How to handle family funeral while in the process of of converting

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Tell your parents it would be sacrilege for you to take communion when you don’t believe in it.
That would be really disrespectful, and they need to realize and accept that fact.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

Is that you OP? Still pretending to be a lapsed Catholic?

No I am not OP. I just happen to have family that would conceivably try to pull something similar. OP has gotten the advice she needed about how to be discreet. Now everyone is piling onto her because of some misguided (and wholly misinformed) view about Catholicism.

I’ll leave you with this - trying to pressure a Jew to take communion is a very bad look!

Interesting that this is where you draw the line, and it’s not a bad look to be a selfish ass at a child’s funeral by making an issue of taking or not taking Communion. OP isn’t content to just cross her arms to get a blessing and claims she never even knew that existed. Really? Which is complete BS because it’s what every child does until First Communion. Which just makes it more obvoius OP is trolling.

I think the people insisting a JEW take communion (or any one at all) are the a-holes in this scenario.

So if you identify as a Jew you are a Jew? What would your rabbi say to that?

Do you think this is a convincing line of argument? Because it is not. At all.

OP has not converted. So what does that make her?

Well is definitely makes her someone that the *Church* would say should not take communion.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

Is that you OP? Still pretending to be a lapsed Catholic?

No I am not OP. I just happen to have family that would conceivably try to pull something similar. OP has gotten the advice she needed about how to be discreet. Now everyone is piling onto her because of some misguided (and wholly misinformed) view about Catholicism.

I’ll leave you with this - trying to pressure a Jew to take communion is a very bad look!

Interesting that this is where you draw the line, and it’s not a bad look to be a selfish ass at a child’s funeral by making an issue of taking or not taking Communion. OP isn’t content to just cross her arms to get a blessing and claims she never even knew that existed. Really? Which is complete BS because it’s what every child does until First Communion. Which just makes it more obvoius OP is trolling.

I think the people insisting a JEW take communion (or any one at all) are the a-holes in this scenario.

So if you identify as a Jew you are a Jew? What would your rabbi say to that?

Do you think this is a convincing line of argument? Because it is not. At all.

OP has not converted. So what does that make her?

Well is definitely makes her someone that the *Church* would say should not take communion.

And what if she did? You know nothing bad actually happens, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

Is that you OP? Still pretending to be a lapsed Catholic?

No I am not OP. I just happen to have family that would conceivably try to pull something similar. OP has gotten the advice she needed about how to be discreet. Now everyone is piling onto her because of some misguided (and wholly misinformed) view about Catholicism.

I’ll leave you with this - trying to pressure a Jew to take communion is a very bad look!

Interesting that this is where you draw the line, and it’s not a bad look to be a selfish ass at a child’s funeral by making an issue of taking or not taking Communion. OP isn’t content to just cross her arms to get a blessing and claims she never even knew that existed. Really? Which is complete BS because it’s what every child does until First Communion. Which just makes it more obvoius OP is trolling.

I think the people insisting a JEW take communion (or any one at all) are the a-holes in this scenario.

So if you identify as a Jew you are a Jew? What would your rabbi say to that?

Do you think this is a convincing line of argument? Because it is not. At all.

OP has not converted. So what does that make her?

Well is definitely makes her someone that the *Church* would say should not take communion.

And what if she did? You know nothing bad actually happens, right?

Why are you pressuring someone who’s own religion AND the other religion don’t want to do a ritual, to do the ritual? Very weird.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

Is that you OP? Still pretending to be a lapsed Catholic?

No I am not OP. I just happen to have family that would conceivably try to pull something similar. OP has gotten the advice she needed about how to be discreet. Now everyone is piling onto her because of some misguided (and wholly misinformed) view about Catholicism.

I’ll leave you with this - trying to pressure a Jew to take communion is a very bad look!

Interesting that this is where you draw the line, and it’s not a bad look to be a selfish ass at a child’s funeral by making an issue of taking or not taking Communion. OP isn’t content to just cross her arms to get a blessing and claims she never even knew that existed. Really? Which is complete BS because it’s what every child does until First Communion. Which just makes it more obvoius OP is trolling.

I think the people insisting a JEW take communion (or any one at all) are the a-holes in this scenario.

So if you identify as a Jew you are a Jew? What would your rabbi say to that?

Do you think this is a convincing line of argument? Because it is not. At all.

OP has not converted. So what does that make her?

Well is definitely makes her someone that the *Church* would say should not take communion.

And what if she did? You know nothing bad actually happens, right?

Why are you pressuring someone who’s own religion AND the other religion don’t want to do a ritual, to do the ritual? Very weird.

Not upsetting your family on a horrible tragic day > swallowing a dry wafer

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

Is that you OP? Still pretending to be a lapsed Catholic?

No I am not OP. I just happen to have family that would conceivably try to pull something similar. OP has gotten the advice she needed about how to be discreet. Now everyone is piling onto her because of some misguided (and wholly misinformed) view about Catholicism.

I’ll leave you with this - trying to pressure a Jew to take communion is a very bad look!

Interesting that this is where you draw the line, and it’s not a bad look to be a selfish ass at a child’s funeral by making an issue of taking or not taking Communion. OP isn’t content to just cross her arms to get a blessing and claims she never even knew that existed. Really? Which is complete BS because it’s what every child does until First Communion. Which just makes it more obvoius OP is trolling.

I think the people insisting a JEW take communion (or any one at all) are the a-holes in this scenario.

So if you identify as a Jew you are a Jew? What would your rabbi say to that?

Do you think this is a convincing line of argument? Because it is not. At all.

OP has not converted. So what does that make her?

Well is definitely makes her someone that the *Church* would say should not take communion.

And what if she did? You know nothing bad actually happens, right?

Why are you pressuring someone who’s own religion AND the other religion don’t want to do a ritual, to do the ritual? Very weird.

Not upsetting your family on a horrible tragic day > swallowing a dry wafer

The ones choosing to upset the family in this scenario are the parents/ops mom. It is important to realize here that OP is also part of the family and also grieving - she has the right not to be unduly pressured in this respect. Her responsibility is to be discreet and to not enter into any discussion about it. Boundaries. OP has a right not to have someone do this to her at a funeral.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

Is that you OP? Still pretending to be a lapsed Catholic?

No I am not OP. I just happen to have family that would conceivably try to pull something similar. OP has gotten the advice she needed about how to be discreet. Now everyone is piling onto her because of some misguided (and wholly misinformed) view about Catholicism.

I’ll leave you with this - trying to pressure a Jew to take communion is a very bad look!

Interesting that this is where you draw the line, and it’s not a bad look to be a selfish ass at a child’s funeral by making an issue of taking or not taking Communion. OP isn’t content to just cross her arms to get a blessing and claims she never even knew that existed. Really? Which is complete BS because it’s what every child does until First Communion. Which just makes it more obvoius OP is trolling.

I think the people insisting a JEW take communion (or any one at all) are the a-holes in this scenario.

So if you identify as a Jew you are a Jew? What would your rabbi say to that?

Do you think this is a convincing line of argument? Because it is not. At all.

OP has not converted. So what does that make her?

Well is definitely makes her someone that the *Church* would say should not take communion.

And what if she did? You know nothing bad actually happens, right?

Why are you pressuring someone who’s own religion AND the other religion don’t want to do a ritual, to do the ritual? Very weird.

Not upsetting your family on a horrible tragic day > swallowing a dry wafer

The ones choosing to upset the family in this scenario are the parents/ops mom. It is important to realize here that OP is also part of the family and also grieving - she has the right not to be unduly pressured in this respect. Her responsibility is to be discreet and to not enter into any discussion about it. Boundaries. OP has a right not to have someone do this to her at a funeral.

OP doesn’t sound that broken up if this is her big concern. If she can’t handle being at the funeral Mass just sitting it out at home is an option too. Why she’s let it get to this point without even discussing with famiy is anyone’s guess.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

As some have picked up, I am trying to strike a balance between two religious worlds, while also trying to be respectful to my sister most especially during this incredibly difficult time for her.

Unfortunately my parents, specifically my mother has done exactly what someone else said, like "so and so didn't get communion" and "they are C&E Catholics" and totally judge them for it all.

So I hate that I have to think this way to try and ward off my own mother and father..

I do plan to go up with arms crossed because I feel as though sitting back in the pew would be much more glaring and would probably incite questioning later.

Oh spare us the “strike a balance between two religious worlds” pseudo sanctimonious bullshit. You don’t care about the religious aspect about this at all. You just wanna stick it in the eye of your mother.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

It is not a bit of unleavened bread. To a believer, it is the literal body of Christ. You may not believe in that, but many Catholics have died to protect it. It isn’t something you disrespect because your mom is pushy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

As some have picked up, I am trying to strike a balance between two religious worlds, while also trying to be respectful to my sister most especially during this incredibly difficult time for her.

Unfortunately my parents, specifically my mother has done exactly what someone else said, like "so and so didn't get communion" and "they are C&E Catholics" and totally judge them for it all.

So I hate that I have to think this way to try and ward off my own mother and father..

I do plan to go up with arms crossed because I feel as though sitting back in the pew would be much more glaring and would probably incite questioning later.

Oh spare us the “strike a balance between two religious worlds” pseudo sanctimonious bullshit. You don’t care about the religious aspect about this at all. You just wanna stick it in the eye of your mother.

OP here.

Dude, respectfully STEP OFF.

You have this delusion that I'm all about trying to get back at my mother. And that's why I'm converting and that's why I'm gonna make a SCENE at my niece's funeral..

GTFO and go harass someone else..

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

It is not a bit of unleavened bread. To a believer, it is the literal body of Christ. You may not believe in that, but many Catholics have died to protect it. It isn’t something you disrespect because your mom is pushy.

To a non believer it isn’t. But as OP is a baptized Catholic, she will always be Catholic in the eyes of the Church. Most Catholics aren’t as staunch adherents as you’re making them out to be and often take Communion when they shouldn’t.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

I guess you don’t understand what it is like to be someone who actually takes religion seriously. Catholic communion is not something you do to be polite, like using the right fork. It’s a big deal.

I’m pretty sure everyone would understand. Unless you think God is vengeful and petty.

You think forcing a Jew to take Communion is OK? Seriously? Are you listening to yourself? (Not OP btw). Yes God would understand. No, unless you literally fancy yourself the Grand Inquisitor, do you have the right to force that on someone.

OP isn’t a Jew.

OP is in the middle of converting to Judaism AND actual Catholic rules would not permit her to take communion.

So, not a Jew. Got it. And these rules are not as cut and dry as you pretending.

Keep digging that hole.

Is that you OP? Still pretending to be a lapsed Catholic?

No I am not OP. I just happen to have family that would conceivably try to pull something similar. OP has gotten the advice she needed about how to be discreet. Now everyone is piling onto her because of some misguided (and wholly misinformed) view about Catholicism.

I’ll leave you with this - trying to pressure a Jew to take communion is a very bad look!

Interesting that this is where you draw the line, and it’s not a bad look to be a selfish ass at a child’s funeral by making an issue of taking or not taking Communion. OP isn’t content to just cross her arms to get a blessing and claims she never even knew that existed. Really? Which is complete BS because it’s what every child does until First Communion. Which just makes it more obvoius OP is trolling.

I think the people insisting a JEW take communion (or any one at all) are the a-holes in this scenario.

So if you identify as a Jew you are a Jew? What would your rabbi say to that?

Do you think this is a convincing line of argument? Because it is not. At all.

OP has not converted. So what does that make her?

Well is definitely makes her someone that the *Church* would say should not take communion.

And what if she did? You know nothing bad actually happens, right?

Why are you pressuring someone who’s own religion AND the other religion don’t want to do a ritual, to do the ritual? Very weird.

Not upsetting your family on a horrible tragic day > swallowing a dry wafer

The ones choosing to upset the family in this scenario are the parents/ops mom. It is important to realize here that OP is also part of the family and also grieving - she has the right not to be unduly pressured in this respect. Her responsibility is to be discreet and to not enter into any discussion about it. Boundaries. OP has a right not to have someone do this to her at a funeral.

OP doesn’t sound that broken up if this is her big concern. If she can’t handle being at the funeral Mass just sitting it out at home is an option too. Why she’s let it get to this point without even discussing with famiy is anyone’s guess.

Because her family is batsh*t and talking about it in advance would be the worst thing she could do. Just be happy that you cannot relate.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

It is not a bit of unleavened bread. To a believer, it is the literal body of Christ. You may not believe in that, but many Catholics have died to protect it. It isn’t something you disrespect because your mom is pushy.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

It is not a bit of unleavened bread. To a believer, it is the literal body of Christ. You may not believe in that, but many Catholics have died to protect it. It isn’t something you disrespect because your mom is pushy.

To a non believer it isn’t. But as OP is a baptized Catholic, she will always be Catholic in the eyes of the Church. Most Catholics aren’t as staunch adherents as you’re making them out to be and often take Communion when they shouldn’t.

Not OP and she has an additional reason not to take it. “taking communion to make people happy” is not a thing embraced by Catholicism.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you didn’t convert in support of the genocide.

I think the conversion is likely a childish rebellion to stick it to her family. If this was my sibling, about to use my kid’s funeral to pull an attention grabbing stunt, I would hire security to bar her from entering the church. Not today, the day of my child’s funeral to act out like this.

OP here. I owe you nothing about why I'm converting. You know nothing about my desire to. But spoiler alert, it has nothing to do with "sticking it to my family." What a weird take.

And you seem SO confident I'm going to get up on the altar and talk about myself that you'd probably bet on it.

Well, let me know when you do so I can make a counter bet. You are the odd one, friend..

NP. You are conducting yourself very oddly for someone who has a close relative with a dead toddler. It's almost enough for us to suspect trolling.

Does that mean she should be forced to take communion? Let’s stick to the subject.

It’s a small sacrifice given the loss her family is enduring. It’s a bit of unleavened bread. But if’s curious that suddenly it’s a big issue when OP says she hasn’t been practicing for years.

It is not a bit of unleavened bread. To a believer, it is the literal body of Christ. You may not believe in that, but many Catholics have died to protect it. It isn’t something you disrespect because your mom is pushy.

To a non believer it isn’t. But as OP is a baptized Catholic, she will always be Catholic in the eyes of the Church. Most Catholics aren’t as staunch adherents as you’re making them out to be and often take Communion when they shouldn’t.

Not OP and she has an additional reason not to take it. “taking communion to make people happy” is not a thing embraced by Catholicism.

As a parent, my thoughts are much more with the parents of the little girl. I would do whatever necessary to not burden my sister and her family on this day. I guess others feel differently.