, educated, accomplished professionals though, not a big deal.

Replacement model?

I'm his second wife. First marriage ended a decade before we met, so not exactly the replacement in the way that you seem to be implying with that phrase.

I'm always astonished by the nastiness of these threads, especially the crudeness that started on page 3. These are all things he/I thought of. Just like we thought of the fact that I come into our marriage with a very high breast cancer risk, and he may need to care for me or even raise our children alone. There's that whole "better/worse, sickness/health until death do us part" thing that, at least in our marriage, we take seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late 20's and my bf is 15 yrs older. We're very happy, and compatible.

Sure, because he hasn't hit the age for virility and general health problems. I have two girlfriends who married men 15 or 16 years older. It was fine until the women hit their late 40s and the husbands hit their early 60s - those two ages are not particularly compatible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late 20's and my bf is 15 yrs older. We're very happy, and compatible.

Sure, because he hasn't hit the age for virility and general health problems. I have two girlfriends who married men 15 or 16 years older. It was fine until the women hit their late 40s and the husbands hit their early 60s - those two ages are not particularly compatible.

I hope that we're together that long. I hope my relationship will be based on more than just that.

[Anonymous]

Do you think that the younger woman in this type of relationship appreciates the comfort, security, and stability that a life with an established, older man provides? In a way it does fast-forward your life as you leap over the lean student years to the established status ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think that the younger woman in this type of relationship appreciates the comfort, security, and stability that a life with an established, older man provides? In a way it does fast-forward your life as you leap over the lean student years to the established status ones.

I for one really appreciate that I never had to go through the "my husband is a 27 year old bonehead" stage a lot of my friends go through, with husbands who still drink too much every weekend and stay up all night playing video games with the guys on weekends. And while we are not wealthy and I didn't marry for money, we are definitely comfortable and I can't say I miss having to go through the lean bullshit years of living in crappy apartments and living off Campbell's soup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think that the younger woman in this type of relationship appreciates the comfort, security, and stability that a life with an established, older man provides? In a way it does fast-forward your life as you leap over the lean student years to the established status ones.

I think this might oversuppose that younger women only marry wealthy older men.

Like the PP, I appreciate that my DH is financially stable but he's a fed and so not exactly a sugar-daddy. We have a good life, but I wouldn't use words like status to describe it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Age is just a number to me.

Instead of focusing on biological age, I think people should factor emotional maturity and character instead.

That's a nice platitude, hon. Which falls apart when it's time to gaze upon and lick those saggy grey balls of his.

You think saggy grey balls are appealing just because you happen to be the same age as the balls? I'm pretty sure whether you're 45 or 75, saggy old grey balls are not appealing... and you'll be gazing upon and licking them too one day.

True but at 75 it's not as if you can do much better for yourself..