S/O- how diverse is your kid's friend group?

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

This! Take a look at the environment in many (most?) smaller more homogenous countries and compare to our US now. The difference is easy to see.

Forced diversity only works when no one games the system. Break the rules and conflict is inevitable, especially without a shared culture like the one that has held homogeneous societies together for centuries.

You act like homogeneous systems don’t gain the system. We all know the age, long story of having to hire someone’s cousin who is completely incompetent, simply cause he’s white and male..

What? Because you got the end of that cautionary tale wrong. You're describing the homogeneous system many immigrants are coming from and trying to implement here.

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

This! Take a look at the environment in many (most?) smaller more homogenous countries and compare to our US now. The difference is easy to see.

Forced diversity only works when no one games the system. Break the rules and conflict is inevitable, especially without a shared culture like the one that has held homogeneous societies together for centuries.

You act like homogeneous systems don’t gain the system. We all know the age, long story of having to hire someone’s cousin who is completely incompetent, simply cause he’s white and male..

Of course they do. Everyone knows it—but not all countries. Some cultures are simply more honest and have better reputations.

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

In my opinion the US is a super power, because a bunch of poor immigrant go-getters from around the world risked it all. The blend of ideas, cultures and experiences made this country what it is today. It isn’t perfect, but it is pretty great in many aspects.

Because we can afford to accommodate—for now. Once resources are depleted, just watch opportunities slip away. Which they are probably already planning and doing

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

In my opinion the US is a super power, because a bunch of poor immigrant go-getters from around the world risked it all. The blend of ideas, cultures and experiences made this country what it is today. It isn’t perfect, but it is pretty great in many aspects.

Because we can afford to accommodate—for now. Once resources are depleted, just watch opportunities slip away. Which they are probably already planning and doing

opportunists (*typo)

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

In my opinion the US is a super power, because a bunch of poor immigrant go-getters from around the world risked it all. The blend of ideas, cultures and experiences made this country what it is today. It isn’t perfect, but it is pretty great in many aspects.

Because we can afford to accommodate—for now. Once resources are depleted, just watch opportunities slip away. Which they are probably already planning and doing

opportunists (*typo)

The imagined fear of scarcity. SMFH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your kid has a friend group that includes white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian, or a good majority of these, can you let me know the school? My kids have very diverse friend groups and I'm trying to figure out which T50 schools will give them both a good education AND an inclusive environment.

UVA for our kid.

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I don’t think it’s strange for her to be concerned about the diversity of her child’s friend-group.

To the op: maybe once your kiddo gets to college, you could try to arrange some play dates with more diverse students, if you discover more diversification is necessary?

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I do tell them they will be wiser if they can have diverse viewpoints to draw from. Diversity obviously makes the world a better place. Could you imagine if we only had American food to choose from, or 1 type of music or art... come one. it's not complicated.

It depends. In my opinion, some countries are better off remaining homogeneous—it’s culture-based.

In my opinion the US is a super power, because a bunch of poor immigrant go-getters from around the world risked it all. The blend of ideas, cultures and experiences made this country what it is today. It isn’t perfect, but it is pretty great in many aspects.

Because we can afford to accommodate—for now. Once resources are depleted, just watch opportunities slip away. Which they are probably already planning and doing

opportunists (*typo)

The imagined fear of scarcity. SMFH

This isn’t fear—it’s reality. Some struggle with affordability. Some travels to Mexico for cheaper medical care. Some plan their retirements in Europe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I don’t think it’s strange for her to be concerned about the diversity of her child’s friend-group.

To the op: maybe once your kiddo gets to college, you could try to arrange some play dates with more diverse students, if you discover more diversification is necessary?

[Anonymous]

Do you spoon feed your 20 something kids?

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My daughter did her freshman year at a very diverse SLAC in the northeast. And it was the dullest, most tedious experience of her life.

Transferred to Auburn after her freshman year, she's having a great time, all her friends are white, and who the hell cares.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid has a friend group that includes white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian, or a good majority of these, can you let me know the school? My kids have very diverse friend groups and I'm trying to figure out which T50 schools will give them both a good education AND an inclusive environment.

UVA for our kid.

That's great news! It was not like that 25 years ago. I'm interested in these responses too. DS has a wide variety of friends at his diverse FCPS high school. It would be nice to find a place where that's natural in college as well.

[Anonymous]

DD went to a very racially diverse HS and her friend group reflected that. The colleges that appealed to her for a variety of reasons were small town/rural LACs. But she did worry that they didn't have the racial diversity she was used to.

Now a junior, she does have a diverse friend group at a LAC that is 2/3 White. What the school has also exposed her to, which was new for her, was a greater socioeconomic and political diversity. I think that has opened up her eyes to different parts of America and has been a valuable experience.

There are lots of kinds of diversity, not just what someone looks like.

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Anonymous wrote:This question is strange. Do parents even tell their kids their career choices are based on diversity? And do you seriously think four years of college will change much, whether diversity is present or not? If a child has learned to adapt since childhood, they’ll likely succeed anywhere—including in the workplace.

I don’t think it’s strange for her to be concerned about the diversity of her child’s friend-group.

To the op: maybe once your kiddo gets to college, you could try to arrange some play dates with more diverse students, if you discover more diversification is necessary?

I see what you did there

[Anonymous]

, she's having a great time, all her friends are white, and who the hell cares.

OMG! That’s terrrrrrrrrible!!!!!