S/O- how diverse is your kid's friend group?

[Anonymous]

This information and the percentage of students who are international is in the common data set for every T50 school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here—this isn’t lame. I have a white kid who goes to a diverse HS and has a very diverse friend group who has noticed when there is a significantly higher percentage of white kids at some of the universities we have toured. This is something that they have been keeping in mind when looking at where they will land.

If you are from CA they will just have to get used to it. Mine did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here—this isn’t lame. I have a white kid who goes to a diverse HS and has a very diverse friend group who has noticed when there is a significantly higher percentage of white kids at some of the universities we have toured. This is something that they have been keeping in mind when looking at where they will land.

If you are from CA they will just have to get used to it. Mine did.

Mine came from CA too and has found a significantly less diverse friend set (she was the only white kid in her CA friend group). On the east coast, she has friends of various races but the non-white kids she is friends with have no interest in her primary group. They have gravitated to groups of their own race (although they will hang out with her 1:1). It seems to be a cultural difference or comfort level or something she can’t put her finger on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’ve found your child’s social group is not diverse, you really must sit with your discomfort and ponder your mistakes, missteps, and implicit biases in your parenting.

Pretty sure this is satire, in which case bravo! This whole thread is so very 2021.

[Anonymous]

My white kid has a very diverse group in high school. Lots of Asian kids, a black kid, kids with disabilities. I wonder what college will bring.

[Anonymous]

My kids are friends with people who are friendly and kind. They don't seek out friends based on the colors of their skin, but YDY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are friends with people who are friendly and kind. They don't seek out friends based on the colors of their skin, but YDY.

But that’s not what OP is seeking for her white kiddo.

She has a litmus test bast not on the content of the friend groups’ character, but rather a judgement based solely on the color of the friends’s skin.

Other white kids need not apply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids at different T5s. They don’t consciously exclude other groups but their core friend groups are definitely mostly self segregated, e.g. East Asians and south Asians with a few Hispanics and whites, and vice versa. It’s not diverse in the sense of racially even distribution, but it’s not zero diversity either.

Exactly WHY is the university allowing them to self-segregate along racial lines? WTAF??

Why can the college do about it if people just don’t want to hang out with some other people?

[Anonymous]

My high school DD is Asian. Living in flyover country, her friends are almost all whites plus a few blacks, with zero Asians. She does sorority-like things a lot but thankfully still takes care of her academics (4.0, 1530, 10 AP). She told us she had trouble fitting in when younger but now she is completely "one of them."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’ve found your child’s social group is not diverse, you really must sit with your discomfort and ponder your mistakes, missteps, and implicit biases in your parenting.

Pretty sure this is satire, in which case bravo! This whole thread is so very 2021.

For people of color, this matters to us every day, not just when it's cool to be inclusive. Those of you who mock others who care about this, just know that not having to think about this is privilege.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My high school DD is Asian. Living in flyover country, her friends are almost all whites plus a few blacks, with zero Asians. She does sorority-like things a lot but thankfully still takes care of her academics (4.0, 1530, 10 AP). She told us she had trouble fitting in when younger but now she is completely "one of them."

Where is she looking at for college?

[Anonymous]

Homeschool