16-Year Age Difference -- The "Magic" Number for Relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is a stupid theory, and I say that as a man. That being said, I think there is some wisdom in the man being a little bit older for two reasons. One, women mature faster and are usually ready for children earlier. Second, the natural libido gap between men and women is a problem in general and a big problem in long-term relationships. Considering younger women have higher libidos than older women, it can be a big problem if the women is older. I say that as someone who is married to a woman who is two years older than me and she is fantastic in every way, but I imagine our sex life would be much better if she were younger with a higher libido.

High sex drive woman here. Age has nothing to do with it. She's either high sex drive or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid theory.

A 19 year old girl has nothing in common with a 35 year old man.

yes they do

[Anonymous]

My parents had almost that age difference and it didn't work well. My mom warned us to marry someone closer in age.

If you are married to someone over 15+ years old you may well end up the sole breadwinner and caretaker for the elderly spouse while putting kids thru college. Also sexually it will be dead.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't work for women. By the time the woman is ready to retire, the man is dead.

It might work the other way around.

[Anonymous]

I will never marry someone who is closer to my dad’s age than mine. I have a real dad, I don’t need to marry one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:this is a stupid theory, and I say that as a man. That being said, I think there is some wisdom in the man being a little bit older for two reasons. One, women mature faster and are usually ready for children earlier. Second, the natural libido gap between men and women is a problem in general and a big problem in long-term relationships. Considering younger women have higher libidos than older women, it can be a big problem if the women is older. I say that as someone who is married to a woman who is two years older than me and she is fantastic in every way, but I imagine our sex life would be much better if she were younger with a higher libido.

High sex drive woman here. Age has nothing to do with it. She's either high sex drive or not.

Not true--you can be high sex drive with one person but not another.

[Anonymous]

Been there, done that. I was the then-29-year-old boytoy to a 45-year-old cougar. Started as side gig for her but she fell hard and wanted my baby. Problem was she had a family and estranged H and she didn't really know what she wanted. That happened to be one of my biggest turnoffs (not the age, nor kids, nor many other of our differences that all could have been worked though with love).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Been there, done that. I was the then-29-year-old boytoy to a 45-year-old cougar. Started as side gig for her but she fell hard and wanted my baby. Problem was she had a family and estranged H and she didn't really know what she wanted. That happened to be one of my biggest turnoffs (not the age, nor kids, nor many other of our differences that all could have been worked though with love).

Interesting and similar story, I was a 24 year old boy toy for a 38 year old divorced mom. Amazing sex, but she fell hard, wanted the title of girlfriend and to be exclusive. Too bad because if she could have been more chill I would have kept this going for a while. I still miss her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Been there, done that. I was the then-29-year-old boytoy to a 45-year-old cougar. Started as side gig for her but she fell hard and wanted my baby. Problem was she had a family and estranged H and she didn't really know what she wanted. That happened to be one of my biggest turnoffs (not the age, nor kids, nor many other of our differences that all could have been worked though with love).

Interesting and similar story, I was a 24 year old boy toy for a 38 year old divorced mom. Amazing sex, but she fell hard, wanted the title of girlfriend and to be exclusive. Too bad because if she could have been more chill I would have kept this going for a while. I still miss her

I was 28 when I had almost a year long relationship with a 45 year old woman. She was beautiful, smart and she had the libido of an energizer bunny. If she had been 15 years younger I’m sure I would have married her....or at least proposed!

[Anonymous]

I’m 50 and I’ve been in a wonderful relationship with a 68 year old man for almost two years. He’s in great shape, has a full head of hair, has no need for ED medication and treats me very well. But he is 18 years older and when he’s 80 and I’m only 62 I know that life will be very different and so does he which is why we are not living together or have any real long term plans. I wish we could freeze our ages but we can’t so at some point we will need to move on which is a very sad thought but that we both accept.