S/O- how diverse is your kid's friend group?

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Anonymous wrote:NP here—this isn’t lame. I have a white kid who goes to a diverse HS and has a very diverse friend group who has noticed when there is a significantly higher percentage of white kids at some of the universities we have toured. This is something that they have been keeping in mind when looking at where they will land.

Why don’t you name and shame those top colleges? 😉

Well, if you read my post closely, I didn’t mention top (OP did) and I also didn’t give it a quality of good/bad. It’s just how my kids grew up and it’s what feels normal to them and so they took it into consideration when applying. No need to shame, that’s now how I work. I was responding to the pp who called op “lame” and I didn’t want op to think that everyone thought he/she was lame.

I am a separate poster, but my kid noticed it at Delaware and Pitt when we toured. Ended up at Mason for a number of reasons where yes, his friend group is diverse (as is the student body.) He came from a HS that was less than 15% white (he is white) so seeing very few kids of color was noticeable.

This is fair. I mean, its an important consideration for learners seeking refuge from the white-gaze.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lame

State your race when you reply. I’m trying to see something

You might want to go back and study AP Stats or at least, statistical significance and a normal population sample.

Anecdotes from DCUM will not prove anything.

You sound like Tim Robinson in the drive through line "I'm DOING something...." 55 burgers, 55 fries....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since the key criteria here seems to be finding a good fit, which in this case means a good majority of diverse learners, have you visited the many, excellent, HBCUs?

+1

Can’t get more diverse than that.

Do you understand the word diverse?

lol. Love this response. Diverse means variety. If you're asking if my kids friends group at college includes black or hispanic people, then ask that.

I was about to ask if the OP meant having gay friends (if you’re straight), liberal friends (if you’re conservative) or atheist friends if you’re religious). We much rather our kids have a friend group who thinks diversely at least at this stage in their life. We don’t care what they look like, what kind of home life they do or don’t have, or whether they have money or not. We care if their friends are kind, respectful, and curious.

So far, they’re doing a good job of it no matter the demographics of the schools they’ve been in or are attending…as like a PP, their other activities provide a great cross-section of people to connect with. Definitely an advantage of not being in a “bubble.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since the key criteria here seems to be finding a good fit, which in this case means a good majority of diverse learners, have you visited the many, excellent, HBCUs?

+1

Can’t get more diverse than that.

Do you understand the word diverse?

lol. Love this response. Diverse means variety. If you're asking if my kids friends group at college includes black or hispanic people, then ask that.

I was about to ask if the OP meant having gay friends (if you’re straight), liberal friends (if you’re conservative) or atheist friends if you’re religious). We much rather our kids have a friend group who thinks diversely at least at this stage in their life. We don’t care what they look like, what kind of home life they do or don’t have, or whether they have money or not. We care if their friends are kind, respectful, and curious.

So far, they’re doing a good job of it no matter the demographics of the schools they’ve been in or are attending…as like a PP, their other activities provide a great cross-section of people to connect with. Definitely an advantage of not being in a “bubble.”

Um - appears a “bubble” is exactly what OP is seeking out here.

[Anonymous]

If you’re open-minded, you’ll naturally have a group of different friends. Must be exhausting to pigeonhole humans based on their economic, social, or racial classes.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid has a friend group that includes white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian, or a good majority of these, can you let me know the school? My kids have very diverse friend groups and I'm trying to figure out which T50 schools will give them both a good education AND an inclusive environment.

Mine does at UVA - white from FCPS, where they also had white, black, Latino, south Asian, and East Asian friends.

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Not UVA

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lame

State your race when you reply. I’m trying to see something

I answer “white, not Hispanic/latino” when asked. Why are you obsessed with race?

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Anonymous wrote:Lame

Not OP. Why post if you have nothing to add?

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Anonymous wrote:Since the key criteria here seems to be finding a good fit, which in this case means a good majority of diverse learners, have you visited the many, excellent, HBCUs?

HBCUs, if they are true to their traditional purpose, aren’t diverse at all. It’s right there in the name — they are “black” universities. That server black people. So, not diverse.

That said, some HBCUs are majority white now.

STFU stupid MAGA

[Anonymous]

I’ll answer. DS attends UMD. He is white and Jewish. His friend group is very diverse but mostly Asian.

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Anonymous wrote:Op. I find it fascinating how triggering this is for some people.

Right??

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Mine has friends of many different colors, but I don't consider them diverse at all. All UMC, listen to the same music, dress the same, love food (all kinds), etc. Skin color doesn't make a place diverse. Like a pp stated, I would be more interested in diversity of thought which you don't know by skin color. OP, you sound old or very sheltered

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There was a post a few years ago with a list of colleges having the largest or fewest number of Jewish students. That discussion was deleted or locked. Asking that was triggering for some. A university like Columbia is about 35% Jewish. That means there are 65 % other, so while there are Jews on campus, obviously, there are plenty of on-Jews. How is writing that racist? Some people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine has friends of many different colors, but I don't consider them diverse at all. All UMC, listen to the same music, [b]dress the same, love food (all kinds), etc. [/b] Skin color doesn't make a place diverse. Like a pp stated, I would be more interested in diversity of thought which you don't know by skin color. OP, you sound old or very sheltered

Yes! They look like they are at a school requiring uniforms