S/O- how diverse is your kid's friend group?

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I think diversity matters more in certain careers. Not so much in engineering, but possibly more in education, business and communication.

The same applies to STEM college admissions: they should be merit-based and objective. Not force diversity

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Anonymous wrote:The OP has responded; not sure if she is still reading this.

In any event, from her responses it’s clear she is really trying to help her child to avoid whites / the MAGAs in college.

To op, I think your best bet would be to avoid flyover country (ie the Midwest) and also avoid the trend to consider schools in the South (and especially Florida!).

Focus on New England or California schools exclusively.

Reading r/AsianParentStories on Reddit, it feels like a lot of second-gen Asian kids end up going NC with their immigrant parents. Not sure if that group is actually the root cause 🙂 Just wild guess.

Because the immigrant parents are Maga?

Haha, who knows. Everyone’s assuming OP wants to influence their kids’ friend groups and environments by filtering schools.
That’s pretty counterintuitive, considering they live in a culturally and ethnically diverse country.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s a thought….choose a college for the quality of education. Trying to engineer some fantasy diversity model is literally absurd. Your child will have to live in the real world eventually and you might want to prepare them to behave like an adult

+1000

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If looking for inclusion, you should also think about socioeconomic vs racial diversity. Outside athletics, University social groups are often separated by wealth. My mc white kid has plenty of college friends who are black, south/east asian, and Latina - But they are primarily wealthy, private school kids. My kid"s friend group has plenty of racial diversity but not much economic diversity. Because of that, i dont think its very inclusive. (And this is a school with a robust financial aid)

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

This! Take a look at the environment in many (most?) smaller more homogenous countries and compare to our US now. The difference is easy to see.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

This! Take a look at the environment in many (most?) smaller more homogenous countries and compare to our US now. The difference is easy to see.

Forced diversity only works when no one games the system. Break the rules and conflict is inevitable, especially without a shared culture like the one that has held homogeneous societies together for centuries.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid has a friend group that includes white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian, or a good majority of these, can you let me know the school? My kids have very diverse friend groups and I'm trying to figure out which T50 schools will give them both a good education AND an inclusive environment.

Psycho controlling parent.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid has a friend group that includes white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian, or a good majority of these, can you let me know the school? My kids have very diverse friend groups and I'm trying to figure out which T50 schools will give them both a good education AND an inclusive environment.

Psycho controlling parent.

Wait until you see how they decide the dating counterparts

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

Name a country and define better

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

This! Take a look at the environment in many (most?) smaller more homogenous countries and compare to our US now. The difference is easy to see.

Name one so I can compare.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kid has a friend group that includes white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian, or a good majority of these, can you let me know the school? My kids have very diverse friend groups and I'm trying to figure out which T50 schools will give them both a good education AND an inclusive environment.

Psycho controlling parent.

Wait until you see how they decide the dating counterparts

I sure hope my kid’s future in-laws are nothing like that!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

This! Take a look at the environment in many (most?) smaller more homogenous countries and compare to our US now. The difference is easy to see.

Forced diversity only works when no one games the system. Break the rules and conflict is inevitable, especially without a shared culture like the one that has held homogeneous societies together for centuries.

You act like homogeneous systems don’t gain the system. We all know the age, long story of having to hire someone’s cousin who is completely incompetent, simply cause he’s white and male..

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

In my opinion the US is a super power, because a bunch of poor immigrant go-getters from around the world risked it all. The blend of ideas, cultures and experiences made this country what it is today. It isn’t perfect, but it is pretty great in many aspects.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid has a friend group that includes white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian, or a good majority of these, can you let me know the school? My kids have very diverse friend groups and I'm trying to figure out which T50 schools will give them both a good education AND an inclusive environment.

Not very. Benetton was an ad campaign in the 80s, not a reflection of reality. Even in younger grades kids tend to self-segregate and this is especially true by high school.

Jaguar thought everyone forgot about Benetton and they stole their idea recently:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your kid has a friend group that includes white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian, or a good majority of these, can you let me know the school? My kids have very diverse friend groups and I'm trying to figure out which T50 schools will give them both a good education AND an inclusive environment.

Psycho controlling parent.

Wait until you see how they decide the dating counterparts

If concerned about kid dating and OP's kid is white, stick to SEC southern schools. Bye.