S/O- how diverse is your kid's friend group?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re open-minded, you’ll naturally have a group of different friends. Must be exhausting to pigeonhole humans based on their economic, social, or racial classes.

No. If you are raised somewhere that no diverse people live you have no opportunity. Like I don't have any Somalian friends, or Serbian or most my friends are my religion, with interests in my hobbies and live in my state and went to the same schools.

Diversity is pretty hard actually.

You have to actively live in a bubble for that to happen, especially you’re already an adult in college!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Diverse means having different majors, a mix of arts and techies or supporting different ideologies

It can mean all of that, plus ethnic, religious, racial and sexual orientation diversity.

Yes, it can and does mean inclusion of those groups.

but it does NOT include political diversity, in any way, shape, or form!

Does it mean academic and non-academic interests too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Diverse means having different majors, a mix of arts and techies or supporting different ideologies

It can mean all of that, plus ethnic, religious, racial and sexual orientation diversity.

Yes, it can and does mean inclusion of those groups.

but it does NOT include political diversity, in any way, shape, or form!

I would imagine that other than groups devoted to politics (Young Republicans, Young Democrats, that sort of thing), politics generally wouldn't factor in to these other groups at all, so how would you even know? I mean, I realize that conservatives in general make it their whole identity and are generally intolerant of anyone who doesn't share their world view, to the point of going out of their way to provoke them, but those types of people generally tend to be older, not college students. The odd college student who did behave this way, i.e. the dummies who think Charlie Kirk was a thought leader, is probably destined to be lonely because no one likes that type of person anyway.

[Anonymous]

The OP has responded; not sure if she is still reading this.

In any event, from her responses it’s clear she is really trying to help her child to avoid whites / the MAGAs in college.

To op, I think your best bet would be to avoid flyover country (ie the Midwest) and also avoid the trend to consider schools in the South (and especially Florida!).

Focus on New England or California schools exclusively.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re open-minded, you’ll naturally have a group of different friends. Must be exhausting to pigeonhole humans based on their economic, social, or racial classes.

No. If you are raised somewhere that no diverse people live you have no opportunity. Like I don't have any Somalian friends, or Serbian or most my friends are my religion, with interests in my hobbies and live in my state and went to the same schools.

Diversity is pretty hard actually.

You have to actively live in a bubble for that to happen, especially you’re already an adult in college!

Not really. I have 5 friends, I don't want more friends. That is almost too many. How diverse can my friends group really be?

My coworkers are the most diverse group but I'm in IT. If I were a teacher, I'd be surrounded by women. If I worked construction, I'd be surrounded by men. they are not trying to be in a bubble but society has created non-diverse groups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Diverse means having different majors, a mix of arts and techies or supporting different ideologies

It can mean all of that, plus ethnic, religious, racial and sexual orientation diversity.

Yes, it can and does mean inclusion of those groups.

but it does NOT include political diversity, in any way, shape, or form!

Does it mean academic and non-academic interests too?

If you have white male friends in college 50% are conservative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Diverse means having different majors, a mix of arts and techies or supporting different ideologies

It can mean all of that, plus ethnic, religious, racial and sexual orientation diversity.

All those groups self segregate. You think the dance and theater group are hanging out with Hockey and football?

Religious... well you go to a church and guess what only 1 religion is there.

[Anonymous]

OP, people like you are the worst. You like to collect other UMC people of different colors so you can tell yourself and others what a great person you are. In reality you would never be friends with the Korean who does your dry cleaning, the Honduran who does your yard work, or even the Ethiopian family who serves you food at your "favorite" Ethiopian restaurant that you go to so you can brag to your friends about how "worldly" you are. What you actually want are UMC people who live in the same size house as you, drive the same cars as you, and send their kids to the same private school as you. Do better!

[Anonymous]

Here’s a thought….choose a college for the quality of education. Trying to engineer some fantasy diversity model is literally absurd. Your child will have to live in the real world eventually and you might want to prepare them to behave like an adult

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Diverse means having different majors, a mix of arts and techies or supporting different ideologies

It can mean all of that, plus ethnic, religious, racial and sexual orientation diversity.

Yes, it can and does mean inclusion of those groups.

but it does NOT include political diversity, in any way, shape, or form!

Does it mean academic and non-academic interests too?

If you have white male friends in college 50% are conservative.

Not at Berkeley.

Or U. of Wisconsin, Madison. Or U. of Oregon. Or Reed. Or Harvard/Yale/Princeton/Columbia. Or U. of GA, Athens. Or UCLA. Or . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re open-minded, you’ll naturally have a group of different friends. Must be exhausting to pigeonhole humans based on their economic, social, or racial classes.

No. If you are raised somewhere that no diverse people live you have no opportunity. Like I don't have any Somalian friends, or Serbian or most my friends are my religion, with interests in my hobbies and live in my state and went to the same schools.



Diversity is pretty hard actually.

You have to actively live in a bubble for that to happen, especially you’re already an adult in college!

Not really. I have 5 friends, I don't want more friends. That is almost too many. How diverse can my friends group really be?

My coworkers are the most diverse group but I'm in IT. If I were a teacher, I'd be surrounded by women. If I worked construction, I'd be surrounded by men. they are not trying to be in a bubble but society has created non-diverse groups.

I’ve always been in a male-dominated field since grad school. But I made plenty of female friends from college, organically. I don’t actively pursue friends based on skin color, but one of my gay best friends happens to be black.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, people like you are the worst. You like to collect other UMC people of different colors so you can tell yourself and others what a great person you are. In reality you would never be friends with the Korean who does your dry cleaning, the Honduran who does your yard work, or even the Ethiopian family who serves you food at your "favorite" Ethiopian restaurant that you go to so you can brag to your friends about how "worldly" you are. What you actually want are UMC people who live in the same size house as you, drive the same cars as you, and send their kids to the same private school as you. Do better!

Exactly. Billie Eilish.
I think the OP is a parody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Diverse means having different majors, a mix of arts and techies or supporting different ideologies

It can mean all of that, plus ethnic, religious, racial and sexual orientation diversity.

Yes, it can and does mean inclusion of those groups.

but it does NOT include political diversity, in any way, shape, or form!

Does it mean academic and non-academic interests too?

If you have white male friends in college 50% are conservative.

Define white

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, people like you are the worst. You like to collect other UMC people of different colors so you can tell yourself and others what a great person you are. In reality you would never be friends with the Korean who does your dry cleaning, the Honduran who does your yard work, or even the Ethiopian family who serves you food at your "favorite" Ethiopian restaurant that you go to so you can brag to your friends about how "worldly" you are. What you actually want are UMC people who live in the same size house as you, drive the same cars as you, and send their kids to the same private school as you. Do better!

I think socializing in college and at home are two different things. At home, you’re income level often defines your social circles. However, in college, disparities in family income levels, although present, are less noticeable when students share the same spaces: dorms, dining halls, classrooms. I guess the OP was asking at what universities are kids more open to mixing/socializing with students of different backgrounds.

At home, if you are UMC, you would have little to no opportunities to socialize with lower income families, no matter their race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, people like you are the worst. You like to collect other UMC people of different colors so you can tell yourself and others what a great person you are. In reality you would never be friends with the Korean who does your dry cleaning, the Honduran who does your yard work, or even the Ethiopian family who serves you food at your "favorite" Ethiopian restaurant that you go to so you can brag to your friends about how "worldly" you are. What you actually want are UMC people who live in the same size house as you, drive the same cars as you, and send their kids to the same private school as you. Do better!

Yep this