Which of these women is 'doing better'?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only correct answer is “which one is happier?”

You can’t measure life by stats.

Both sound pretty happy to me.
I make way less and happy enough.

[Anonymous]

B

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever silly hypotheticals come up there is no shortage of *third option" answers. Why not say I'll take option 3 where I am paid 10 million a year to oversee a 100 million a year charity where I decide how its spent and I work as much as I need to splitting time between several homes in amazing locations. I mean if youre going to go off on a fantasy tangent, pick what you'd really want, unless that is actually what you'd really want.

I think you’re missing the point about this comparison that it shows many women would accept bringing in 50% of the income in order not to have to work.
Imagine this question asked to men. Would be very few and far between that someone would say the man whose wife is making $500k while he stays home is ‘doing better’ than the man making $1m.
We still live in some sexist times

DP I think it would be a more interesting comparison if you changed the HHIs to $250/$500k. I said I’d rather be A in the original hypothetical, but maybe not this one.

[Anonymous]

B

[Anonymous]

god this is so messsed up that it is a question
unless you really want to not be a SAHP or think your DH wuold be terrible at it, in which case just ask that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only correct answer is “which one is happier?”

You can’t measure life by stats.

Well you kind of can - hence why salaries exist

[Anonymous]

The one who is happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever silly hypotheticals come up there is no shortage of *third option" answers. Why not say I'll take option 3 where I am paid 10 million a year to oversee a 100 million a year charity where I decide how its spent and I work as much as I need to splitting time between several homes in amazing locations. I mean if youre going to go off on a fantasy tangent, pick what you'd really want, unless that is actually what you'd really want.

I think you’re missing the point about this comparison that it shows many women would accept bringing in 50% of the income in order not to have to work.
Imagine this question asked to men. Would be very few and far between that someone would say the man whose wife is making $500k while he stays home is ‘doing better’ than the man making $1m.
We still live in some sexist times

DP I think it would be a more interesting comparison if you changed the HHIs to $250/$500k. I said I’d rather be A in the original hypothetical, but maybe not this one.

Depends. $250k but with a house purchased long ago, or $250k but young at the beginning of a career with a lot of upward trajectory - either of these would be just fine to SAH.

[Anonymous]

Option 3, SAHM, DH makes $1mm

[Anonymous]

C. Woman making 1m and married and permanently childfree.😀

[Anonymous]

B.
For obvious reasons. 😉

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been a SAHM for 15 years. I am very happy. I don't regret not working in an office, totally stressed out, gaining weight and losing my mind and patience. Peace is priceless. You can spend the bulk of your days working for the man, I'll build my family and have a few successful, deep relationships with people.

You’re not wrong, and I think being stay at home mom is an incredibly important role, but do you share the bolded sentiment with your husband? (Presuming your financial security comes from his earned income and not from something like a trust.)

Like, do you make it clear to him that you think working for “the man” makes someone a bit of a chump?

I’ve always wondered about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Option 3, SAHM, DH makes $1mm

That’s purposefully not an option dummy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been a SAHM for 15 years. I am very happy. I don't regret not working in an office, totally stressed out, gaining weight and losing my mind and patience. Peace is priceless. You can spend the bulk of your days working for the man, I'll build my family and have a few successful, deep relationships with people.

You’re not wrong, and I think being stay at home mom is an incredibly important role, but do you share the bolded sentiment with your husband? (Presuming your financial security comes from his earned income and not from something like a trust.)

Like, do you make it clear to him that you think working for “the man” makes someone a bit of a chump?

I’ve always wondered about this.

No pp is just quietly grateful that their dh is willing to have a worse life so she can have coffee with Kim at 11am on a weds and talk about menopause

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been a SAHM for 15 years. I am very happy. I don't regret not working in an office, totally stressed out, gaining weight and losing my mind and patience. Peace is priceless. You can spend the bulk of your days working for the man, I'll build my family and have a few successful, deep relationships with people.

You’re not wrong, and I think being stay at home mom is an incredibly important role, but do you share the bolded sentiment with your husband? (Presuming your financial security comes from his earned income and not from something like a trust.)

Like, do you make it clear to him that you think working for “the man” makes someone a bit of a chump?

I’ve always wondered about this.

No pp is just quietly grateful that their dh is willing to have a worse life so she can have coffee with Kim at 11am on a weds and talk about menopause

500k is a great life. Hope you can feel what it’s like one day!